Is this rude, or is it just me?!?

raven83

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

I think when A is old enough to have parties, I will be putting "No RSVP = No Partybag"

thats a brilliant idea!!!!!

make_me_wise

It's not just you, I think it is very rude too. It is only common courtesy to advise the host of a party whether you will be attending or not. They will be laying on some form of catering and need to know numbers.

To turn up at a childs birthday party and bring no present or card is a horrible thing to do. Did these same parents stay at the party or leave their kids and come back at the end, effectively using you as a free babysitting service? Think I already know the answer to that one.

Keep a note of who carried on like this and only invite the children of parents who have some social graces to anything in future. I work as a teacher and see many kids get left out of things, mainly because of how the parents carry on.

It also seems to be very rare nowadays for anyone to write a thank you card when they recieve gifts. Some parents of kids in my class were shocked in the summer when I wrote thank you letters to all of those that had given me end of term presents.

**curlywurly**

I got so fed up of this happening, I told my daughter that she must provide me with the names and phone numbers of all invitees. Invites went out, then after 2 weeks I rang the ones who hadn't responded. A complete pain, but it meant that I knew how many party bags to put together. I always respond to a party invitation within a day or two of receiving it - I don't understand why others can't !

BitterAndTwisted

I have a feeling that there are more people in this country than we imagined who don't know what "RSVP" means.

Spell it out: no response by x date at the latest means the child's presence will not be expected and will therefore not be catered for. I wouldn't be prepared to do any chasing-up. Planning a party usually means you've got quite enough on your hands. People who show up without having accepted the invitation properly should be turned away.

patchwork_cat

This sort of thing is sad but true, was a thread on here not very long ago on exactly the same topic. It is disgusting that people turn up without a present, too. Have had this too even had one woman come to my baby shower without a gift and definitely no RSVP.

You can't excuse a lack of knowledge of the meaning of RSVP when they don't bring card or present or turn up early, they just lack manners and don't care. The thing is they obviously don't really care about their own children either as this reflects badly on the children.

If my children had had an invitation to a party from a very early age they would have been saying where's the card and what should we get jimmy for a present and would have been very upset if they had arrived without gift and card, so it surprises me that the children would not be bothered by not giving a gift.

Moominmamma

make_me_wise wrote: »

To turn up at a childs birthday party and bring no present or card is a horrible thing to do. Did these same parents stay at the party or leave their kids and come back at the end, effectively using you as a free babysitting service? Think I already know the answer to that one.

Yes, you do

Patchwork cat, yes, my dd would be completely mortified too if I sent her to a party without a present, not that I would dream of doing so.

raven83

Kay_Peel wrote: »

Here's a practical suggestion for all you mums

Gary Barlow's 7th Birthday Party

Time: 1-4pm
Date: 30th October 2011
Place: Secret Location
Phone me/see me for details

Phone number: xxxxxxxxxxxx
Name: Kay Barlow (Mum)

Only those who make contact get to know where to drop their children off.

I got this idea after having to cancel an event due to lack of responses. I informed all the people who had replied to me. I had a right old laugh to myself when I heard from the venue that people had turned up in their posh frocks and best suits anyway! Obviously, they hadn't bothered to reply or they would have been on my list.:rotfl:

i love this!!!!:rotfl:

cheepskate_2

raven83 wrote: »

i love this!!!!:rotfl:

Me too, cant stop laughing, ust thinking of the senario

gratefulforhelp_2

make_me_wise wrote: »

Keep a note of who carried on like this and only invite the children of parents who have some social graces to anything in future. I work as a teacher and see many kids get left out of things, mainly because of how the parents carry on.

But so unfair on the kids who can't help the parents they're born to.

System

I'm 25 and still don't got to friend's birthday parties without a pressie or at least a card!

RSVPing is good manners and good manners cost nothing!