Another Christmas with the family 'problem'!!

poet123

Bumpmakesfour wrote: »

Who the hell is the adult here?
"giving in to", "pandering to"..seriously??What's with the power trip?
It's bloomin christmas day.THE most important day in a childs year.So bloody what if they "get to wake up in their own bed 364 days of the year".
It makes me truly sad that someone could have that attitude towards a child:(

What rubbish.

It may be the most important day in a child's year but if that importance is attached purely to material things and not the family environment as well then it is a pretty poor way to raise a child.

The Op's mother lives alone, surely some thought is due to her as well as the child? The OP is torn, but so long as the child gets exactly what they believe they want without any attempt to encourage them to think about the bigger picture, all is well.

It makes me truly sad that someone could have such a short sighted attitude to parenting.

7roland8

Well it looks as if its all decided now and this should have been discussed wth the kids before.
However I would think being driven for 3hrs would be better for kids on Christmas Eve - rather than on Xmas mornig when they wnat to play with their toys.
If this has been sprung on them no wonder they are upset as their Christmas ritual is for at home.
So long as son knows santa will visit grannies there should be no problem - but only you know the special circumstances involved.
Will your mum be on her own for lunch anyway?
Easiest thing to do next year is visit before or after CHristmas and keep the day for you and kids.

Bumpmakesfour

Stephb1986 wrote: »

I am glad I don't have kids I don't like them they should be seen and not heard.

Oh dear...not even going to rise to it.

7roland8

Just to add - once we had kids we always spent our Christmases at home - with mum later coming to us for the day.
Its lovely that they can believe in santa for as long as possible.
But I think Christmas can be magical wherever you are - but I doubt the two kids will get a lot out of seeing lots of relatives.

Originally Posted by meritaten
I think most parents have faced something like this at christmas - To stay at home or go to grandmas? to invite parents round? to HAVE to do something because its 'expected' and you would rather do something else!
I stupidly set a precedent by inviting daughter her OH and my grandson to christmas dinner - that was twelve years ago and ALL three of my kids now expect an invite to christmas dinner and I now am faced with having FOURTEEN people for dinner - in a tiny terraced house! its a nightmare! I am actually dreading it!
If I had any gumption I would be telling them all that its time they made their OWN christmas dinners - but then it would be just me and OH - talk about between a rock and a hard place!

As said - get them all to chip in - and be grateful you have a family who want to be around you and spare a thought for those who either have no-one or who would love to have some family visit.

Stephb1986_2

I will give you this senario instead, say the op does as the boy wants and stays at home, say something happens to the op's mum god forbid but say its does, surely the op may feel bad/guilty what ever you want to call it that she never spent christmas with her mum because she was dictated to by an 8yo.

Bumpmakesfour, you should have a medal having all them kids. I couldn't do it.

Person_one

Stephb1986 wrote: »

He needs to grow up he's 8 years old, my niece is 7 years old she knows that santa doesn't really exist.

I bet you told her, didn't you?

Person_one

poet123 wrote: »

What rubbish.

It may be the most important day in a child's year but if that importance is attached purely to material things and not the family environment as well then it is a pretty poor way to raise a child.

You're the only one who seems to think its about 'material things', I've no idea where you got that impression.

Person_one

Stephb1986 wrote: »

I will give you this senario instead, say the op does as the boy wants and stays at home, say something happens to the op's mum god forbid but say its does, surely the op may feel bad/guilty what ever you want to call it that she never spent christmas with her mum because she was dictated to by an 8yo.

Bumpmakesfour, you should have a medal having all them kids. I couldn't do it.

I'll hazard a guess that she's spent many christmasses with her mum.

We could all die any day, that has nothing to do with anything.

Stephb1986_2

Person_one wrote: »

I bet you told her, didn't you?

No i didn't actually it was a friend at school that told her

Person_one

Also, when did he become Santa and not Father Christmas? This is the real outrage!