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ncsmummy wrote: »

I met my OH on POF last year, I had loads of messages from blokes that were blatently only after 1 thing on there but I met 2 men in real life and they were both lovely. The first was a nice bloke and we did stay intouch for a while via text but there was no *spark* and the other was my OH and he is amazing. You just have to weed out the good ones!!

Hi, how long did it take you and how old were you. All I seem to get are messages from a lot of older men....

summerof0763

is anyone else having problems signing up to pof? wont let me join:( x

System

I convinced my best mate to sign up to PoF and okcupid, as he's been single 3 years (seriously don't know why, he's an awesome guy!) and he had his first date yesterday with a lovely sounding girl from PoF. It went very very well and i think there may be romance in the air!

ncsmummy

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

Hi, how long did it take you and how old were you. All I seem to get are messages from a lot of older men....

Hi. I was 31 and he was 27. I was on there for a couple of months before Imet him and had messages from so many old men/men looking for 1 thing. I had also messaged people and had no reply etc

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ncsmummy wrote: »

Hi. I was 31 and he was 27. I was on there for a couple of months before I met him and had messages from so many old men/men looking for 1 thing. I had also messaged people and had no reply etc

See I think if your younger it makes a lot of difference. I'm 48, I have no children at home, no ex's hanging around and I'm financially ok. I don't look my age and im slim and petite, I don't have trouble finding men to have coffee with but I do have trouble in finding them at my level in life.
Unfortunately, my coffee meet 4) I've found out has now been in contact with his ex!!! when he said he doesn't want to know her! Lots of men have very young children too. Mine have left home and I met a guy with a 6year old. I had to ask myself do I want to be with someone with a child so young, who'd been married twice and engaged too.

samuelthomson240

Well the best of luck to you all wish I could find someone

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samuelthomson240 wrote: »

Well the best of luck to you all wish I could find someone

Join The club :rotfl::rotfl:
You've got to have faith

nfollows1982

Just to balance this thread out a little, for all you lovely ladies who are genuinely looking there are just as many crazy women on POF!!

Believe me I've been on dates with a few of them myself!

But there are genuine people on POF and as I've said many many pages back, I met my wife on POF and we had a beautiul baby girl in January so it can and does work.

If I could offer one piece of advice it's to cast your net a little further and perhaps message a guy who you perhaps normally wouldn't (maybe cos of looks or hobbies etc they've listed) and just have confidence in yourself.

I had seen my wife's profile online for 2 weeks before I decided to message her purely because looks wise I felt she was 'out of my league' but it's the best thing I ever did.

Don't give up!!

jazabelle

Phew, finally read through the whole read! It's an interesting read - thrilled for those of you that have found love, those still posting who are looking and the others offering help on profiles, etc.

I'm also here for help! I'm new to all this. Basically my issue is that I'm 26 and have a condition/disability that impacts on my mobility. I use a walking stick for short distances and a wheelchair for others.

I'm finding it quite difficult. The advice on here is generally to meet up with people quite quickly - which I agree with, however I would never meet up with anyone without telling them first. So my first few profiles on POF and OK Cupid I've not mentioned it, and have been chatting to a few people, getting on really well with lots of shared interests until they talk about meeting. I then try and say it like 'Okay, but before that I just wanted to let you know I have a chronic pain condition condition that impacts on my mobility, so I do walk with a stick, and use a wheelchair too. I know it's a lot to take in, and will put some off - but if you have any questions I'm really open about it.'

I've then never heard back. Not even a - thanks for chatting to me for a week, but no.

So I've just created a profile on e-Vow and taken a little bit of a different approach - I've mentioned it in my profile, and added a picture of me dressed up, but you can see the stick in it. I was hoping they would still see I'm a human being, you know?

So, what do you think? I see Messed Up put in her profile upfront she is Bipolar, and has clearly found love - so maybe it's best just to say?

What I was hoping is that people would get to know me first before dismissing on the basis of the disability, but as that's happening anyway - maybe cut that step out?

Also, I was wondering what people think of the way I've said it in my profile please?

I prefer to spend evenings in - watching a good film, or new boxset. That's not to say I don't like going out - I particularly enjoy exploring local places I haven't been to before, or enjoying a social meal with friends.

I am quite creative, and can often be found writing, or crafting. I love to take something old and make it beautiful again.

I have a chronic pain condition that has impacted on my ability to walk far. This has enabled me to discover a lot about myself and other people. It's brought a lot of positive in my life too - as I now run a disability access group, enjoy fundraising work for charities and campaigning on important issues.

I am a little introverted until I get too know people, then I'm friendly and chatty.

Quite simply, I am looking for someone kind, who I can talk to and share interests with - and most important of all get rid of spiders for me!

Any thoughts appreciated (on any of it!). Thanks all.

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To be honest with you, I don't really think it matters what you write on there, I think men go by a visual thing. They look at your pictures first. If they like what they see they will message you and ask you questions.