Having sex with someone whose on benefit

thequant

I have a lodger who is on benefit and occasionally we have had sex, however over time we have gradually fallen for each other and now want to declare our relationship. As a higher rate tax payer I know that he will not be entitled to benefit anymore.

What we want to know,is that when we declare our relationship will we be accused of being in a relationship previously (we have been living together for a year) and hence have been committing benefit ? How do we prove we wern't previously in a relationship ?

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thequant wrote: »

I have a lodger who is on benefit and occasionally we have had sex,

I'm sure you didn;t have to be quite so specific and state the obvious :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

So you are basically saying you and Lodger have now started a relationship?

Yes, I think there will be suspicion, but unsure how you prove otherwise.

Old_Git

thequant wrote: »

I have a lodger who is on benefit and occasionally we have had sex, however over time we have gradually fallen for each other and now want to declare our relationship. As a higher rate tax payer I know that he will not be entitled to benefit anymore.

What we want to know,is that when we declare our relationship will we be accused of being in a relationship previously (we have been living together for a year) and hence have been committing benefit ? How do we prove we wern't previously in a relationship ?

Is him shagging you payment in kind:eek:
Tell him to get a job .

Errata

You've been in a relationship with him since the first time you 'had sex' with him. Whenever that was. I have no idea how you can offer proof either way.

baza52

You were screwed when you got screwed by him

Niv

baza52 wrote: »

You were screwed when you got screwed by him

Thats a bit of an assumption what with all the gadgets available these days

moneysavingkitten

So you're friends with benefits? (I'm really sorry, I couldn't help myself).

Do you plan to stay with this person?

thequant

Errata wrote: »

You've been in a relationship with him since the first time you 'had sex' with him. Whenever that was. I have no idea how you can offer proof either way.

So it's when we had sex and not started a relationship that counts ? Will we be able to claim his benefit for the days we don't have sex ?

rogerblack

It only counts as a relationship if it's good sex.
You need to fill out an orgasm diary, and submit it, after getting it signed by a medical professional.

More seriously.
Living together is a horribly complex thing from a benefits point of view.
There are no simple rules at all.

At what time would - for example - one of you sleeping with other people have caused problems between you?
(Assuming that it bothers you now)

System

Errata wrote: »

You've been in a relationship with him since the first time you 'had sex' with him. Whenever that was. I have no idea how you can offer proof either way.

To be fair you don't have to be in a relationship to have sex...

whitelabel

which benefits is he on
do you have a rent book, showing payments over a period of time ?, that would negate the uncertainty of when your relationship changed from landlord/lodger to live in couple
Would he retain his own room and still lodge there or share your room ? Would his payments to you towards living costs become shared ?
he may be able to retain soom if he maintained his lodger position and just happened to be a FWB ?