am fuming, sorry its a rant

McKneff

Perhaps your son has been 'messing about' and maybe chucked a stone or gravel or something like.

Hopefully it will teach him a major lesson.

But the last thing you should be doing is ferry him to school and wrap him in cotton wool.
If he says hes sorry you have to learn to trust him.

Kids will only tell you what they want you to know and I think he's probably a lot more streetwise than you know.

I thought mine were like that, it wasnt till they were well grown up that I found out half the things they used to get up to.

mirrorimage0

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Being as it was the school who rang you ,and how concerned you appear, if it were me I would have made arrangements with the school go there at break time or lunch time and try to find out more about exactly what happened.

Although it is possible that this was out of the blue, I do agree that the chance of this is quite remote. However, nonetheless it would be of concern to me also.

I would imagine though that the two boys did do something to instigate this happening.

I would not be able to wait until gone 5.00 pm to find out and it is pointless coming to any conclusions until you get more of the picture.

usually i would be up there but when i spoke to him this morning he said he wanted to stay at school as he had basketball, i work at the school and he knows the staff so will be kept an eye on and can go to any one of them if he needs to.

also i cant drive at the moment as i had an emergency c section a few weeks ago, and the baby now has a cold and cough so dont want to take him out in the damp. i did say i would get a taxi and pick him up but he didnt want to come home.

i do think something has happened preceding the incident but obviously dont know what till he gets home. must say im a lot more calmer now than i was this morning think it was more of a shock


mkneff i know what you mean my mum still gets shocked at some of things me and my brothers tell her about when we was younger.

euronorris

mirrorimage0 wrote: »

but like ive also said, what im worried about is the bloke shouted that he was gonna get them and to watch themselves which to me is a threat for the future so why wouldnt i take him to school for a bit.

Take a step back and think about this logically. Why would the guy say to watch themselves, and that he's going to get them, when he was already out of the car and allegedly already had a grip on your son? If he wanted to do anything to do them, he could've and would've done it there and then.

I think it is far more likely that he said (if anything), that if he saw them behaving that way again he would come back and 'get 'em', so they should 'watch themselves', ie., behave.

Also, you've already said that your son isn't very streetwise, so I don't see how ferrying him to and from school for no good reason would help that.

mirrorimage0

it wouldnt be no good reason though if it is a threat,bear in mind also he is 11 sorry 12 tomorrow not 15 or 16 so when i find out more later i can make the judgement and also if my son has done something wrong, he will see being taken to and from school as a punishment anyway

theres no way he will go unpunished if there is something he and his friend has done

NAR

Better the driver manhandling him than an ambulanceman picking him up from being run over by the van.

blue_monkey_2

If your son called the police, why did he not call you as well to tell you? Why did the school do it?

If, of course, he did push him.

What I do not get is this - If this strange man has assaulted your 11 year old son for no reason, and your son has the reg number, why is it not being dealt with now, why 72 hours (3 days??). There is more to this than you have not been told I think.

Gavin83

blue_monkey wrote: »

If your son called the police, why did he not call you as well to tell you? Why did the school do it?

If, of course, he did push him.

What I do not get is this - If this strange man has assaulted your 11 year old son for no reason, and your son has the reg number, why is it not being dealt with now, why 72 hours (3 days??). There is more to this than you have not been told I think.

You've got to give the police some time to investigate this!

To be honest I don't think you can punish your son for this and I don't see why he needs to apologise, currently you don't actually know he's done anything wrong.

To be honest even if he did do something silly I'd be taking it further. There's no excuse for an adult assaulting an 11 year old boy.

mirrorimage0

thanks flee dont worry i know how the posts can turn on here, i just needed to vent this moring as i was on my own at home.

of course the man has pushed him he doesnt make things up and tell lies. what i need to get to the bottom of later is what my son has done prior to this.

he called the police on his way to school and was worried about getting there but went straight to the office where they phoned me an di spoke to him.

im not sure how the police deal with it, they told him they would ring back within 72 hrs so i have phoned them on the local number to be told the investigating team are dealing with it and will get back to us within 72 hrs im assuming they need time


i will only be punishing my son if he has done something wrong.x

blue_monkey_2

Gavin83 wrote: »

You've got to give the police some time to investigate this!

To be honest I don't think you can punish your son for this and I don't see why he needs to apologise, currently you don't actually know he's done anything wrong.

To be honest even if he did do something silly I'd be taking it further. There's no excuse for an adult assaulting an 11 year old boy.

The police would need a statement before they go and see the person who pushed him for a start.

The police would also need to interview the boy with a parent present and see if he had any injury to prove he had been shoved. The police have not even been to the school to find out what happened.

Yet the police have not even contacted the parent to advise them of the boys call.

Which to me, is just more than a little bit odd when we are talking about an 11 year old being assaulted by a strange man.

Just helping the OP put things into perspective really.

hoyteam

Gavin83 wrote: »

You've got to give the police some time to investigate this!

To be honest I don't think you can punish your son for this and I don't see why he needs to apologise, currently you don't actually know he's done anything wrong.

To be honest even if he did do something silly I'd be taking it further. There's no excuse for an adult assaulting an 11 year old boy.

I agree. There`s a lot of discrimination against young people, there`s a good chance he didn`t do anything wrong. Certainly nothing that justifies being assaulted by an adult.