Sick of being taken the !!!! out of

top_drawer_2

Hello,

Your post sounds like something I could have written a few years ago. The answer is that you need to gain some control back for yourself. No situation will ever be perfect - rented housing always comes with issues, jobs are usually not well paid - but it will be better than the one you are in at the moment.

Have a look on spareroom.co.uk and consider moving out of the area where you are currently. I did and am considering doing it again shortly with a view to going to a bigger/better city where there is more chance of work I want.

I will follow this thread closely - if I think of anything else which may help I will add it.

All the best,

MH

Lara44

Agree with the others that you need to move out. I know I would find living with my parents challenging to say the least!

Having a big rant is a great way to get everything out of your system - but you must move on to taking constructive steps to change your life. Don't get overwhelmed by the 'big picture'. You need to sit down and think about what life you'd really like and then break those down into manageable goals.

If the big goal is working with horses then plan next year to do the management course you were talking about. Buy a bike, locks and helmet with the £200. Cycling is bliss and you will love being out and about without the cost of fares. Exercise will help with the stress and keep you fit and healthy. (I am a bit biased because I love cycling ).

On the job front, if you can't get a job in your chosen field then you need to start casting your net wider and trying for anything and everything. Really put your all into getting your CV done. Get some advice on it, get some friends to help you out with interview preparation. You CAN do it, try everything you can to give you an edge. Hopefully getting a job would mean you were able to get your own place, which I think would help you enormously. How much do you want rid of this stress with your family? Channel all those feelings towards getting a job and saving a deposit.

When you're sorted you can look at doing some voluntary work experience that will help with your CV. Even if there are no stables recruiting could you ask the management to help you look over your CV / interview stuff in exchange for a bit of voluntary work? Go for it!!

Lara44

P.S. Why don't you start a diary here to keep track of your achievements? No-one is going to sort out your life except you. But that doesn't mean you won't have help, you can have a lot of fun along the way. :beer: Hope you're feeling a bit better this afternoon.

lostinrates

OP, rather than a management course at college if you want to work practically with horses a live in working pupil role somewhere you can do your BHS or ABRS exams (probably the former as they hav greater recognition) should be possible. Have you applied for any of these sorts of roles? Consider going to a yard outside your discipline of primary interest to keep your search broad

LisaB85

How do I do a diary on here? x

LisaB85

lostinrates wrote: »

OP, rather than a management course at college if you want to work practically with horses a live in working pupil role somewhere you can do your BHS or ABRS exams (probably the former as they hav greater recognition) should be possible. Have you applied for any of these sorts of roles? Consider going to a yard outside your discipline of primary interest to keep your search broad

Could I do that at my age? I'm 26, I tried to get onto an apprentice type course a couple of years ago but because I was 25 at the end of the first year I wasn't eligible and would have to be paid min wage.

The yard I use is BHS approved and have been told I could pretty much walk into and do my stage 1 right now.

I'm not keen on jumping if I'm honest though, I like dressage so I assume a competition yard wouldn't be for me.

lostinrates

LisaB85 wrote: »

Could I do that at my age? I'm 26, I tried to get onto an apprentice type course a couple of years ago but because I was 25 at the end of the first year I wasn't eligible and would have to be paid min wage.

The yard I use is BHS approved and have been told I could pretty much walk into and do my stage 1 right now.

I'm not keen on jumping if I'm honest though, I like dressage so I assume a competition yard wouldn't be for me.

yes. You could do it at any age. But think long and hard about it: you're looking at a life of fairly low paid work and no mod cons. It might sound fun at 25, but at 55 with inevitable injuris and creaky joints mucking out at 6 a and struggling ith bales and feed shifting and no pension to look forard too...and a retireent age of 67 now for a state pension, fancy carrying bales in the snow at 67?...its a very tough choice IMO for a career.

to do a horse collge course you need to be starting at a comfortble stage 2 level really and ould have to jump I think as part of the riding part (you used to have to) and it will be BHS exam focused along side the other qualifiction in anycase.

ABRS exams I think has a way you can avoid jumping, but not as well recognised. I can't quite remember atm butstage 2 is only 2 foot six or nine,and stage three is a foot higher, (I think its 3 ft 6) so not big jumps to that stage.

lizzielondon

McKneff wrote: »

To be honest, youre coming over like a spoiled brat.

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I think this is a bit harsh- I thought that at first but once I'd read the entire post properly I don't think that's quite right

I think the OP has obviously has a very stressful weekend and everything has blown up a bit and she is feeling unappreciated and worried about her future

Everyone is allowed to rant now and again

(OP I don't have any constructive advice, but just wanted to say hope you feel better soon and things aren't always as huge as they seem )

Lara44

Lisa - have a look at some of the diaries on the Debt Free Wannabee board, and the Mortgage Free Wannabee board. I think there are one or two diary threads here on this forum? Then you just start a new thread, first post a bit about yourself, then keep a record of how you're going

Caroline_a

When my kids were young we had horses, plus I worked with some stables both riding and training yards. The yardstick at that time was the BHS AI (Assistant Instructor) qualification, but it's a long while since I looked at it. There are some details here http://www.bhs.org.uk/Training_and_Qualifications/BHS_Examinations_and_Qualifications/Stage_3/Syllabus.aspx and although it's gone NVQ/assessment style, the syllabus is still pretty comprehensive.

Yes there will be riding, but have a look at it, OP, as unless you can get to a similar standard then it will be difficult to progress much further than the basic horse care that lostinrates described.