Would you sell DD's old toys on ebay for new ones for Christmas?

74jax

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

easily solved then - send back/cancel the ones that youve ordered from her list, and get her what you were planning to get her originally. simples.

then she wont end up with two of anything, and you both revert back to your original positions and all is right with the world!:T

OR

I could wait to tomorrow when we order what she wants and hope it's not the same, if it is send mine back and if it isn't...... awww it would be a shame to miss out so I might just keep them :T

aliasojo

OP I'm really sorry but imo you have contradicted yourself all the way through this thread and tbh, I'm really not sure now what your intentions are with whose presents and whose money.

I wish you and yours a happy xmas anyway though.

MarilynMonroe_2

Next year say you'll sell her stuff for a commision, then you save that up for next xmas lol! problem solved for next year!!

*max*

This is beyond complicated...or maybe I'm just not quite awake yet!

I think what people are saying is that basically you should buy her xmas presents as you would have normally. The money coming from the sale of her things is an extra, and should not be used to cover the cost of the presents you would have normally bought.

If she then wants for you to use the money to buy EXTRA presents so she gets MORE surprises, then that's absolutely fine. It's the idea of recycling her previous presents into new ones you would have bought her anyway that was sitting a bit wrong.

mumofjusttwo

If you plan on spending the same aount on her as you normally would I do not see a problem
If that is the case she just wants you to buy things with her money so that they will be a surprise for her when she gets them.

If you are not spending the amount you would have spent anyway then I feel this is a little unfair on your daughter.

bestpud

Sooo, OP has a Christmas list for dd (a pretty generous one as it includes a PS and the OP is on half pay!!!)

DD comes along and says she ALSO wants x, y and z presents.

OP says money is tight so she can add these items, BUT dd will need to let her sell some old stuff to pay for them. (As they are EXTRA to the original Christmas list!)

She gives DD the option of taking the money and getting the items herself, but DD decides she wants OP to take the money and buy them because she wants them to be a surprise.

OP puts items on eBay and DH starts seeing pound signs.

DH butts in (wrong if it happened in front of DD tbh) and now DD gets to keep all the money from the sales.

BUT, OP has already ordered two items from the EXTRA list and now doesn't have the money that DD AGREED was to go towards these items!

Sorry, but why is the OP in the wrong??

The DD made an agreement and then went back on it. The money for the two ordered items should have been taken from the proceeds. DD is in the wrong.

The OP would only have been in the wrong if she'd sold the items for £150 but bought goods for less than that. In that case, DD should have taken any extra and all would have been absolutely fine IMO.

Return the items, OP, and feel no guilt for doing so!

Better still, tell DD you have already ordered the items but they will have to go back unless she pays you for them AS WAS AGREED!

aliasojo

bestpud wrote: »

Sooo...........

That's not what I read last night.

'I'm off sick at the moment and just gone down to half pay and this was really what I was counting on buying DD's christmas presents with, but now I'm left feeling what a terrible mother for even thinking such a thing.'

I guess interpretation played a part here, and the fact the OP wasn't exactly clear throughout the thread. Imo.

OP, if the situation is as bestpud suggests, then that's not what I thought you meant when I was replying to you last night. bestpud's scenario doesn't seem half as bad.

bestpud

aliasojo wrote: »

That's not what I read last night.

'I'm off sick at the moment and just gone down to half pay and this was really what I was counting on buying DD's christmas presents with, but now I'm left feeling what a terrible mother for even thinking such a thing.'

I guess interpretation played a part here, and the fact the OP wasn't exactly clear throughout the thread. Imo.

OP, if the situation is as bestpud suggests, then that's not what I thought you meant when I was replying to you last night. bestpud's scenario doesn't seem half as bad.

I think this is one of those situations where the OP would have been better off posting everything from the start, even though it would have been long! All the add-ons have confused everyone - OP included, I think!

fawd1

I'm not entirely sure I understand, but I think that you were planning to use the profits from her old stuff to buy her Christmas presents, is that right? If so, then give the money to her, it's her profit, and she should do what she wants with it. Otherwise I suggest you feel as comfortable giving her your credit card to spend a couple of hundred quid on so she can buy your Christmas present. Doesn't really count as you buying her a gift if she's paid for it does it?

DianneB

I don't see anything wrong with it, you went to the trouble of sorting her room out, all the faff of ebaying and posting and it was probably stuff that would have gone to the charity shop. Bonus. Don't beat yourself up about it.