Just received this - please help

Murtle

blue_monkey wrote: »

Can someone please tell DH how to do a screenshot and save it to a data key please - is this possible. I think it is important (and I have PM'd her about it) but I do not know how to do that.

A screenshot is done by pressing the prtsc button - this will take a shot of the whole screen including the bar at the bottom.

Holding ALT down whilst pressing PRTSC will give you a shot of the active window.

Then open a word document and press CTRL down whilst pressing V

(or click on edit at the top and paste)

Then save the document as normal [File] [Save As] select the location of the data key and give the document a name.

This all applies if you are on a PC not a MAC

sassyblue

blue_monkey wrote: »

Can someone please tell DH how to do a screenshot and save it to a data key please - is this possible. I think it is important (and I have PM'd her about it) but I do not know how to do that.

There's a few ways of saving data from computers, it would be better to save whole files/folders but if you can't and it's definitely a screenshot you need saving.....

Okay, firstly go to My Documents and make a new folder, call it something you'll remember i.e Divorce Info.

Now go to wherever you need to on the computer and bring up any incriminating evidence so you can see it nicely. On the keyboard press the PrtSc button, you'll think it's done nothing but....

Now press 'Start' - 'All Programs' - 'Accessories' - 'Wordpad'

Now you've got Wordpad opened, at the top select the 'Paste' button OR right click in the wide open black screen below the menu and right click on your mouse and 'Paste'.

You should now see what was showing on your screen.

Now up in the menu bars you can 'Save' this and when you get the screen up navigate to where you made the new folder in 'My Documents' open it up and save the screenshot page in there, you'll have to call it something and it has to be a unique name, (If there's more to the page you'll have to scroll down and do the same thing again so you get the whole page) so if you're saving 2 screenshots of banking info from the internet call them i.e Bank Balances 1, Bank Balances 2 that way you'll keep them together.

Hope that helps xx

Caroline_a

Here's a thought for you, DH. Probably something we should all do from time to time (and I'm the worse culprit of not doing this...)

Make a list of 10 things that you want to do in your life. It might be something as basic as maybe having a bubble bath with a good book and lots of bubbles (if you havn't done that for ages), to white water rafting down the Amazon. Make a third of them achievable in the next 12 months, a third achievable in 5 years and a third...well, who knows!

Write them down and pin them on the fridge. Some of them might be with the kids, say, a holiday to Disneyland Paris. It will give you something to talk about, maybe everyone could save pennies or 20p's (surprising how they add up), and it might be a fun thing to look at every week, teach them budgeting, etc. The easy ones, you can try to plan them. So say on Sunday, kids are going to ex, do the bubble bath one for example...

Get the idea? Just a thought anyway...

Gigervamp

Caroline_a wrote: »

I'm sure if you come back tomorrow there'll be an MSE'er in Wales who can hold your hand when necessary.

I'm in the Bridgend area if that's any help.

blue_monkey_2

Thank you for posting about the screenshots, handy for me to know as well.

I have suggested to DH that she joins the school PTFA and (if they have one) school council and she will meet more parents and give her something to focus on. It is free, fits in with school, you can take little ones and does not cost anything more than time. I've met a few good friends from the school PTFA - otherwise I'd be sitting at home on my todd all day, every day. Now I even 'do lunch' (was out yesterday), LOL.

It's nice just to say 'fancy a coffee' and to have someone to chat to for a few hours. Yesterday morning my friend and I sat with coffee and watched Strictly on Sky+. Just simple things that do not have to cost anything, but also doing these things will give you more confidence too. I know it sounds daft but they really do. You could even go onto being Treasurer, Chair or Secretary if the post comes up (all of them have come up several time in my time there and I am Vice Chair now). This will give you admin experience for getting back into work later too.

Doorstep_horror

Thank you for your advice, unfortunatley my silly net book wouldn't do the screen shot things (not me honest), but I have copied the emails, and stuff off the site where they met and saved to a sd card.

I used to be a member of our PTA but it was very clicky, I think they've changed now, the only problem I have is that they tend to met in the evenings at the pub, not that I mind going to the pub it's just finding a sitter.

What should I do with the information I have on card? Should I pass it on to solicitor? It would be just my luck that when this gets to court that the judge is that way inclined!!!!

4Chickens

What should you do with the information on the card?

Nothing, for now

The solicitors won't be overly interested in it but your ex will be on a more personal level.

Does his Mum, Dad, brothers, sisters, friends know how he met the new love of his life? Or that there are nudey pics available of the both of them?

Tell him about it when you need to. You can use it as a stick to beat him with.

Oh and why would the skanky girlfriend need to go away if/when your children visit their new love nest? Has she got something to hide/be ashamed of? This would concern me, he or she don't appear to have the courage of their own convictions.
Jeeeze what if one of the little ones walked in on some of their sub/dom shennanigans. Nah, don't let your little sweeties out of your sight.

blue_monkey_2

These were the cards I was telling you about DH. That you are able to send a copy to all of his family and show him up for the weasel that he is - especially if the date is on there too - t show what he was doing when apparently working away from home.

It'll not be of any interest to your solicitor right now to be fair, however, it is your stick to beat him with as has already been pointed out. Print it out, show him you have it and you will send it to people if he keeps on thinking he can walk all over you. He is doing the same to you so it is time for him to get a piece of his own medicine now hun. Once you get that first 'one over' on him, it iwll start making you feel stronger and more in control. At the moment he is treating you like a doormat, do what I want, when i want, tough if you do not like it - well sorry, all of that changes. From today.

When he turns up today have a letter ready for him. On it you will tell him that he can come round 2 nights, by prior arrangement and these will be abided by to enable the children to have stability and routine. He can also have xx hours at the weekend (specifiy a day - if the children have clubs to attend, note these on there) Any change to this day will require 24 hour notice unless there is an immediate emergency, and will not be acceptable just before you are due to visit. Also, bath and bed times will be adhered to and they will be bathed at xx time and put to bed at xx time. You will read them a bedtime story if you put them to bed. While you are here, this is your time with the children, I will be in another room and you are not to try and discuss matters regarding the divorce with me at this time, I am in the process of getting a solicitor and correspondance will go through him/her in due course.

Remember, the above will be taken to solicitor so you have to appear to be the one that is level headed and is wanting the best for your children.

And then throw the stick at him. If he messes you, or the children around, you will share this (and show him the print outs). I am hoping that it might show dates - maybe dates when he is supposed to be working away and on business, not 'entertaining'.

You know what, you can do SO much better than a man like him. Fair enough if you are young, free and single or, as a couple you both have these interests and are open with each other, then fair enough - it's game on. But he has disrespected you, your marriage and your children, not only for what he has done but also by allowing pictures of himself to be plastered over the internet with her. I would also google his name, and her name, to see if anything else comes up so that you have more mud to sling at him. He is a loser. I'd wish them luck in their 'relationship' - I think HE is going to need it, she'll be off with other blokes while he is sat at home waiting for her to come home. And as for the person he has left you for, well, words fail me. I'll give it a year before he gets sick and tired of sharing and he'll have no-one to blame but himself. Shame. Not!

blue_monkey_2

His skanky girlfriend is going to go away because she is not in the least bit maternal and she has no interest in the kids - think of this as a bonus!! Seriously, you would not. Skanking herself with her breakfast hanging out and holding different mens privates - Would you want that woman around your kids? Who knows who she might be bringing home, different men through the night when you kids are there. Absolutely no way!! Especially if you know what DH does in that she is NOT sticking to just the one bloke at a time.

Of course, that is if she let's him have the children in the house. As she might well have far more other plans for him.

And as the children are of different ages and sex, when it gets to court they will be expected to have their own rooms so please make the solicitor well aware that there is every intention of them sharing, even though the house is big enough, and because of the said site (which you will show him/her at that time and the intention of her being with numerous different men) you are not happy with the children staying overnight in that house if she is present. Not sure if you can do anything about it but fight tooth and nail trying.

There was a thing on the TV this morning about a couple living together and bought a house together, after a 5 year fight the woman got 90% share of the house and the man 10%, while he paid the mortgage she paid bills and looked after the house. Times are changing, the fact that he has left you to go out and do this stuff while you are at home bringing up the children might give him an even bigger smack in the face than he realises.

NAR

DH just be a little careful about what you do or say about the material you have on them. Don't allow yourself to be put in a situation where you could be accused of blackmail regarding access to the children. I know that is not your intention but solicitors can easily be convinced otherwise.