parents evening/exes gf issues!!!

scheming_gypsy

i really need to stop doing it though as we live on the eighteenth floor and one day i'll fall off the balcony.

Oldernotwiser

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

I dont want a confrontation at the school, and I wont make it harder if he wont stand up to her and say we're going together as parents. I just think he's being a wimp!

Why should he actually tell her he's going with you? He seems to have had a lot of practice with lying, so why should this be any different - at least this is for a good cause and would be harmless!

scheming_gypsy

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Why should he actually tell her he's going with you? He seems to have had a lot of practice with lying, so why should this be any different - at least this is for a good cause and would be harmless!

I'm guessing the girlfriend is tagging along as well

POPPYOSCAR

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Why should he actually tell her he's going with you? He seems to have had a lot of practice with lying, so why should this be any different - at least this is for a good cause and would be harmless!

How could he do that?How does he tell the girlfriend she cannot go?

claire16c

Shed have to be a complete nutter to have a row or confrontation at the school? He does sound like a wimp.

euronorris

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

because it'd no doubt cause confrontation at the school if the new girlfriend is with him.

Which isn't wanted, I know, but........surely there will come a point where the OP and this woman will have to be in the same room as one another. This avoidance stuff can't go on forever, so perhaps it's about time the OP's ex grew a pair and told this woman to either deal with it, or stay at home.

thatgirlsam

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

I dont want a confrontation at the school, and I wont make it harder if he wont stand up to her and say we're going together as parents. I just think he's being a wimp!

I think he is being a wimp too

Don't worry about them, he is being a numpty and she is being a control freak by the sounds of it

If you really want to annoy her you need to be really, really nice to him

zoesmummy_2006

we're not warring, we are quite civilised with each other most of the time, he'll come into the house to collect the kids and we'll have a chat, sometimes he'll have a drink. We've also already sorted out xmas arrangements! I try not to let the hurt i feel from his betrayal come between the fact that we're still parents, after all he's going to be in my life for the rest of my life in tems of the kids.

scheming gyspy ive had to put my rock away now-though i'm having a drink so expect to have a wet keyboard/screen shortly!!! You and lotus eater are really opening my eyes to the workings of a mans mind!!!!

thatgirlsam

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

we're not warring, we are quite civilised with each other most of the time, he'll come into the house to collect the kids and we'll have a chat, sometimes he'll have a drink. We've also already sorted out xmas arrangements! I try not to let the hurt i feel from his betrayal come between the fact that we're still parents, after all he's going to be in my life for the rest of my life in tems of the kids.

scheming gyspy ive had to put my rock away now-though i'm having a drink so expect to have a wet keyboard/screen shortly!!! You and lotus eater are really opening my eyes to the workings of a mans mind!!!!

This may be the worlds worst suggestion but could you bring yourself to try and be friendly with her too?

She obviously sees you as a threat to her and his relationship, if you really want to move on then it would be wise to build some sort of relationship with her too, if she's here to stay

zoesmummy_2006

euronorris wrote: »

Which isn't wanted, I know, but........surely there will come a point where the OP and this woman will have to be in the same room as one another. This avoidance stuff can't go on forever, so perhaps it's about time the OP's ex grew a pair and told this woman to either deal with it, or stay at home.

I wanted to meet her as soon when he wanted to introduce her to the kids, which was literally within a couple of weeks, but he refused to let me, has always said that its none of my business. im thinking he's more scared of what i could tell her about what he's said to me regarding wanting to come back to me, the 'happy wedding anniversary' messages he sent after leaving me to be with her, and the worst thing i've ever heard about leaving her and the baby before born and having nothing to do with either of them. From what i gather the gf doesnt particularly like me, though i have no idea why.