am I silly to be upset?

Mrs.W_2

meritaten wrote: »

I think people are taking my post wrong!
I do NOT think my DIL deliberately tried to upset me! however, I think she was thoughtless! She KNOWS I always try to go to the grandkids nativities - I probably hold the world record on attending them! Ive even attended grandkids nativities where I was desperately trying to translate the language in my head fast enough to understand whats going on!

There is NO limit on tickets - I hope that is established!

Yes, I am miffed! DIL could have ASKED me if I wanted to go! I ASSUMED she would want me to go!

my other DIL (the ditzy one) automatically gets me a ticket! without asking if I can go!

Am I silly for feeling miffed? well, silly or not - I am!
Feel better now.............I have owned up to feeling miffed and whether its justified or not - bu99er it! thats HOW I FEEL!

Absolutely off topic, but the above reminded me of the character Nanny Ogg.

mummyroysof3

your not silly to be upset but maybe a little in not saying something when you had the opurtunity to instead of stewing over it..hope you managed to sort it out and go

Sallyjane

I hope you've managed to get this sorted.
I don't think you're being silly, I too, would be upset.
You're a big part of your grandchildrens lives, and want to share in these concerts.
It's nice to see grandparents that care.

Sallyjane

Teenie_D

Aww I too think your DIL was being thoughtless but I don't think she was being mean on purpose (or at least I hope she wasn't!) and I can totally understand why you would be hurt.

Like the others said maybe she was waiting for you to say you wanted to go along and maybe didn't think you were interested, LOL maybe she is sitting this morning in a mood/upset because she doesn't think you want to go . I understand it was hard for you to just come out and say "am I not coming? where's my ticket" you were maybe just taken aback at the time? Anyway hopefully you will get it sorted out and your DIL will think the next time (and to be honest it has made me think about my MIL and how I really should aks her if she wants to come to my wee ones nativity......drat!:p:D).

magenta22

Haven't read the whole thread properly so apologies if something has already been said.

Firstly, I do think you were wrong to assume she would get you a ticket. How come you have only just heard about the play? If your sister's children were at the school last year you would know that they hold one roughly at this time, do you speak to the other mums/grandparents at the school in the playground? Seems strange no-one mentioned it at all.

Why don't you go into the school and ask if there are still tickets available and then say to your DIL that you hope she doesn't mind but you heard about it and would like to see the play and you got yourself a ticket.

I don't know, why dont' families just talk to each other rather than just stewing on something so trivial?!

Birdy12

meritaten wrote: »

I think people are taking my post wrong!
I do NOT think my DIL deliberately tried to upset me! however, I think she was thoughtless! She KNOWS I always try to go to the grandkids nativities - I probably hold the world record on attending them! Ive even attended grandkids nativities where I was desperately trying to translate the language in my head fast enough to understand whats going on!

There is NO limit on tickets - I hope that is established!

Yes, I am miffed! DIL could have ASKED me if I wanted to go! I ASSUMED she would want me to go!

my other DIL (the ditzy one) automatically gets me a ticket! without asking if I can go!

Am I silly for feeling miffed? well, silly or not - I am!
Feel better now.............I have owned up to feeling miffed and whether its justified or not - bu99er it! thats HOW I FEEL!

Well, why didn't you say this in your first post instead of !!!!!-footing around?

The only one who's going to give you the answer is your DIL. So ask her.

Alternatively, you could always get your own ticket, turn up to the nativity, feign a look of surprise and say 'fancy seeing you here'...


EDIT: Oh! Didn't realise the word p***y would be censored!

pulliptears

From my POV both of my children were frequently looked after by Nana's (and Grandads!) and whenever an event like this came up I would always ask both sets of Grandparents if they wanted to come along. Usually Grandads made their excuses and I'd go along with Mum and Mum In Law.
Have to say it does seem a bit strange to imagine that I would never have asked both sets of Grandparents, and to me it does seem a bit thoughtless. I can understand why you are feeling hurt OP.

Hopefully it's all sorted for you now though.

sashadesade

I can see why you feel put out, it was a bit silly of her not to think of you when buying tickets. It sounds like you have a fairly good relationship with her though, so just having a word about whether there's a chance she could get a ticket for you should suffice. Also maybe make a point of saying how much you enjoy the school plays and would hate to miss one, it might make it stick in her mind next time one comes around.

Abbafan1972

I hope you got to see your DGS. Although I do think that you should have said at the time, or even called her to ask, rather than spending time on here worrying about it.

So they charge for tickets? That is really not on! :mad: At our school I don't think there's any limit on how many can attend.

balletshoes

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

I hope you got to see your DGS. Although I do think that you should have said at the time, or even called her to ask, rather than spending time on here worrying about it.

So they charge for tickets? That is really not on! :mad: At our school I don't think there's any limit on how many can attend.

they've always charged for the christmas production at my daughter's school - £1 a ticket. Its the only one (of many) school performances throughout the year that the school charges ticket admission for, and the money goes into the school funds for materials, art supplies etc to use for making masks/costumes etc for future performances.