Just received this - please help

Plans_all_plans

Yeah but legally he can't if you kick up a fuss and start divorce proceedings. You need a good solicitor and to talk to the bank to say he must not remortgage.

sassyblue

Doorstep_horror wrote: »

Yes but the mortgage is in his name only so he thinks he can do as he pleases.

Well he can't, he has children and you to consider.

Would love to see his face when he's told the truth,:rotfl: you need a solicitor ASAP.

lizzielondon

Doorstep_horror wrote: »

Yes but the mortgage is in his name only so he thinks he can do as he pleases.

right ok good just wanted to check you didn't think it was ok for him to do that!

you're coping really well Doorstep, this must be awful for you

piglet74

Doorstep_horror wrote: »

I am really sorry to have caused this, I came here hoping for some advice, and somewhere to off load.

just ignore them!! have you noticed out of all the replies theres just the one person acting like a complet £$%^!!

hang on in there! be strong :A

Doorstep_horror

I feel the only reason I am dealing with it is because of all the reassurances and kind words I am receiving from everyone here.

I know I have to be strong when the little ones find out, but with support you can get through anything.

piglet74

Doorstep_horror wrote: »

I feel the only reason I am dealing with it is because of all the reassurances and kind words I am receiving from everyone here.

I know I have to be strong when the little ones find out, but with support you can get through anything.

you have been so strong already, u will get thru this :A

blue_monkey_2

Doorstep, if you let him think that there is no reason for it he will carry on thinking he can do stuff like this and setting up a new home with his bit of skirt. If you tell him then he might actually realise that he is stuffed. it;ll be at least a week-10 days before he hears from the solicitor, I think you need to tell him what you know. Either by telling him or by printing something off and showing him you know. I am pretty sure you will not see him for dust so he'll be out of your hair for a bit.

At the moment he is just going to keep on coming home and you'll feel like he is rubbing your face in it.

Just text him a copy of a picture while he is at the mortgage advisor, saying 'I know'. It'll at least distract him from what he is doing and he might well stop for today and realise that it is serious this time.

Seanymph

and you have it in spades -what a muppet - ignore them, you should not give your information to anyone.

If he gets another mortgage in his name effectively it will be considered 'debt' when the divorce agreement is organised. It is not in your interest for him to accrue debt.

I cannot think of any situation where it would serve you well for him to take out any loan against a house registered in both your names. You need to disillusion him, and rapidly, from the belief that you will allow him to jeopardise your home.

Thank goodness you have a solicitor already.

Seanymph

blue monkey I wouldn't.

Knowledge is power - the OP has breathing time to get all her ducks in a row, clear bank accounts, ensure that she is doing everything with a long term view whilst thwarting his exit plan.

If she alerts him he'll move swiftly - he's had longer to prepare for this - and paperwork and funds will disappear.

She needs to keep quiet, take advice, and make sure she outsmarts him.

blue_monkey_2

Doorstep_horror wrote: »

I feel the only reason I am dealing with it is because of all the reassurances and kind words I am receiving from everyone here.

I know I have to be strong when the little ones find out, but with support you can get through anything.

You have been strong, however you need to be strong enough to tell him what you know so you can at least stop him doing this one thing. He probably thinks it is all going to be so easy. Give him something to worry about over the weekend instead of it just being you carrying the weight.

Tell him you have seen a solicitor and you will be hearing from him and the house is not going to be sold while there are divorce proceedings going on and while his are children involved. Give him something to worry about - he has thrown enough in your face over the years it is time for payback.