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ali-t

Bazey wrote: »

Ok stupid question. Had date last night (my first one on POF), went really well, we have only been chatting for a week and she asked me out, before we met we exchanged numbers. At the end of the evening we both said we would like to see each other again but could not pencil anything in diary yet. When I got home I sent her a quick text to check she got home ok and say I really enjoyed her company and look forward to seeing her again, she replied saying the same.

Now, is it etiquette to continue messaging via POF? Do I look like a sleaze if I continue to go on there? I guess I'm allowed to keep my options open, but I'm not looking for anyone else?

If I was you I would keep messaging her on POF. The paranoia kicks in on that site and when you log in you see if others you have chatted to are logged in so, (my!) logic dictated that if the people i was chatting to were online but messaging me by phone or e-mail rather than on POF then they were messaging other girls. So, if you want to check any messages you get, ensure you drop her a quick hello while you are there so she doesn't think you are a player.

I'm glad to hear your date went well, POF does have lots of genuine people as well as the eejits.

Bazey

I have my second date tomorrow. Wish me luck.

[Deleted User]

Good luck, wish me luck too I have a 3rd date with the same guy. Think this one seems ok. Im fed up with multiple dating. I had two meetings in one day on Monday. Ive now met around 10 I think, ive lost count.
Last Monday afternoon was a waste of space guy. I personally think he was in a relationship. He wasn't at all happy, moaned quite a bit. He said he was single but to be honest he spent all his time talking about saving money with coupons!! Seriously sounded tight and took his costa card out when he paid for the coffees!!! Very MSE though :rotfl:
The other date got a bit too fresh and started pecking me and grabbing me on the bum! he messaged me a few days later and said is that it then??
The guy im seeing tomorrow ive seen twice and were getting on really well

ali-t

Bazey wrote: »

I have my second date tomorrow. Wish me luck.

Enjoy Bazey, knock her dead (well not literally). Got everything X`ed for you that it goes well.

dandelionclock30

To be honest J I think you would be better off widening your interests and hobbies and join some groups classes etc.Or get out with friends more.Then when you meet people they can get to know you and your disabilities will not be an issue if they really like you and they want your company.
I think you have more chance of meeting someone decent this way than dating websites.

paulineb_2

Bazey wrote: »

Ok stupid question. Had date last night (my first one on POF), went really well, we have only been chatting for a week and she asked me out, before we met we exchanged numbers. At the end of the evening we both said we would like to see each other again but could not pencil anything in diary yet. When I got home I sent her a quick text to check she got home ok and say I really enjoyed her company and look forward to seeing her again, she replied saying the same.

Now, is it etiquette to continue messaging via POF? Do I look like a sleaze if I continue to go on there? I guess I'm allowed to keep my options open, but I'm not looking for anyone else?

Ive always talked to who I like when I like on POF but if someone wanted to see me, ie date me, Id let other people know I was seeing someone

The only issue arises if you start dating someone and keep looking, I was seeing someone on there last year, we were friends for about 6 months first and when he changed his location, he changed his profile and didnt say he was seeing someone, but his profile had been updated.

To cut a very long story short he was still actively looking for someone and thats when he got the boot.

It wouldnt bother me if someone stayed on POF after I met them, it would bother me massively if they were looking for someone else.

paulineb_2

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

To be honest J I think you would be better off widening your interests and hobbies and join some groups classes etc.Or get out with friends more.Then when you meet people they can get to know you and your disabilities will not be an issue if they really like you and they want your company.
I think you have more chance of meeting someone decent this way than dating websites.

Im not sure thats the case to be honest. Im a member of several meet up groups, all women. Or mostly women and one token man. I go out with friends regularly. I think the joining groups and meeting someone is very hit and miss.

Like the gym, Ive been going to and doing classes at the gym for about 10 years on and off now, probably longer if I thought about it.
Its mostly women who do the classes as well.

Ive met a few good friends from POF and met up in real life, but I dont take it too seriously, I also have a social life outside of POF or anywhere else on the net

Meeting people is chancy full stop I think.

jazabelle

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

To be honest J I think you would be better off widening your interests and hobbies and join some groups classes etc.Or get out with friends more.Then when you meet people they can get to know you and your disabilities will not be an issue if they really like you and they want your company.
I think you have more chance of meeting someone decent this way than dating websites.

If only it were that easy! I'm quite limited by what I can do and already get out all I can.

It takes a lot of effort and recovery time to leave the house. I run a voluntary group which takes up a lot of my time and I meet a lot of people through that, but they're either older, women or married! I sometimes go to a support group but again, the men there are older. When I go out with friends (who have similar conditions) we can only really make it for a short time, and it's usually for a good catch up as someone will have had to cancel the last couple of dates out!

I have a lot of interests and hobbies - but they're craft-based, or computer based, which tend to be quite solitary (and for the first female based) but they fit my abilities.

If someone is going to date me - they're going to have to be someone who prefers to be home, or is happy to go out without me, because for a lot of the time it just won't be possible.

I'm know I'm pretty damn undateable, but I can do things - it just takes time, patience and planning.

Trying to meet people in 'real-life' hasn't worked, as I just rarely meet any single men my age.

Heffi1

Why do you feel the need to spam here, if we want to find dating sites we can do it on our own, we certainly do not need your broken English adverts for them, thanks all the same... reported as :spam:

I am not quoting them so that they can be removed without anyone else having to read about them.

Barny1979

It still probably won't, even after your spam attempt!