Should I invite parents for Xmas?

tango

Jingle bells jingle bells, jingle all the way , oh what fun it is to post on an MSEEEEEEEE thread

pinkclouds

elvis86 wrote: »

Dilema! Assistance needed! Can't cope! When going to the loo, should I wipe front to back or back to front?

Actually, I could see a newly divorced/widowed dad (with a daughter) asking that question! I had to tell hubby that girls wipe front to back. Not to mention all the other "girl" things that I thought were obvious... like how to use a hair bobble, how to put on tights, the importance of brushing hair to remove tangles, that a "clutch" is a type of handbag... I sincerely hope I live long enough to see my daughter past at least 16!!

Anyway, I think the OP doesn't want to have her mother round on Christmas Day so it's best for both of them if that doesn't happen. Might be sad. Might not be what I would do (even for MIL). But the OP isn't me.

Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas, next month. x

aliasojo

pinkclouds wrote: »

Actually, I could see a newly divorced/widowed dad (with a daughter) asking that question! I had to tell hubby that girls wipe front to back. Not to mention all the other "girl" things that I thought were obvious... like how to use a hair bobble, how to put on tights, the importance of brushing hair to remove tangles, that a "clutch" is a type of hangbag... I sincerely hope I live long enough to see my daughter past at least 16!!

I really wish I could thank you more than once. I do so agree with you.

victory

abbafan have you decided after all that?:D

dirtysexymonkey

LittleMissAspie wrote: »

I can't see how that works. So you invite your parents and all four grandparents over to yours, but what if the parents or grandparents have other children? To keep every family together you'd have to invite them all the children too, but then their partners will have other parents and grandparents, so to keep every family together you'd have to invite them too and so it goes on and on and eventually you have to invite half of England round.

it would be a very long journey for my maternal grandparents to make.:D

my siblings and i got to my parents as do my grandparents. i do have aunts and uncles but theyve never shown any interest in having my grandparents for christmas and im glad - its our christmas tradition - i didnt state that this was how it should be done for everyone, its just what happens for us and it works for us.

my parents and three of my siblings now live abroad but theyll be coming back for christmas and the new year so we can continue our tradition.

the op doesnt have any set traditions like that, so i dont understand why she should be bound by obligation while her mother can do whatever pleases her. and no one has been able to explain why that should be the case?

mummyroysof3

we have parents inlaw for lunch..dad and step mum and grandma in afternoon and my mum and step dad ariving at teatime after driving 250mile to get here...boxing day ill be having a lie down lol...oh and they were all invited months ago and ill be providing all the food except the stuffing

January20

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

Wow! A lot of varied replies there. I don't understand the bit in red. We were in my Mom's house, we were in bed and my Mom was already up on Boxing day doing the dishwasher, the bedroom is directly above the kitchen.

My Mom's job is a bit of a sore subject. They are always phoning her up at short notice asking her to go in and cover for staff that are never there. I know it pi$$es off my Dad, as he's expected to drop her off at work at 7am, but the place is within walking distance.

She is supposed to be retired (they both are) and I know the job is affecting her health, (She's in her early 60's). But she won't listen. Obviously it's up to her what she spends the money on, but it only seems to be there to fund her ciggy habit.

sorry! You just seemed so irritated by something that -to me - seems so little, so unimportant that I thought I would use it as an example of how you can make your life easier by just doing little things differently. I did realise it was in your mum's house and I was wondering why it was such an important fact that you had to bring it up?

I don't understand why you talk about your mum's job and your dad being p****ed off, and your mum buying cigarettes. Surely, that has no relevance to whether you should invite them or not? Your parents are adults and you shouldn't think you can tell them or talk them into doing what you think is fit for them to do.

thorsoak

If you have to ask the question, you have answered it yourself - by asking it shows that you don't want to invite them!

Had you wanted to invite them, there would not have been this thread!

Personally, if my daughter had invited me just because she thought she "should", then I would run a million miles in the opposite direction!

Let them have Christmas by themselves and you have Christmas by yourselves ....they might have enjoyed themselves with you and your family, you and your family might have had a good time with them - but it's not going to happen because you don't want them with you!

Sad - but there it is. You obviously have your reasons.

neverdespairgirl

pinkclouds wrote: »

Not to mention all the other "girl" things that I thought were obvious... like how to use a hair bobble, how to put on tights, the importance of brushing hair to remove tangles, that a "clutch" is a type of handbag... I sincerely hope I live long enough to see my daughter past at least 16!!

I think I knew that a "clutch" was a type of handbag. I'm sure I didn't care, though (-:

But I can brush my hair and put tights on!

neverdespairgirl

LittleMissAspie wrote: »

I can't see how that works. So you invite your parents and all four grandparents over to yours, but what if the parents or grandparents have other children? To keep every family together you'd have to invite them all the children too, but then their partners will have other parents and grandparents, so to keep every family together you'd have to invite them too and so it goes on and on and eventually you have to invite half of England round.

It can work. As a child we had my grandparents and uncle round - no other grandchildren, other than the 4 of us my parents had. Sorted!