Going to a women's refuge

SUESMITH_2

keep strong and i will be thinking of you on monday xxx

Blackpool_Saver

JenJen70 wrote: »

Was it definately Womens Aid you rang?

Like a PP has said WA have a Database that will show them where places are available all over the country, there should be no need for you to be phoning round trying to find a place.

I feel you have been misadviced & would phone back when you have the opportunity.

Good luck

I was thinking the same

BitterAndTwisted

Angel, if you're reading this please find time when he's not around tomorrow to gather together all of the important paperwork like bank stuff and passport. Pack anything and everything you own of value. Get to an ATM and withdraw all the cash you can get hold of. Do the phone thing to the local police which another poster advised earlier.

Log out of this site and clear your history.

Be safe and please, please come back some time to let us know how you are getting on.

pinkcandyflossprincess

ask to get sent anywhere available, if moneys an issue they will sort out transport etc and sort out benefits etc once you arrive. dont let money hold you back x

Dontknowanymore

3moggi3s wrote: »

I've just been off the phone with Women's Aide. I needed advice on how to leave my abusive husband.

They have given me phone numbers to get help, mainly to get refuge. I won't be able to do anything until Monday night until he goes to work. In the meantime I will be collecting my things to get ready in a moments notice when the time comes for me to leave.
Mainly, I need to know that they have room for me Monday night. When they tell me yes, I will not look back.

The reason my husband beats me is I cannot find a job. I know that we are financially in a world of !!!!! and can lose everything, but I don't need to feel more worthless than I do now for not finding employment. I apply for anything and everything, but I just can't get a job. I don't want to put him in jail for what he has done to me, because that would financially hurt him even more. The violence is escalating and now it comes with threats that he is going to kill me.

I just couldn't find the courage until tonight. I feel so utterly ashamed and embarrassed about my situation.

If anyone has gotten out of an abusive relationship and gone into refuge I would like to hear from you.

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. .

Well done on getting the courage to leave hun, it's one of the hardest decisions one can make.

I'm 1 year, 10 months out of an abusive relationship, I have 2 young children, spent 4 months in a refuge and relocated to a little seaside village.
Now I'm about to move one final time to my hometown where I grew up, and can't wait.
My situation was very complex and it hit me and my kids hard but we are fine now.
I won't lie to you, refuge life can be hard, but it's a damn sight easier than living with an abuser!
They will offer you emotional and practical support, will help you sort out benefits etc and can also access charitys for things such as food an clothing if you have none.
Sounds like yours is a planned move so try to remember to take as much official stuff with you as possible such as birth certificate, bank stuff if possible, etc etc.

Good luck op and remember, you deserve better :A

Seanymph

I just wanted to add my support to the other ladies here. I took think if you phone the national number they will sort a place for you. But if they don't it just means a few phone calls, you can do that.

Well done you - I know this is very hard, I too ended a domestically abusive relationship, but I got to keep the house because it was mine - but I remember the long road of rebuilding worth. Why is it the nasty stuff is so much easier to believe?

You are a valuable person, caring and worthy of so much more.

Be careful, stay strong, and get away. Take your marriage certificate, birth certificate, passport, bank details and any bills that have your name on at that address.

Look after yourself and keep in touch. Many of us will be worried about you.

seven-day-weekend

Your story has made me cry.

Be strong and leave on Monday. Thinking of you at this time. xx

SDG31000

I'm hoping you are ok and praising your strength and bravery. You have made the right decision and things will get better. Take care please, I'll be thinking of you and hoping you are safe and well xxx

pookiewn

Well done for being so strong! It takes a lot to do all that you have achieved.
Stay safe, will be thinking of you xxx

suzybloo

Just wanted to add well done for being brave and taking the first step to getting out of this awful situation.
Good luck for Monday, be strong and take care,