parents evening/exes gf issues!!!

zoesmummy_2006

my ex and i have been seperated since he left 2 years ago and are now divorced:j and we have 2 children. Our daughter is in year 1 at school, and last week the signs went up for parents evenings. There was a bone of contention last year in that my ex took his gf to parents evening, told me he had to have a seperate appointment cos of work etc.

Well I informed the ex last week that parents evening was this week and that I had booked an appointment for the evening he finishes early to collect daughter from school and take her and son to his for the night, and that it would make sense for him to come with me and the kids that night and he iniatially said ok.

Well yesterday morning, as I expected, he started saying that he cant make the time slot i've got, that his boss is being funny about him finishing early that night-despite it being a regular fortnightly thing that has happened for months and they know about and understand. Basically, he was lying. I text him today after school run and said there were unfortunately no other appointments for later in the evening as they were all booked.

Hes replied on his lunchbreak saying that he spoke to the receptionist this morning and has an appointment for later that night, and that 'between me and him' he'd have liked to have gone with me, but that it wouldnt go down very well at home!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!!

I was sooooo angry, what the hell does this gf think im gonna do, tear his clothes off in a fit of passion while we wait to see our childs teacher???? Have replied saying that at the end of the day im our daughters mum, he's her dad and nothing will ever change that fact, we're always gonna be her parents, and this is a 'parents' evening. And i'll know if she goes with him again because he wont park outside the house, he'll park up the road or round the corner-and im not sure im going to be able to bite my tongue this time!!!!!! So far i've just ignored her cos she wont come near me-mind you i wouldnt wanna meet the (now ex) wife of the guy i slept with while said wife was at home 3 months pregnant, just 4 months after they married.

aargh!!!!! why is he soooo spineless???????? this is our child!!!

Plans_all_plans

I can't even begin to imagine how infuriating this must be for you and I would be tearing my hair out too.

However, if I were you, I'd just go to the appointment that suits YOU and to hell with him. In future, I'd just text him to say "parents eve this week, book yourself an appointment". Don't try to arrange things around or with him. It doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things whether you attend parents eve together or not. Your DD won't miss out on anything by you attending separately. Don't try to accommodate him too much, let him sort himself out.

Best of luck, this sort of thing would be my worst nightmare.

peachyprice

Why can't you both go at the new time he booked?

POPPYOSCAR

Whilst I think it is a sad state of affairs that your ex cannot just be with you for the sake of your child for such a short space of time, I don't really see what you can do about it.

Please resist the temptation to let rip at the girlfriend, be the bigger person, especially for the sake of your child who will more than likely witness the confrontation.

Gingham_R

He sounds like a real piece of !!!!. (Sorry.)

However, although it's frustrating but I'd just let him get on with it. He's going to parents' evening, not trying to wriggle out of it. So that's something.

And if she's so insecure that she doesn't want him to go to parents' evening with you, that's really something that'll get him quite enough grief in the long term without you having to lift a finger! A woman who got a man who was recently married with a pregnant wife will always be looking over her shoulder.

pollypenny

I can understand how you feel.

However, if your child spends a decent amount of time with father and GF, it's useful for her to know how she is doing in school - the positives and where she may need encouragement.

From a teacher's point a view, it is a pain when kids ask for two appointments. Imagine if the whole class did it.

scheming_gypsy

peachyprice wrote: »

Why can't you both go at the new time he booked?

because that means she's going with her ex





Throw the bloke a bone though, he's stuck in the middle because he's got a jealous girlfriend. He's been honest with you that he'd prefer to go as both parents but you're not the one who has to live with his girlfriend.

Plans_all_plans

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

because that means she's going with her ex





Throw the bloke a bone though, he's stuck in the middle because he's got a jealous girlfriend. He's been honest with you that he'd prefer to go as both parents but you're not the one who has to live with his girlfriend.

She wants to go with her ex...that's what the post is about.

And you are a better person than me with "throw him a bone!!" He deserves everything he's getting!

thatgirlsam

It must be annoying but I wouldn't sweat it too much

If it were me I would let them get on with it - At least he is going, my ds's father has never been bothered to go to a parents evening

Is she trying to be nice and take an interest in his child? Or is she going cos she knows it annoys you??

If its cos she knows it annoys you I would make a big deal of how nice you think it is of her to take so much interest

That should do her head in

scheming_gypsy

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

She wants to go with her ex...that's what the post is about.

errr, well done Columbo. She wants to go with the ex, he wants to go with the OP but the new girlfriend doesn't like it which is why they can't go together.

And you are a better person than me with "throw him a bone!!" He deserves everything he's getting!

I am a better person, i understand that it's hell living with women and it's easier to just let them get on with it to keep the peace. He's being honest yet it's still not enough,

thatgirlsam

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

errr, well done Columbo. She wants to go with the ex, he wants to go with the OP but the new girlfriend doesn't like it which is why they can't go together.





I am a better person, i understand that it's hell living with women and it's easier to just let them get on with it to keep the peace. He's being honest yet it's still not enough,

:rotfl::rotfl:

That tickled me

Not ALL women, surely