am I silly to be upset?

Lotus-eater

When she mentioned that her Mum was going to the nativity, why didn't you say then about her getting you a ticket?
You've been a bit silly and left it almost too late.

Ring her now, explain you forgot to ask her to get you a ticket and could she sort it out today as you would love to come.

Don't mention anything else. Time to put your grandson first and your feelings second.

doodoot

Oh she's been well rude.

If she has got a ticket for her mother, there was nothing stopping her from either getting one for you or RINGING you to ask if you wanted one.

If I was you I would ring the school and ask if it's OK to turn up and get a ticket on the door...tell them you've only just been told and would like to watch your DGS.

If DIL and her mum act uncomfortable then let em...I think it's god awful that neither one of them told you about it! :mad:

lime1996

My son's school only allow two tickets per child in total.

peachyprice

Ah Meri, I would be miffed too. You do a lot for her, it doesn't take a minute to check whether you can/want to go to let you know how appreciated you are.

Is there a slim possibility that she thought you may have already got your own ticket?

elvis86

Total mountain out of a molehill.:cool:

I don't think you're silly for being upset at the prospect of missing your grandson's Nativity, but I do think you've been silly not to just ask your DIL, and even sillier to wind yourself up about it and get cross with her.

As someone else said, in much the same way as you assumed that she would get you a ticket as that's what your other DIL has always done, perhaps she assumed you would say if you wanted to attend? Maybe her mum specifically asked to attend, else DIL wouldn't have thought to get her a ticket either?

Perhaps she felt that as you give up enough time to help her out as it is, asking you to attend the Nativity may have meant you felt guilt-tripped into giving up another afternoon to attend (maybe she doesn't appreciate how important it is to you).

If people just spoke to each other a little more so much upset could be avoided!

elvis86

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Sorry but she is being a little mean and very rude.

What would happen if you turned round and said 'well, I DID think you appreciated my free childcare but you snubbed me on DGS's nativity yesterday so I am reviewing the situation'?

Um, the OP would probably be seen to be totally overreacting, her DIL would be offended and a completely unneccesary and hurtful rift could open up in the family, meaning that contact with her son, DIL and grandson becomes compromised?

Honestly, why would you urge someone to be so confrontational with family about what is, in all likelihood, a harmless misunderstanding?!

MoaningMyrtle

How did it go Meritaten? Could you say something along the lines of 'Can I/Shall I get a ticket on the door'? 'Can you save me a seat next to you?' 'Have you got me a ticket or shall I get one'?

Hope it gets sorted, does sound a bit mean to leave you out.

balletshoes

OP are you still feeling upset today? Hope you manage to sort out a ticket and get to see your DGS on stage .

picnmix

Maybe your DIL just assumed you were going, if she only mentioned her mum going in passing to you, then she may well of thought that as you always go you would be going this time, especially as there is no limit on tickets. My DD had her nativity this week, 2 tickets issued so myself and DH went on Moday, my mum, who provides childcare around my hours went yesterday, as my mum was dropping off little one off to be in the play, not normally her day to go to nursery, she just stayed and watched, nobody said a thing. However I did chat to my mum and suggest she did this, but in all honesty she would have sorted it herself anyway as she goes to the nursery so much for pick ups and drop offs.

I understand you feel miffed, but hope you have gone today and enjoyed the play x

aliasojo

Hope it all gets sorted out Meritaten, but if not you can always come and see my girl instead. Preferably instead of me, I'm dreadng sitting for hours watching teenagers who can't sing, sing. It was all so much more do-able when they were still wee and cute. :rotfl:

Just a joke folks! Of course I will be there will bells on.

Yes DIL was a tad thoughtless and yes I'd be a bit hurt too.