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coin_operated_girl

I added two people from POF on FaceBook after they asked. I never heard any more from either of them as soon as I added them- trying real hard not take that personally :rotfl:

Although I don't really have much personal info on FB, I've decided that was a bad idea and I'm not going to add anyone else until I've actually met them.

I've got date number 1 tonight. It's just occurred to me that I don't know what we are doing. We are meeting in town but I'm not sure if we are going for drinks or for a meal. We're meeting at 6pm, so I'm guessing its going to be a meal. As I don't know where we are going I don't really know what to wear so I'm just going to go smart casual. I'm actually terrified about tonight. I don't really like the idea of going for a meal as a first date, it feels a bit formal to me and you can't really escape very easily like you can if you are just having drinks. Plus I could do with a couple of drinks to make me less nervous

Oh and I got asked out by someone I know in the real world last night. Too bad I don't fancy him at all. He's incredibly shy as well so its a real struggle to even have a conversation with him. I felt a bit guilty, but hey, honesty is the best policy right?

Wish me luck tonight, he's a real cutie

sapphireeye

coin_operated_girl wrote: »

I added two people from POF on FaceBook after they asked. I never heard any more from either of them as soon as I added them- trying real hard not take that personally :rotfl:

Although I don't really have much personal info on FB, I've decided that was a bad idea and I'm not going to add anyone else until I've actually met them.

I've got date number 1 tonight. It's just occurred to me that I don't know what we are doing. We are meeting in town but I'm not sure if we are going for drinks or for a meal. We're meeting at 6pm, so I'm guessing its going to be a meal. As I don't know where we are going I don't really know what to wear so I'm just going to go smart casual. I'm actually terrified about tonight. I don't really like the idea of going for a meal as a first date, it feels a bit formal to me and you can't really escape very easily like you can if you are just having drinks. Plus I could do with a couple of drinks to make me less nervous

Oh and I got asked out by someone I know in the real world last night. Too bad I don't fancy him at all. He's incredibly shy as well so its a real struggle to even have a conversation with him. I felt a bit guilty, but hey, honesty is the best policy right?

Wish me luck tonight, he's a real cutie

I think whether or not a dinner date is formal depends on the type of restaurant, if he hasn't got somewhere in mind then I'd try and go somewhere a bit more informal. I don't mean like McDonalds but more like tapas or something where it's not a proper three course meal, or somewhere with more of a fun atmosphere. I went on a first date to Nandos once which most people would disapprove of but most men love Nandos and the style of dining means that the pressure isn't on so much and if you get really stuck for conversation you can discuss the Portugese music or the funny slogans on their t-shirts or something....

As for turning down the other guy, if you don't like him then don't feel guilty about it! One of my friends is prone to talking herself into liking guys she isn't interested in just because they've asked her out and she doesn't want to say no, and it doesn't work.

Good luck tonight anyway, report back to us! :-)

Butterfliesarepretty

Well I went on my date today at a coffee shop. I paid at the end for both coffees as I knew I wasnt seeing him again and I always pay if I think there is no spark.
The conversation was a struggle, I wasnt attracted to him in the least but I made conversation, asked him about his hobbies and because I think he was nervous he did answer but his voice was extremely quiet and I found it hard to hear him. I gave him chance to make conversation but aww poor guy I think he did try.
I did get impression that he found me too confident but after I paid for the coffees and I went outside he asked if I wanted to go for a walk and I declined and said Im sorry but I dont think we will be meeting again. I thanked him for meeting me and shook his hand and he gave me a kiss on the cheek, think he was disappointed but just before that he commented on my boots being pointed and wasnt joking, I said 'lots of women wear pointy boots' he reckoned they were sharply pointed and they only have a slight rounded point.

As soon as he said that I knew he wasnt for me. I dated a guy who was negative about the fact i was too confident and he felt threatened by a girl who had her own place, job and car and a mind of her own.

So today Id already decided after that comment about my boots that he was a definite no no.
A nice quiet girl will like him I think.

Anyway move one lol.

lufcgirl

I've been browsing POF for an hour or so and have already spoke to a couple of nice-ish people. One I got a reply from straight away and they're working at the moment so said would mail again later.

What made me laugh is that I've found one of my best friends' ex's on there too and I couldn't help but look at her profile! The amount of people I know/know of is quite surreal to me. I hate the ones who just click they want to meet me without even sending a message though!


Good luck to everyone who has dates tonight!
And Butterfliesarepretty...at least you met him and now you know. Plenty more people out there for you. I'm sure that most men are intimidated by what you have listed, here's hoping you find someone better soon. Are you speaking to anyone else at all?

GemmaB78

Butterfliesarepretty: that's a pity but at least you were honest & upfront.

Good luck COG - smart/casual sounds like the way forward...

Butterfliesarepretty

lufcgirl wrote: »

I've been browsing POF for an hour or so and have already spoke to a couple of nice-ish people. One I got a reply from straight away and they're working at the moment so said would mail again later.

What made me laugh is that I've found one of my best friends' ex's on there too and I couldn't help but look at her profile! The amount of people I know/know of is quite surreal to me. I hate the ones who just click they want to meet me without even sending a message though!


Good luck to everyone who has dates tonight!
And Butterfliesarepretty...at least you met him and now you know. Plenty more people out there for you. I'm sure that most men are intimidated by what you have listed, here's hoping you find someone better soon. Are you speaking to anyone else at all?

Hi no nobody else Im speaking to at the moment. Lots of people look at me but any messages I get are from other ethnicities and i just dont fancy them. Im looking to meet someone whos bubbly and has kids like me. If you think my profile needs tweaking a bit please say lol

lufcgirl

Your profile is really nice, a lot better than mine which is just negative! I did have to scroll back a couple of pages on here to find your username. You do seem very focused on what you want.

Mine is gems_endgame And I know, I completely know I said a few negative things in it, but it's to make sure the people I have no interest in don't bother messaging! And because I couldn't think of anything better to write...

Butterfliesarepretty

lufcgirl wrote: »

Your profile is really nice, a lot better than mine which is just negative! I did have to scroll back a couple of pages on here to find your username. You do seem very focused on what you want.

Mine is gems_endgame And I know, I completely know I said a few negative things in it, but it's to make sure the people I have no interest in don't bother messaging! And because I couldn't think of anything better to write...

Ive just looked and there are only three things you have wrote that are dislikes. You are being honest. Ive a long list because when you get to my age you dont want perfection but you want to avoid people who mess you about.:)

There_Goes_Trouble

I've just had a quick nosey at a few of your profiles, so if you notice you've been 'viewed' by a not-quite-forty-year-old woman, that's me!!

missmontana

Its when you find your exes profile on there.... and you know its all absolute lies!