Divorce - Is this fair?!

RAS

adamantine wrote: »

there is no financial settlement. he was in worse debt than me!

And now he is a lot of debt and you are debt free, so you look better off than him with regard to any divorce settlement.

You need to absolutely ensure that you get a clean break with no responsibility for his debts.

adamantine

RAS wrote: »

And now he is a lot of debt and you are debt free, so you look better off than him with regard to any divorce settlement.

You need to absolutely ensure that you get a clean break with no responsibility for his debts.

i have and will. i cannot be held responsible for his credit cards when i wasnt in the country he maxed them out in! i am BR with no assets, no pension, no home and living on benefits while he has several vehicles, lives in army quarters for a tiny sum of rent but is at least £42,000 in debt none of which is my responsibility.

i know what i am doing, i have taken legal advice over it all and im 6 months into my BR. lets not hijack the OPs thread.

dearlouise

CH27 wrote: »

Box his two cats up & deposit them where he is living.

How long before the finances are settled in court?

I'm not sure. He side seem to be avoiding court and expect me to accept his offer of taking everything on. Possibly due to costs. Possibly due to the fact he will probably come off worse in court.

However I have just replied last week saying I'll happily take it to court. And my solicitor stated that any court will frown upon the blackmail that has been going on thus far.

dearlouise

DS4215 wrote: »

Seriously though. This should all have been sorted as part of the financial settlement from the divorce.

It *is* being sorted out now, as part of the divorce.

dearlouise

katerinasol wrote: »

I can understand not getting rid of the cats and I would get annoyed at people who suggested it. Pets become fully-fledged members of the family eventually and it would be like giving up your own kids. Absolutely not an option.

OP I can't help you out practically but I do hope you sort things out.

I'm glad someone sees it this way. The pets were mine & my ex-husband's 'replacement' for children, as this was something we couldn't have & didn't want. And that is exactly how they are seen in my life.

dearlouise

fluffnutter wrote: »

Seems rather a pickle when you already have a solicitor handling your divorce yet you feel the need to ask for advice on an internet forum. Sack the solicitor and reappoint someone else.

How to find a 'good' solicitor...?! Seems I am lacking in the choosing a solicitor department.

adamantine

dearlouise wrote: »

How to find a 'good' solicitor...?! Seems I am lacking in the choosing a solicitor department.

you ask for advice off friends and family. you go visit a few and see which one you like and get on with best. most offer 30 min free consultations.

dearlouise

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

you said £60,000 in your op. which is it?

I have my student loan, which bankruptcy wouldn't solve. And the neg equity on the house.

dearlouise

adamantine wrote: »

that is totally uncalled for. no need at all. you had my sympathy till you started insulting people who offered advice you asked for!

What telling me stop acting like the victim & step up to my responsibility?! I've been paying my way ON MY OWN since January... THanks very much.

That I've been foolish with money?!

Does she know my situation? Or my ex husband? Or the debt HE caused...

It's not my fault. I'm not acting like the victim.

I don't want sympathy, I want genuine advice!

This shoes person wasn't giving advice. In fact if I took it I think I'd be up !!!!!! creek.

dearlouise

adamantine wrote: »

you ask for advice off friends and family. you go visit a few and see which one you like and get on with best. most offer 30 min free consultations.

None of my friends or family have needed solicitors in the last 10 years.

I get on with my current one very well! He's just obviously awful at his job.