Should I invite parents for Xmas?

blue_monkey_2

*Louise* wrote: »

Christmas is meant to be about family

The whole year is supposed to be about family, not just Xmas.

You seem to be one of the lucky ones.

That being said, I always told my husband to invite his brother on Xmas or Boxing Day as he is on his own as FIL would usually go to his girlfriends. The last few years FIL as come as well (girlfriend too busy) but he usually spends the day moaning at my (disabled) child because he 'cannot control himself, is too noisy and won't leave him alone' and then moans about the food he has been served up and how I treat the dogs (because they are not allowed in when they are eating), I could go on.... so as they are both on their own they can spend Xmas day together and we stay at home on our own instead - we cannot invite one and not the other (they live together).

You should not be uncomfortable in your own home, whoever it is visiting, listening to them sla g off your children, house, animals, cooking etc.... just because it is 'xmas'.

victory

Not quite related to xmas but blue monkey you saying all your FIL does is moan, I had some people round for dinner once and had worked since 8am perfecting it all, said person popped by to verify the timings, on the side was a beautiful hand prepared hand decorated cake, she turned around looked at it and said 'what the £$$%%^%&&* is that?' It looks like cat sick:rotfl::rotfl: we still talk about it to this day her reaction and no she never got invited again:rotfl:

Any

I find this whole thread absolutely ridiculous!!!! Not the OP, most of the answers!!

MUST you invite someone just because they are your parents????? You need to meet my mother!! I turn suicidal after spending half an hour with her!
MUST you make life easy for them? At Christmas? MUST you run around some whiney nasty (possibly, I don't know - OP didn't say, so I won't jump to conclusion yet!!!) people at Christmas, rather then spend wonderfull Christmas with your own little unit of OH and children and have busy, but lovely kind restful time?

How did everyone here jump to the conclusion that OP had lovely Christmas prepared for by her mother until adulthood??? I somehow missed that!!

There are people I would not spend Christmas with. No matter what the "blood line" is. There are people I will put my hand into fire for. Like my MIL.

You know that saying "what goes around, comes around"? How do we know this is not the case here? Only very few people asked any questions, rather then jumped at OP's throat for being selfish!!

Any

victory wrote: »

Not quite related to xmas but blue monkey you saying all your FIL does is moan, I had some people round for dinner once and had worked since 8am perfecting it all, said person popped by to verify the timings, on the side was a beautiful hand prepared hand decorated cake, she turned around looked at it and said 'what the £$$%%^%&&* is that?' It looks like cat sick:rotfl::rotfl: we still talk about it to this day her reaction and no she never got invited again:rotfl:

I can see why!!! OMG!! Some people are just nasty.

aliasojo

Any wrote: »

I can see why!!! OMG!!

For a minute there, I thought you'd seen a picture of the cake. :eek:

*legs it*




Just kidding, victory.

neverdespairgirl

blue_monkey wrote: »

My friend speaks to her mum 3 times a day on the phone and sees her almost every day - I personally think that is weird!!

Why?

I don't see my mother every day, but I see my Dad most working days (in passing at least) and speak to my Mama on the phone almost every day. Why is that weird?

blue_monkey_2

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Why?

I don't see my mother every day, but I see my Dad most working days (in passing at least) and speak to my Mama on the phone almost every day. Why is that weird?

Because to me it is. I've never had anyone I want to speak to 3 times a day on the phone.

My husband is the same really, as soon as he was able moved out of home and was pretty much left to get on with things without help.

Of course, things could have been so different but they aren't. However, I intend on ringing my children every day, at least once, when they have leave home.

blue_monkey_2

victory wrote: »

Not quite related to xmas but blue monkey you saying all your FIL does is moan, I had some people round for dinner once and had worked since 8am perfecting it all, said person popped by to verify the timings, on the side was a beautiful hand prepared hand decorated cake, she turned around looked at it and said 'what the £$$%%^%&&* is that?' It looks like cat sick:rotfl::rotfl: we still talk about it to this day her reaction and no she never got invited again:rotfl:

LOL, glad it is not just me then.

When FIL used to call and say he was popping in I used to rush around tidying up, just kids mess really, but I tidied none the less. My husband used to ask why I did it as his dad would not care. One day he turned up unnanounced and his first words were 'bit messy in here isn't it'. Well the next time his dad called my husband put the phone down and said 'quick, tidy up, dad is coming round in 20 minutes'. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

FIL makes me laugh (in a weird way), when younger DS was bouncing on and off his lap and he turned to me and said 'I am going to smack him in a minute if he does not stop that' So I said 'no you will not etc...' anyway, a few months back he told me that he 'never smacked his kids when they were little'. I just thought 'Righto..... so you'll threaten my kids but not your own', believing that..... NOT!

SingleSue

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Why?

I don't see my mother every day, but I see my Dad most working days (in passing at least) and speak to my Mama on the phone almost every day. Why is that weird?

I don't think it is weird...I see my parents every day AND we call each other every day too! My sister, living where she does, doesn't see our parents that often but she rings at least 3 times a day (usually during Countdown or Deal or no deal..much to mums annoyance)

We are just very close as a family.

SingleSue

blue_monkey wrote: »

Because to me it is. I've never had anyone I want to speak to 3 times a day on the phone.

My husband is the same really, as soon as he was able moved out of home and was pretty much left to get on with things without help.

Of course, things could have been so different but they aren't. However, I intend on ringing my children every day, at least once, when they have leave home.

I moved out at the first opportunity and pretty much got on with things without help (I wouldn't have accepted it even if it had been offered - my parents knew this and respected my wishes), I was and still am very independent.

My siblings on the other hand, have always been very needy and my parents have always been there for them to help....doesn't bother me in the slightest though, I am quite proud of the fact I did it on my own. It is also one of the reasons my parents chose me as the executor of their wills despite not being the eldest, they call me the sensible, straightforward, tough talking, non panic child.