Worse of Boyfriend Moving in

Graham_Devon

Ok, not being crude here, but how much will you both be bringing in? Net?

It's ok throwing around the costs, but don't know what your bringing in.

This is how it is and why we all get so irate!

brazilianwax

benefitboy wrote:

You must understand that all your valuable TAX AND NI Contributions goes back into the budget, yes i do also feel your frustration as some people cheat and sponge off of benefits. But its all very cleverly designed that that higher earners support the lower earners, thats why the government want single skilled workers from the EU earning at least £26k per annum, so they can support our lazy workers.

Sweetheart, I work for the Government so I understand how it works!!!!

jazzyjustlaw

You seem to be quite lucky - money from the state, your ex and now a new partner to add to it.

When I was a single parent the tax credit thing came in after years of struggling and I got a small amount of tax credit - no nursery fees and my other half gave me nothing. I think we are lucky to have a system at all.

lottee

Am I missing something here, you say above your salary is 19k, plus what your partner will be bringing in. 19k !!!!!!, we're not talking peanuts here, 19k !

Luckily your parents helped you with some money - that is kinda lucky sexyfufu!

charchar_3

sexy_fufu wrote:

I take home £260 per week, my nursery is over half of that a week.

My Boyfriend pays out £300 in CSA thats a weeks wages for him.

so before taking out bills lookinga t it this way my income is used to support his child and pay nursery fees only.

Solution is for him to give up work, he could be a full time dad pay no child support and then we would get tax credits.

NOW work that one out !!!

You said earlier on you make £19,000. £260 pw only makes £13,500.

lottee

sexy_fufu wrote:

Solution is for him to give up work, he could be a full time dad pay no child support and then we would get tax credits.

NOW work that one out !!!

Totally, it gets my back up big time, just look at any other posts I've made. But we could all do that. Not really the best choice to make though - financially maybe you would have more, but living like this through choice wouldn't be very nice.

Face it, if you work, nobody wants to know. Fact of life, pure & simple. Welcome to my world.

pipkin71

I'm a single parent - not through choice. An accident means I'm currently unable to work - again not through choice. In any household matter, issues affecting my children etc, there is only me who can deal with it. Do you really believe I'm better off than you sexy_fufu?

I've just finished my degree - got a very good result - wanted to do pgce - health issues raised their ugly head - still stuck on benefits - but I'm not complaining [really] because I've got the two most wonderful rewards anyone could wish for - my girls.

If bf doesn't want to share his money accept it or move on - your choice really.

Regards
Pipkin xxx

Broken_hearted

When we had our first child we were both working we got no chilcare help. Our combined earnings wernt that much more than your salary. I think you would benefit from reading some of the other boards on how to save money.

Graham_Devon

Sexy, this is why people choose to sponge. Your not going to be poor, but you can raise your head up high and know your working for your life and your little one.

jazzyjustlaw

Surely its not all about being financially better off its providing for yourself and your family and any children you CHOSE to have and your BF CHOSE to have.