Neighbour finds our christmas lights "annoying"...

bestpud

Welshwoofs wrote: »

I agree Marisco!

I'd advocate all those who don't like these new wave of Christmas Decorations to put up a few inflatable sex dolls on their front lawn...little bit of tinsel, a Santa hat and some fairy lights just to make them festive. Kiddies will love them. Hey, many of them even have a choice of holes to stick a cracker in!

After all, it's only for the month of December and everyone loves a 'Suzy love to suck doll' don't they!

Well, we'd laugh at them! :rotfl:

Marisco

Welshwoofs wrote: »

I agree Marisco!

I'd advocate all those who don't like these new wave of Christmas Decorations to put up a few inflatable sex dolls on their front lawn...little bit of tinsel, a Santa hat and some fairy lights just to make them festive. Kiddies will love them. Hey, many of them even have a choice of holes to stick a cracker in!

After all, it's only for the month of December and everyone loves a 'Suzy love to suck doll' don't they!

:rotfl:Aye, I should have possibly said "put up with it"

Cat501

seriousDFW wrote: »

The attitude of 'suck it up' MAY be appropriate here, but also it may be very mean. The lights could be causing distress, and so telling someone to suck it up is not fair.

How would you feel if I moved next door to you and for one month a year, every night between 6pm and 10pm, I blasted dance music at the top of my stereo's volume? It's only for 3/4 weeks so you'd happily suck it up?

Everyone has a right to enjoy their home in a peaceful environment, and neighbours' lights have the potential to take this away.

But said neighbour plays loud opera music at 6am, a time most people would know perfectly well was unreasonable without someone having to actually come and complain about it! She's far from a paragon of consideration by the sound of it. To me it seems that everything has to be HER way, eg because she's up early, she expects everyone else to be, because she doesn't want people taking their rubbish out at 9pm (!), everyone has to jump to her demands and do it at a time that suits her - not them!
Unless they are her former lodgers of course:p

Welshwoofs

bestpud49083459 wrote:

Christmas lights have been called tacky .

Erm - what's wrong with Christmas lights being called tacky and how is that an attack on the Op? I think pink fluffy car accessories are tacky - so would that be a personal attack on someone reading who had their car decked out in pink fluffy !!!!!!?

I've not actually commented on the Op's light display or anything else the Op has said, but on the general issue of outdoor Christmas light displays. But now I will....

....it seems to me that if the Op has had her lights up for years without comment from the neighbour but now she's said something, perhaps there is a problem that warrants further investigation. It could be a legitimate issue or it could be she was having a bad hair day, but whatever it is you can guarantee that she won't find the answer here

seriousDFW

Cat501 wrote: »

But said neighbour plays loud opera music at 6am, a time most people would know perfectly well was unreasonable without someone having to actually come and complain about it! She's far from a paragon of consideration by the sound of it. To me it seems that everything has to be HER way, eg because she's up early, she expects everyone else to be, because she doesn't want people taking their rubbish out at 9pm (!), everyone has to jump to her demands and do it at a time that suits her - not them!
Unless they are her former lodgers of course:p

Please read my posts properly if you're going to comment on them! I have said that in this particular case, then it may well be that the neighbour is being unreasonable. My arguments are that in general it isn't necessarily the case that someone complaining about them would be being unreasonable.

Welshwoofs

Marisco wrote: »

:rotfl:Aye, I should have possibly said "put up with it"

I'm glad you didn't...you fed me a good line

Person_one

seriousDFW wrote: »

The attitude of 'suck it up' MAY be appropriate here, but also it may be very mean. The lights could be causing distress, and so telling someone to suck it up is not fair.

How would you feel if I moved next door to you and for one month a year, every night between 6pm and 10pm, I blasted dance music at the top of my stereo's volume? It's only for 3/4 weeks so you'd happily suck it up?

Everyone has a right to enjoy their home in a peaceful environment, and neighbours' lights have the potential to take this away.

The difference with the music is that there isn't a simple solution available.

This neighbour can close her curtains.

coolcait

Originally Posted by aliasojo
Well if nothing else, this thread has shown up the natural differences in people's tastes. It's just a shame so many opinions have been disparaging of other's choices.

loracan1 wrote: »

I find it quite unpleasant - there's no need to say more than "it's not something I'd do", but comments such as "tacky, common, garish tat" and some post referring to hot dog stands are unneccessary. Thankfully these have been in the minority, most of those who don't like them have put their view across without resorting to insults.

Me - I don't have them outside, won't be having them inside for another week or so but on other houses I quite like seeing the icicle type hanging from the roof. I smile to myself when I see the inflatable snowmen/Father Christmas, because I imagine that the kids living there love them.

(and I love it when people leave their curtains open and I can have a good gawp at their inside Christmas decorations - saw some gorgeous ones last night!)

I thanked aliasojo's original post, as I believed it applied to all sides of the 'debate'. Yours is rather less balanced.

There have been just as many (perhaps more) judgemental posts about people who dislike outside decorations, find them distracting or annoying, or have found that they could be a danger (to drivers, for example).

I find many of the comments made about those people 'unpleasant' too.

Cat501

seriousDFW wrote: »

Please read my posts properly if you're going to comment on them! I have said that in this particular case, then it may well be that the neighbour is being unreasonable. My arguments are that in general it isn't necessarily the case that someone complaining about them would be being unreasonable.

Humble apologies!

catkins

I took my dog for a walk about 7.30pm and looked at all the decorated houses. Loads of houses round by me have outside decorations ranging from just some lights in a tree to inflatable figures, flashing lights and a house and garden with loads of decorations and lights which is in aid of a local hospice - every year they raise loads of money and lots of people come and look at it. I assume luckily that their neighbours do not complain about it. Oh but I forgot I live in a "chavy area" don't I?

I love Christmas. I love the fact that all my family get together. I love the fact that I can spend time choosing presents that my friends and family will hopefully love. I like buying presents for children in the local hospital. I love buying a real tree. I love decorating it and putting decorations all round my living room and hallway. I love carols and tasteful decorations and I also love trashy over the top decorations which make me smile. There is more than enough doom and gloom and awful news in the world so to have 1 month of cheerfulness is lovely. I bought my tree today and put my decorations up because there is no point in going to all that effort for a couple of days. I don't have children but both myself and OH love Christmas (well he didn't until he met me).

I regard myself as a good neighbour. I check on my elderly neighbours each side of me. I get them shopping if they cannot get out such as last year when we had snow which lasted weeks and it was too dangerous for them to try and walk on it. I don't tell my elderly neighbour that because she is somewhat deaf that I can hear her radio clearly if I do not have my tv or radio on. I don't tell my neighbours across the road or 3 doors away that their barking dog is a nuisance and I would never let me dog keep barking like that. I would be annoyed if they complained about any decorations I put on or in my house. Much more annoying are the fireworks which going off practically every weekend starting in about August and going on until Christmas.

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