Should I invite parents for Xmas?

dirtysexymonkey

elvis86 wrote: »

Disgusting? Really. Get over yourself. I was making an example of how nonsensical another poster's claims were.

you really are disgusting today.

dirtysexymonkey

sassyblue wrote: »

Outrageous, as usual. I'm not sure why you frequent these relationship boards when you have nothing to offer except sarcasm and abuse.

well said!:T

POPPYOSCAR

blue_monkey wrote: »

They have no refuges as such, for battered men.

Social Services have safe houses for men who are subject to domestic abuse, the children usually go with him.

My male friend is having this problem and I told him to speak to SS and this is what they have said they can do for him. They will also arrange to get an injunction sorted so the woman can no longer enter the house and then he can go back home with the children.

Thanks for that.

I am pleased to know that there is help for them as well.

POPPYOSCAR

notakid wrote: »

It was obvious that the poster who made that comparison believed in was a ludicious comparison and was being sarky rather than making any real valid point.

Surely you could see that? I can't believe you would get affronted! Don't you think your reaction also trivalises the whole issue?

I would not say I was affronted by it but you have to admit it is a bit of a leap to go from 'mind games' to a 'battered' women hostel.

aliasojo

Shame to see the thread has gone down the usual degenerative route of so many before it.

Any chance at all we can just all shut up now and wait for the OP to come back?

elvis86

notakid wrote: »

It was obvious that the poster who made that comparison believed in was a ludicious comparison and was being sarky rather than making any real valid point.

Surely you could see that? I can't believe you would get affronted! Don't you think your reaction also trivalises the whole issue?

Exactly. The only thing I will apologise for, is if the term "Battered Women's Hostel" offended anyone.

I honestly wonder how some people on here cope in the real world, if they honestly found that "disgusting" and "outrageous". Jeez... Although, I think it rather suited DSM to be offended, to divert attention from his/her ludicrous argument that the OP's mum angling for a dinner invitation constitutes emotional abuse, and from the accusations that she/he is a troll.:cool:

Abbafan1972

aliasojo wrote: »

Shame to see the thread has gone down the usual degenerative route of so many before it.

Any chance at all we can just all shut up now and wait for the OP to come back?

Don't mind me, talk amongst yourselves!

LittleMissAspie

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

The reason why I'm asking this is because last year she wasn't working and they booked to go out for dinner both Xmas Day and Boxing Day without giving us a second thought. :mad:

Why should they give you a second thought? You have your own family now. I really don't get why people get offended at relatives doing their own thing - there are another 364 days in the year to see them. I honestly don't know what all the fuss over Christmas is about.

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

i cant imagine not spending an xmas with my parents and grandparents, but im not as blind as to think that its the same with everyone.

I can't see how that works. So you invite your parents and all four grandparents over to yours, but what if the parents or grandparents have other children? To keep every family together you'd have to invite them all the children too, but then their partners will have other parents and grandparents, so to keep every family together you'd have to invite them too and so it goes on and on and eventually you have to invite half of England round.

Kay_Peel

I would invite my mother to Christmas dinner in these circumstances, without a second thought.

She wouldn't need to angle for an invite, either.

elvis86

sassyblue wrote: »

Outrageous, as usual. I'm not sure why you frequent these relationship boards when you have nothing to offer except sarcasm and abuse.

Someone has to offer an alternative POV to the majority who pander to people's whining, overcomplicate issues, and blow things up out of all proportion.:)

Honestly. In the first instance, I can't believe that deciding whether to invite your mum over for Christmas is really something that requires the assistance of a load of strangers on an internet forum? How on earth did people deal with life's big dilemas before MSE?

Coming soon to a forum near you:

Help! Emergency! Don't know what to do! Should I have my sandwich on white or brown bread?:(

Dilema! Assistance needed! Can't cope! When going to the loo, should I wipe front to back or back to front?:eek:

Secondly, the OP states that her mum has dropped some hints and angled for an invitation to Christmas dinner, and the next minute she's being told that her mum is emotionally manipulating her and trying to mess with her head!?