what are the best value dating sites?

fordcortina

Holy hell! Those reviews are certainly an eye opener! I noticed that eHarmony UK faired a little better (although eharmony.com didn't).

I think from your advice, I have learnt that I'm going to do a bit more 'homework' on Match & eHarmony, but perhaps first, try the free sites to learn how this type of dating works.

Thanks once again SS!

Just noticed your post Ladyhawk. Thank you! Interesting to hear of your experience with eHarmony. Yes, I see what you mean, regarding the issues caused by them selecting people for you. I had been 'edging towards' them after reading the Match reviews too!

Clearly, this needs careful thought (particularly if you're paying a not inconsiderable sum of money). Anyway, I'm off out to walk my dog... who is sat here with his legs crossed, as I became quite engrossed in all this!

Thanks once again!

Ladyhawk

ARGH! I was going to sign up to Match but you actually have to sign up before they will tell you how much it costs.

Hurrumph... I won't be wasting my time signing up then.

fordcortina

Hi Ladyhawk,

I hope I'm giving you the correct information... I found prices amongst the stuff I ploughed through when I registered (not a paying member though, so can't see full details). Here is the info, but you'd need to look at the cashback sites, or google for voucher codes, to see if there are any current offers.

The prices for Match.com are:
1 month £29.99 per month
3 months £19.99 per month
6 months £12.99 per month

Hope this helps

SailorSam

Compare costs of various sites, there's a link there about how not to have money problems if you cancel.

http://www.datingtrail.co.uk/online.php

http://www.uknetguide.co.uk/Lifestyle_and_Leisure/Article/A_Guide_to_Free_Online_Dating_Sites-106508.html

smudger1964

I have found as someone said its a numbers game have used oasis and smooch in the past they are ok its just simply there arent enough people on there,the only "free" site that has many potential dates is pof..And I have been told by a fair few ladies that paying for a site ie match and the others doesnt necessarily mean you get a better "type" of experience as there are players on all the sites

fordcortina

Well, there's been plenty of useful info already... a sincere thank you to all 'contributors'. Any other viewpoints welcome also!

fozziebeartoo

I would just like to make a little point about the settings you chose.

I was on POF and had lots of dates, some pleasant, some very odd!!

I am in my 50's, out of a 30 year marriage and said I was looking for "friendship".

After several particularly pervy 1st dates :rotfl: I decided to see what happened if I changed to looking for a "relationship" and a whole different load of chaps popped up, including THE one, we are getting married in 6 weeks :T

The point I want to make is, you dont get to see everyone with Pof (and maybe the others) it is based on your preferences.

My lovely man and I were registered and looking for someone side by side......but we just couldnt SEE each other until I changed my settings!!

So if you arent meeting the right sort of dates, a change of settings might be worth a try!

LukerHutcher

I've just joined this site purely to get this off my chest. I don't even know how to start a new thread, so i'll just put it here. Feel free to repost it in an more appropriate place.

I thought i'd join Benaughty, as I wasn't having much luck with some other lesser known sites. Boy what a mistake. Ok, everything looks great when you sign up and have a look around as a free member. I remember within just a few days i had recieved 43 emails (obviously i cudnt read them, you have to join), but with that kind of response i thought it had to be worth signing up. But the thing is, once you shell out your hard earned dosh, you quickly come to realize, that nothing actually changes except being able to view a bit more! Those emails, were actually all 'IceBreakers', sent to everybody not specifically you. I HAVE ACTUALLY PAID for SIX BLOOMIN MONTHS , what a terrible mistake! If you're a free member, dont make the same mistake, just leave after reading this post. I thought it was one of the best sites going, in the Top Ten of well known sites etc. But....in short You can't chat to anyone...........you
never get responses to emails. You get such an overwhelming amount of scams profiles, and scam people starting chats, that you lose the will to even try and find out who's genuine. I've even paid for the Standard Contacts Upgrade, and STILL NOTHING. I've sent hundreds(!) of mails to different women near and far, not ONE, even ONE, response, even if only to tell me they're not interested. I would actually love to get a mail from a member telling me i'm not their type or whatever, at least it would ACKNOWLEDGE that i exist and i've sent something!! Jeeez. I'm no mathmatician but sheer probability tells us that somethings not right here. If you send out over 200 emails (yes they were friendly, nothing perverted) ....Either ALL women are ignorant and cant spare a few seconds to reply, or they're STILL not recieving my messages. (or unable to reply, despite paying for said upgrade). Ok, i'm not the richest, best looking, funniest, whatever guy out there, but i'm a valid member of the site that we're all in together and deserve a response from time to time. Even AdultFriendFinder where the women outnumber the men even more than this sorry site, has given me SOME response. THe only 'mail' you may be lucky enough to get is from scammers and autobot programs that just 'phish' for you, send you ratings, winks , invite you to view their camera etc...........trying to get even more money. After a while you just start asking yourself what you're doing here. Demoralizing. Also a large number of profiles who seem to be women, are actually guys who pretend to be women just so they can try out the site properly, in the end you just don't know who to trust, its too flooded with non genuine members. I would take great pleasure in stopping my directdebit if it was done monthly, but unfortuantely it took the payment in one go when i signed up. Utterly dissapointed. Another point while i'm moaning, it amazes me how fussy the women are on sites like this, particularly about age, looks , race, weight, whatever......guys aren't nearly as picky! Hello this is BENAUGHTY, not FINDYOURSOULMATE, dot com. It's supposed to be about casual fun. I guess its coz we guys are unfortunately the competing 'beggars' and the women are inundated with 1000s of mails/chats and can simply afford to ignore everyone except the most interesting to them. All these 'casual' dating sites are basically man traps. Coz men tend to think with something other than their brain. But i'm starting to get wise to it all now, 5 sites down the line. Any site where the women join for free is a no go from now on. I can't believe such a well known site can get away with such an appalling service and badly designed website. If i can persuade just a few poor guys not to join then it won't have been wasted. THIEVES. :mad:

VestanPance

Sex website with a high percentage of it's user being horny guys that get nowhere in non-shock. People using these guys thinking with their third leg to scam money out them, as old as mankind itself.

Plus the genuine women on these sites can be picky, You get zero messages a day, you can bet your behind they are getting hundreds.

Lesson to learn think with your brain. Sites like that aren't man traps they're horny idiot traps.

cherylsurrey

Women dont join sex dating sites like the ones you mention they are designed for desperate men to part them from their cash.

Adultfriendfinder would work if you were part of a couple, single men have no chance, unless you look like a greek god!