Sick of being taken the !!!! out of

Blackpool_Saver

I would love to SEE my Dad, I wouldn't want a penny off him.

LisaB85

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Pushbike? They show up on Freecycle quite often.

(I am trying to help, not criticise, and I do know that when people are young, they do tend to fix on just one way of doing things, just because they haven't had experience of looking at things from different angles - if the issue is to get out the house, then anything is acceptable, such as working in pubs or hotels, all just to get out whilst you get on with looking for your perfect job)

I have been looking for a bike, not found one yet though. Maybe after Christmas when people get new ones for Christmas?

I have done pub work, I live in a small village and my last bus back leaves town at 11pm and most pubs require working until 12ish so need one local to me as I wouldn't feel safe cycling 6 miles in the middle of the night

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

LisaB85 wrote: »

My Nan and Aunts are fed up too, my mum has arthritis and complains about it yet my Nan is 70 needs a knee replacement and also has arthritis but works 20-30 hours a week and thinks nothing of walking 20 minutes to the doctors in the winter. She has tried to explain to my Mum that remaining active to some degree helps and I'll vouch for that, I will still ride on Tuesday and muck out even if I still feel ill because fresh air is brilliant for making you feel better.

On the other hand, osteoarthritis 'just' affects the joint itself. Lupus, RA and the inflammatory conditions do affect the entire body. So I wouldn't be too free with making that sort of dismissive remark if I were you. They are completely different conditions. If your Nan has a knee replacement, it is, to some extent, sorted for the rest of her life. If your mum had every joint in her body replaced so she resembled a terminator, she still wouldn't be any better, as it is a COMPLETELY different condition.

Person_one

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

I would love to SEE my Dad, I wouldn't want a penny off him.

I hate this kind of guilt tripping, not everybody has the same wonderful parents!

Did your dad stab people?

the_cat

You would definately have options to work with horses and live in. I used to work at a riding stables and live in accomodation was available to all trainees. Transport to the town centre was limited without a car but as there were a few trainees together a taxi shared was an option, or a lift from someone with transport was often available for a share in petrol costs. Look at the British Horse Society website for approved training centres as a starting point

Desperado99

I remember my mum and I being at each other's throats until I moved out to go to uni... I think it's part of the territory. However, it's one thing doing stuff for your mum, but quite another being expected to do your sister's stuff for her.

But, I think meeting your Dad to get your xmas money is only right. For £200 I'd just grin and bear it.

I think you'll feel better about your lot when you get over your cold and get a bit more sleep

Judith_W

Hun, just to say things can look a lot more bleak if you're feeling really under the weather. I agree looking for any live-in job. Are you eligible for any job seekers benefits, TBH if you are, even though I can understand you not wanting to rely on them, you could save up for taxi to interviews and other costs that might make things easier to get out.

LisaB85

Bunting wrote: »

I remember my mum and I being at each other's throats until I moved out to go to uni... I think it's part of the territory. However, it's one thing doing stuff for your mum, but quite another being expected to do your sister's stuff for her.

But, I think meeting your Dad to get your xmas money is only right. For £200 I'd just grin and bear it.

I think you'll feel better about your lot when you get over your cold and get a bit more sleep

I didn't do my sisters stuff for her I'm a cow and refused to, I hoovered my room but left the hoover upstairs and told her it was there. She never did hoover her room.

As for the duvet cover when my mum was away I showed her how to start it off but left her to it.

Then the cooking, I did check things for her but I didn't keep running to help her. I taught myself to cook by reading instructions and making mistakes (some rather minging mistakes ) but I for one won't baby my sister. She is 19 and can't see why she doesn't want to stand on her own feet.

I hope it is just a cold, I have quite a good immune system to do get over them quickly but the pain in my chest is worrying me most and the fact my head feels like it is going to explode.

Judith_W

What would have happened with the compost lid if you had just said, 'I'm feeling really ill and you will have to wait until I feel better for me to get it off for you, otherwise you can try it again yourself'?

Just wondering whether being a bit less willing to do things might mean they start to rely on you less, or whether you would just be seen as a trouble-maker?

meritaten

you have pain in your chest and feel your heads going to explode? sweety, ring NHS direct for advice. chest pain is NEVER good! esp in a young person.
Please? to set my mind at rest - will you ring them now?
It may take a while for a call back from an NHS nurse if they are busy - but I am going to stay here until you post back! I am worried about you!