please delete.

Nara

Who knows, maybe she is not telling you the whole truth. Or trying to say that her relationship is fine because it makes her feel better about having an affair?

I do sometimes feel like being bi-sexual is not a good thing, because you fancy both men and women but at the same time know that they would each give you something slightly different.

It's on my bucket list to sleep with a woman ( i fancy women like mad but have never had the chance to do anything with one since i have been with my boyfriend since i was 19 and im now 32 :P) and when i was growing up i never came across any gay women, or even ones who admitted to having feelings for women.
But i hope to one day sleep with a woman, and i hope that my boyfriend would let me haha :> i dont plan to run off with a woman and couldn't even imagine having a relationship with a woman but i would happily sleep with a woman.

Arggg its hard to explain in a random forum so i will shut up now lol!

gazebo

being bi does not make it more difficult to remain faithful, no more so than being hetero or homo.

victory

raven83 wrote: »

But thats the things, she says she is really happy and inlove with him and they have a healthy sex life etc and they are like i said the "perfect" couple i just dont get it maybe i am being naive, i suppose in a way it does !!!! me off a bit because they are sooooo "perfect" and seem to have it all to the outside world but then she tells me all this and i think if only people knew the real you!

No relationship is perfect, outside or in, that is not being cynical it is being experienced, relationships have ups and downs and good and bad but that is not to say that because it is a down time to go off with someone else male or female, there is no way she is inlove with him and thinks the world of him to do that to him.

gazebo

in answer to the original question though, I'd say yes, it is possible to love more than one person at the same time, however, it is never acceptable to try and justify cheating by hiding behind your sexuality.

emweaver

beenstung wrote: »

Hey, hold up there, this has been an interesting discussion so far. Lets not start jumping to conclusions and having a go at the OP. It could be her sister, 2nd best friend or any one of many other possible situations.

Either way, it isn't any of our business.

The only thing I have doubts about is that she doesn't trust her hubby's reaction enough to be able to talk to him about the situation openly. That rings warning bells with me.

Woo you hold up I wasn't having a go at the op, in no way was I aggressive I was merely stating my opinion.

If its none of our business why is it on a public forum asking for our advice?

MoneySavingMamma

raven83 wrote: »

But thats the things, she says she is really happy and inlove with him and they have a healthy sex life etc and they are like i said the "perfect" couple i just dont get it maybe i am being naive, i suppose in a way it does !!!! me off a bit because they are sooooo "perfect" and seem to have it all to the outside world but then she tells me all this and i think if only people knew the real you!

Not many like to admit that their marriage is a disaster/sham, perhaps she loves being the Jones' ie the happy family everyone wants to be?

raven83

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

Not many like to admit that their marriage is a disaster/sham, perhaps she loves being the Jones' ie the happy family everyone wants to be?

i think you could be right there!

CH27

raven83 wrote: »

But thats the things, she says she is really happy and inlove with him and they have a healthy sex life etc and they are like i said the "perfect" couple i just dont get it maybe i am being naive, i suppose in a way it does !!!! me off a bit because they are sooooo "perfect" and seem to have it all to the outside world but then she tells me all this and i think if only people knew the real you!

No one knows what goes on behind closed doors.

gratefulforhelp_2

It is possible to lust after any number of people and make oneself feel better by calling it love.