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Would you sell DD's old toys on ebay for new ones for Christmas?
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No if they were gifts for birthday or christmas they are hers and there is no way you should be selling them and keeping the money. That is stealing.0
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patchwork_cat wrote: »No if they were gifts for birthday or christmas they are hers and there is no way you should be selling them and keeping the money.
I wasn't keeping the money?
She had a list of things she wanted, but wanted a surprise rather than buying them herself.
The money wasn't for me, sorry if that wasn't clear. It was most definately for her, to go on what she chose.Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0 -
I wasn't keeping the money?
She had a list of things she wanted, but wanted a surprise rather than buying them herself.
The money wasn't for me, sorry if that wasn't clear. It was most definately for her, to go on what she chose.
I think you're missing the point a wee bit though?
You want to use her money to buy her new presents. In place of using your own money. That's very wrong imo, no matter how skint you are.Herman - MP for all!
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I wasn't keeping the money?
She had a list of things she wanted, but wanted a surprise rather than buying them herself.
The money wasn't for me, sorry if that wasn't clear. It was most definately for her, to go on what she chose.
from your op.As it was quite a bit of money, i was going to offer her half the money, however OH said if it was given to her as a gift then all money should go to her. DD loved this idea and so now I am in the position of having to transfer her £150 (shes 13, so this is a HUGE amount) and now what I had planned on getting her for xmas I can't.
you were going to use her money to buy her christmas presents from you.
i think youre missing the point in a huge way.Hi, we’ve had to remove your signature. If you’re not sure why please read the forum rules or email the forum team if you’re still unsure - MSE ForumTeam0 -
on a brighter note you might get a better present off her! xx
you can get away with so much more when theyre younger! i've bought dd charity shop finds for Xmas to bulk her presents up, in a few yrs she'll be asking why things arent in boxes!1,2 & 5p: Christmas day food £9.31
10 & 20p: misc savings £2.70
50p: Christmas presents £3.50
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dirtysexymonkey wrote: »from your op.
you were going to use her money to buy her christmas presents from you.
i think youre missing the point in a huge way.
Yes I was going to offer her half the money, initially she wanted the money for only a small amount of items.
The larger bulk of items she didn't want the money for, but gave me a list of things she would like to buy, but rather than her take the money and go and buy them, she wanted a surprise. So say there was 10 things on the list, she knew she couldn't afford 10 things, so I would pick them and she wouldn't know. I can see how she would like this, as it is something I would like also.
As the money was mounting up, she asked if she could take the money instead. I was going to suggest to her why didn't she take half and then she would still have some surprises. Only during the discussion OH said yes she take it all. So it all is now flying through the satelites to her account.
At no time, was I taking the money for me.
Yes the items would have been given to her at Chrsitmas though.Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0 -
MarilynMonroe wrote: »on a brighter note you might get a better present off her! xx
you can get away with so much more when theyre younger! i've bought dd charity shop finds for Xmas to bulk her presents up, in a few yrs she'll be asking why things arent in boxes!
ha ha like it!
I always give her £30 to buy me a present and this year I said I could only give her £20 to spend on me. She said 'well if I wait till Christmas Eve I can get it in the sales and it might have cost £40'... Bless her. :money: you'd think she was a regular on here.Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0 -
Yes I was going to offer her half the money, initially she wanted the money for only a small amount of items.
The larger bulk of items she didn't want the money for, but gave me a list of things she would like to buy, but rather than her take the money and go and buy them, she wanted a surprise. So say there was 10 things on the list, she knew she couldn't afford 10 things, so I would pick them and she wouldn't know. I can see how she would like this, as it is something I would like also.
As the money was mounting up, she asked if she could take the money instead. I was going to suggest to her why didn't she take half and then she would still have some surprises. Only during the discussion OH said yes she take it all. So it all is now flying through the satelites to her account.
At no time, was I taking the money for me.
Yes the items would have been given to her at Chrsitmas though.
if thats true then why do you say that because your dd now has her money, you cant get her what you were planning to get her for xmas?
it was her money, not money for you to spend on her from you. you werent even going to tell her about the amount until she worked it out!Hi, we’ve had to remove your signature. If you’re not sure why please read the forum rules or email the forum team if you’re still unsure - MSE ForumTeam0 -
At no time, was I taking the money for me.
Yes the items would have been given to her at Chrsitmas though.
You were though.
Indirectly.
You were using her money to pay for your obligations.
(By 'obligations' I mean you needed to buy her presents for Xmas so by using her money, you didn't need to use your own.)
I realise you genuinely don't see this as a problem but I'm not sure you're seeing this clearly. Herman - MP for all!
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dirtysexymonkey wrote: »if thats true then why do you say that because your dd now has her money, you cant get her what you were planning to get her for xmas?
it was her money, not money for you to spend on her from you. you werent even going to tell her about the amount until she worked it out!
Because I was getting her the items off her list (not them all as it defeats the object of giving more on a list than what you get - if that makes sence).
So now money I would have spent on her Christmas presents will be used to cover the cost of what i've ordered on her list.
This means things I had planned on getting her I can't. She still has lots of nice presents and I'm not on here regarding 'oh i ca't get this that and the other' I was just enquiring if other people do sell items to replenish at christmas.
It is something we have always done, and it always good to get other views, whether you like them or not. That's the beauty of this site.
i don't need to tell her the total as she goes on ebay to check the items and get postage info to send her items out. She just saw a lot had ended today and that was where the discussion started. it wasn't a big secret. She had an idea of costs so she knew roughly what to put on the list.Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0
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