what are the best value dating sites?

Bazey

jazabelle wrote: »

I prefer to spend evenings in - watching a good film or boxset, or even snuggling up with a good box

I'd change that sentence as it probably leads to confusion...

jazabelle

Bazey wrote: »

I'd change that sentence as it probably leads to confusion...

Haha, oh yes - thanks.

Also - I've changed mobility problems to "I have a chronic pain condition that has impacted on my ability to walk far" to quantify that a little.

jazabelle

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

To be honest with you, I don't really think it matters what you write on there, I think men go by a visual thing. They look at your pictures first. If they like what they see they will message you and ask you questions.

I agree that's important, but as I said not mentioning it wasn't going well either. I don't know.

Februarycat

I never get any messages on POF , the other 2 sites I'm on I get one or two messages but usually from men miles away from me, or ones with no picture, so sort of given up with it all now.

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Just Don't Take It All Too Seriously.
I did at first, but its not the way to go.
Ive met 7guys, only one my type but ive said I just want to be friends with him as I want to meet others.
Not sure what is it, but I must have the banter.. I don't take it seriously, as ive been let down a few times.
I met a man today, and he was nothing like his pictures at all.
When people say average weight I wish they would be truthful. He looked a hell of a lot younger in his pictures, even though he said they were recent, as soon as I saw him I realised they weren't. And twice the size in real life. what a waste of a day! Im honest in my pictures, got ones posted taken 2weeks ago.
Onwards and upwards though got another 4 on the go now. This is fun

Prothet_of_Doom

Jinx wrote: »

I met my hubby on a dating site. I found that the ones you pay for were better if you were looking for something more long term - I figures if they were too cheap to pay they were too cheap to go on dates!


Good luck

I've seen similar on car sales sites. Often if it's free to advertise, you get people trying it on.

Bazey

Ok stupid question. Had date last night (my first one on POF), went really well, we have only been chatting for a week and she asked me out, before we met we exchanged numbers. At the end of the evening we both said we would like to see each other again but could not pencil anything in diary yet. When I got home I sent her a quick text to check she got home ok and say I really enjoyed her company and look forward to seeing her again, she replied saying the same.

Now, is it etiquette to continue messaging via POF? Do I look like a sleaze if I continue to go on there? I guess I'm allowed to keep my options open, but I'm not looking for anyone else?

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Bazey wrote: »

Ok stupid question. Had date last night (my first one on POF), went really well, we have only been chatting for a week and she asked me out, before we met we exchanged numbers. At the end of the evening we both said we would like to see each other again but could not pencil anything in diary yet. When I got home I sent her a quick text to check she got home ok and say I really enjoyed her company and look forward to seeing her again, she replied saying the same.

Now, is it etiquette to continue messaging via POF? Do I look like a sleaze if I continue to go on there? I guess I'm allowed to keep my options open, but I'm not looking for anyone else?

That's entirely up to you.
It doesn't mean that your looking for someone straight after the date. I must admit I thought this at first and was put off.
But I do chat to guys that I may not meet. Nothing flirty, just general chit chat and they've become friends so to speak.
She may be doing this too. If you like her maybe come off it for a few days and see how the water lies so to speak.
For myself ive met guys on there and did have a relationship with one, he said he was coming off the site because he had met the "one" which was supposedly me, then he ended it 6weeks down the line. So for me I do go back on there, Ive given up putting my eggs in one basket. But that's only my opinion and everyone else is different.

jazabelle

Ok, a little update. I have changed all my profiles now to the above to my condition is mentioned, and put a picture of myself with the stick.

Today had a message from someone mentioning it in a really positive way. He's not right for me - he's double my age and too far, but it shows it wasn't a bad idea. I feel way more open now, I always felt I was hiding something and as soon as I mentioned it that would be it.

Bazey - I wouldn't expect that after one date. Lots of people have good first dates, but don't end up together. I'd keep chatting, and hopefully you'll have a few more good dates then can discuss it!

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That's good Jazabelle. Its best to be upfront and honesty is the way to go.
Which is what I was saying about some pictures on there, Once we get to meet someone then they will be disappointed if the pictures and profile don't match the person you think you are meeting. I felt a bit duped this afternoon.