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System

I think i may finally be getting the hang of this flirting lark Had a message back from okcupid guy (and i keep checking his FB...), really want to meet him but don't want to push things too soon. Wasn't sure if he seemed to like me though i showed my flatmate the messages and his male opinion is he does. Wish i was more confident..

Buttonmoons

I love reading this thread Even though I'm not on any dating sites, nor do I particularly want to date - I will never love again!! - That was just my dramatic side coming out, but everyone elses quest for that special someone is nice to read

If you wanna meet him Messedup, just go for it

Buttonmoons

Actually maybe you lot can help me.

Im totally not over the last guy I was seeing. First time I've ever been "ditched" aswell, and actually hand on heart only time I ever felt something more than lust.

Anyways, there is this guy that hangs around in a group of people I do, and he is constantly pestering me, ended up shouting in the street he loved me and whatnot (highly embarrassing) told me that if I ever snogged anyone else out in town - he'd beat them up.......erm okay Mr unstable!


The thing is, it has never been more than drinking associates really, at a push friends, nothing has EVER happened (and never would!) yet he seems to think he has a chance with me, and no matter how often I tell him (nicely) he wont pack his nonsense in.

Whilst I am no awesome stunner myself, I draw the line at dating someone missing very important front teeth and has no inclination to get some fake ones put in, perhaps it's shallow, but the thought of kissing him makes me feel violently ill (oh there goes my caramel squares) I don't find him attractive, at all, its not just the teeth but his whole package in general (personality too, no I don't wanna hear about how big your penis is, go away plz)

So anyways! How do I actually get the message across that he has no chance never ever, and also, how dare he think he can have a say in any sort of men or people I talk too when Im out at weekends socialising.


This is a right rant, erm......Match.com (thought Id throw in a dating site to keep on topic )

Buttonmoons

I have told him many times I'm not interested and won't ever be, I have this inherant fear of offending people, so I do tell him it in a nice way, I've not said "Sorry dude you are way too ugly for me!"

It's funny you mention the guilt thing, as he does have my phone number, and if I don't text him back (I do try and refrain trust me!) he starts writing nonsense like "FML " or warbling on about how he misses his daughter - that he's not seen in like 5 years (well dude stop spending all your money on drink and fly over) and as I have a child, I suppose Im a bit of a sucker for a child related sob story!

You are right though, I need to suck it up, just he is friends with my friends, so avoiding him completely isn't going to be a possibility, luckily, I have chosen to do overtime at work for the next 2 weekends, so I have at least avoided 2 potential meet ups.....

I don't know why on earth he'd think I'd want someone like him around my daughter to be honest, he's incredibly rude about other people (probably insecure) and obviously the teeth thing, and he is just like a bum......(although he does have a job) spends his life sleeping on his mums sofa, or in the pub.......

Maybe I should just snog a guy in front of him

System

Oooh i have made progress! He's added me on FB

newcook

button moons - block his number and tell him firmly you dont fancy him!


That’s great messed-up – I prefer to add them/have them added on fb so you get more of a rounded picture of them. Its easy for people to lie on dating profiles but its harder to do it on a social network!

missmontana

ButtonMoons... Ignore, Ignore, Ignore! He'll get bored and go pester someone else.

missmontana

First msg of the day...

Haha tour. I like it. I am always in ?????? with work so if you are at home during the day & fancy some rerally really unselfish fun (as I love to please & Satisfy)then send me a text.

benb76

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I think i may finally be getting the hang of this flirting lark Had a message back from okcupid guy (and i keep checking his FB...), really want to meet him but don't want to push things too soon. Wasn't sure if he seemed to like me though i showed my flatmate the messages and his male opinion is he does. Wish i was more confident..

If you really want to meet him, then arrange to meet him! Having a long drawn out relationship via emails is a bad idea, as you build up a mental picture of each other that could well differ greatly from real life.

When I was on the internet dating scene, I'd ask a girl if she fancied meeting up after exchanging no more than 3-4 messages, which is enough to establish that you're both interested in each other, next thing is to not mess about and see if you fin each other attractive in real life. I certainly don't think that it's pushing things too soon, worst case scenario is that you don't fancy each other but at least get to meet someone new for a chat, which is always interesting anyway.

newcook

I agree with benb76 – the last couple of dates I have been on have been where we were chatting online for ages and I had an image of them in my head but unfortunately the reality was very different!
Im now in the middle of arranging a date with a guy who Ive exchanged maybe 3 or 4 messages with (completely different approach for me but think its needed!)
I think I actually impressed him with the fact that I do want to meet up (I suggested meeting first) rather than be penpals for weeks on end!