what are the best value dating sites?

marvin

PoF is a waste of time too many liars both male and female (has the name on FB as sh*g central!)

OK Cupid has been much better for me got to know some very interesting women from around the world (most just for friendship they want to improve their English). However I have met a lovely Russian lady (we went on holiday together in Prague for my 50th birthday and she is coming to the UK in the new year for a 2 week holiday.) Intelligent (degree educated) works very hard (interpreter and foreign language teacher) better at English than me (not hard but she is exceptional).

Maybe one day she will say yes when I ask her to marry me (not said yes or no yet!) sigh....

lufcgirl

I've been on PoF for about a day now and it's already beginning to look like the same faces everytime I log in.
I do get quite a few messages but if someone writes 'Hi, how are u?' I don't even reply. Like a girl told me on there, you have to weed out and have exceptionally high standards of people to meet someone you're going to like. So all in all, the one person I messaged when I first signed up like an exciteable little puppy I am, it descended into table tennis emails so as you know we're going to meet next week. Everyone else, straight away by their photograph I can tell I won't like them.

What puts me off a profile is pictures where they're out drinking and there's like ten people in the picture and it's spot who is me! What attracted me to this person is they had a picture of themselves in a childrens playhouse so it just made them seem fun and quirky straight away. I think I'm beginning to sound more and more random! People who pose for the camera and feel that they must have a picture on a night out as their profile picture to show themselves as sociable, thats what I mean

Ladyhawk

I also had a date last night. Though it was with someone I know through work. He is a lot more senior than I am but works in a different division. He is not "the one" (there is a big age gap) but I think it will be fun while it lasts. I had to set out the ground rules though so that he does not just think of me as a bootie call. He was a complete gentleman and even paid for my taxi home from the bar we met up in. Anyway - we have set up another date for when I am back from holiday.

missmontana

My lunch date went really well, he looked better than in his pics, lovely big blue eyes (Irish heritage), very chatty which made my life easy and felt very comfortable in his company, so hoping to do it again next week!

lizziebabe

Hi everyone - hope you don't mind if I join in.
I have been single for a long time now but would like to meet someone now. I've read a lot about other people's experiences - good and bad. I joined a site last night and immediately a guy starting mailing me. I haven't put a lot on my profile, wanting to be a bit of a mystery. I have got loads of 'nudges' to put on my photo - which I will soon. This guy seems really nice and honest and is not pushing me to put on my photo.
I am not bad looking so am not trying to hide anything, but it's nice that someone isn't just communicating with me because of what I look like. I am trying to keep an open mind - so I'll just see what happens. I was married for 20 years and it is hard getting out on the dating scene again. I'm not looking to get married or anything, just to meet some nice people. I've never done one night stands either, and married men are a no no for me.
I'm quite a confident person now - wasn't for a while, just want laughter in my life. So, all the best to everyone out there and I'm ready to meet a few frogs first. Ha Ha

coin_operated_girl

Well it seems like a few of us are being successful with our recent dates All three people I've met have been lovely so far. Its funny because the one I was least bothered about seeing (the guy last night) is the one who I really hit it off with and would want to see again the most (although, perhaps the alcohol has skewed my perception of him)...think I would steer clear of alcohol next time though! Just remembered I got on the wrong train home last night as well. Luckily I live in London so was able to get back OK pretty easily.

The guy who I met last week text me this morning asking if I like him as just a friend or more than a friend. I've only met him once so I'm really not sure so I just said that I do like him and I think we get on really well, but I can't really say any more than that as we've only met once. He hasn't replied (he normally replies straight away) so I'm hoping that hes just busy and I haven't offended him. Does anyone else think its a bit too early to be asking that question though? I mean we talk a lot via text pretty much everyday, but still...

becky170

coin_operated_girl wrote: »

Well it seems like a few of us are being successful with our recent dates All three people I've met have been lovely so far. Its funny because the one I was least bothered about seeing (the guy last night) is the one who I really hit it off with and would want to see again the most (although, perhaps the alcohol has skewed my perception of him)...think I would steer clear of alcohol next time though! Just remembered I got on the wrong train home last night as well. Luckily I live in London so was able to get back OK pretty easily.

I always think a bit of alcohol on a date helps things relax a bit, although I have had some drink fuelled dates where we've got on really well but then when we've met in the cold hard light of day it's been a disaster. And don't worry I've been sick on a first date before (I blame the fizziness of the drink)! It does sound promising though, so hopefully next time there will still be a spark!

I had date number four with the guy I met on match. Things are going well, I really like him although he sometimes gets a bit nervous around me. He wants to see me again so it's all looking good.

coin_operated_girl

becky170 wrote: »

I always think a bit of alcohol on a date helps things relax a bit, although I have had some drink fuelled dates where we've got on really well but then when we've met in the cold hard light of day it's been a disaster. And don't worry I've been sick on a first date before (I blame the fizziness of the drink)! It does sound promising though, so hopefully next time there will still be a spark!

I had date number four with the guy I met on match. Things are going well, I really like him although he sometimes gets a bit nervous around me. He wants to see me again so it's all looking good.

Haha glad I'm not the only one then. I can't blame the fizz, what I was drinking was completely still. I think that was the problem though, as it wasn't fizzy it meant you could drink loads of it really quickly without realising. It was also like 7% and I'm a lightweight so wasn't a good combination. But yeah hopefully if we go on an alcohol-free date we will still get on.

Wow 4th date?- sounds very promising!

missmontana

coin_operated_girl wrote: »

The guy who I met last week text me this morning asking if I like him as just a friend or more than a friend. I've only met him once so I'm really not sure so I just said that I do like him and I think we get on really well, but I can't really say any more than that as we've only met once. He hasn't replied (he normally replies straight away) so I'm hoping that hes just busy and I haven't offended him. Does anyone else think its a bit too early to be asking that question though? I mean we talk a lot via text pretty much everyday, but still...

That is a bit weird if you ask me... especially after one date... watch that one!

I think alcohol should be avoided at all costs for the first few dates, you never know what could happen/what sort of person you are meeting.
I always try to meet in the day for just a coffee or lunch first time round, much safer!

Ok, question... so you get past the 1st date, what do you do for the 2nd date? I have the day free on Sunday and the one from today is free so I said we'd do something, but what??? I'm so out of practice. Neither of us have transport, any suggestions?

lufcgirl

missmontana wrote: »

Ok, question... so you get past the 1st date, what do you do for the 2nd date? I have the day free on Sunday and the one from today is free so I said we'd do something, but what??? I'm so out of practice. Neither of us have transport, any suggestions?

If it was me, I'd probably think going for a walk around a park/along a river/beach and then for Sunday lunch in a pub would be fun. If you wanted to stay you could have a few more drinks whilst there.

Otherwise I would think a movie (you're past the first date!), drink, meal etc. Just the general stuff. Or a zoo or theme park, that's really what I'd want to do, something out of the ordainary!