rant..moan..school..bullying.

Kay_Peel

Earlier in this thread, someone posted the link to the moment when Casey Heyes snapped and fought back against his tormentors.

What it didn't show was that Casey had suffered violent attacks every day for three years. He was taunted for being overweight and for not reacting to goading. His humiliation was recorded on phones and circulated. He was a shy and reserved boy who, when he started high school had 12 close friends. Each one left him in case they too were targeted.

His parents told him to turn the other cheek and to let the school deal with it. They didn't like to make a fuss. Teachers maintained that they had a strong anti-bullying policy and would have dealt with it had they known about it.

Casey had contemplated suicide but his sister talked him out of it.

At the start of the incident, Casey feared that he was going to be attacked by the group that was out of view but standing behind the little thug. His instincts took over - fight or flight. Flight wasn't an option because he was cornered.

His parents let him down, never mind the school, in my opinion. I've seen interviews with them and they come across as ineffectually passive and afraid of rocking the boat. They are lucky that their son is alive and not one of the young boys that take their lives because they see no way out.

digitalphase

fedupnow wrote: »

Five and a half months and in training above.

Is that directed at me/my son?

If so, I think MSE really needs a *slap hand on forehead in frustration* smilie and at least a *rolls eyes* smilie.

As LE has said, you carry on hoping the teachers will stop teaching and start acting on the bullies. We'll take care of our own, as I don't think it's worth holding your breath over.

It's been said before - it is not their job to stop bullying. They are employed to teach.
Of course, they should act if they see something happening in class, but many times the bullying happens outside of the classroom like in breaks.

It is the head of year and or head teacher who needs to deal with the bullying. They should discuss what to do when bullying occurs in the classroom, and that most probably will involve sending the bully and or victim to the head of year or head teacher.

You twist people's words a hell of a lot, and seem to think we can't see you doing it...

fedupnow

digitalphase wrote: »

It's been said before - it is not their job to stop bullying. They are employed to teach.

Yes, they are employed to teach. I agree.

The schools have a duty of care.

digitalphase

fedupnow wrote: »

The schools have a duty of care.

Yes, but bullying still carries on and on and on. So I, and the majority on here it seems, will be teaching our kids to stick up for themselves and not to become a victim.

Reggie_Rebel

The schools do not exercise that duty of care. At most primary schools the governing body are in awe of the head and dance to his/her tune.

The bullying exist with no one in authority willing to acknowledge it and it takes a situation like the OP has to bring it to a head.

fedupnow

Reggie_Rebel wrote: »

The schools do not exercise that duty of care. At most primary schools the governing body are in awe of the head and dance to his/her tune.

The bullying exist with no one in authority willing to acknowledge it and it takes a situation like the OP has to bring it to a head.

I agree.

What I have been repeatedly saying, is the school are failing in their duty of care.

On this occasion the ops son hit back. He shouldn't have had to. Maybe it's worked for him, maybe it hasn't, maybe it highlighted the issue and forced the school to act - let's hope the problem is resolved.

But, not all kids are willing/able to fight back. Call them kids with no backbone, blame the parents if you like, whatever, but some can't/won't fight back. As a society we cannot just sit back and let these kids get pushed around. If the parents of any bullied child kicked up an almighty fuss every time it happened, the schools would be forced to take action.

Lazy teachers (yes I said teachers) turn a blind eye in the hope that'll it'll just go away - it won't. And parents are letting them get away with it by shifting the onus onto their kids to solve the problem themselves.

Put it this way, why are parents allowing the schools to bully them into pushing the kids into 'sorting' it. They are kids. They shouldn't have to be sorting it.

I can't imagine what it must be like to be a bullied kid, go to my Mum for help to be told, 'You need to go in and show some backbone.' Imagine if said kid got beaten up, not only does he have that to live with, but the fact his Mum thinks he's spineless.

zoelouise88

I have to say to begin with i was against hitting back but on this occasion it has worked, im not saying it will work everytime as of course some bullies will just keep going back for more.

The bullies involved with my son picked on another lad today my son (feeling confident after making the bully cry) stuck up for him, the bullies then asked my son if they could all be friends and said they wouldnt hurt him no more or any of his friends.

mumps

zoelouise88 wrote: »

I have to say to begin with i was against hitting back but on this occasion it has worked, im not saying it will work everytime as of course some bullies will just keep going back for more.

The bullies involved with my son picked on another lad today my son (feeling confident after making the bully cry) stuck up for him, the bullies then asked my son if they could all be friends and said they wouldnt hurt him no more or any of his friends.

I am so glad that today went well and I hope your son won't have any more problems.:D