what are the best value dating sites?

SailorSam

sapphireeye wrote: »

I'm not a bloke, but me and the bf met on a dating site last year and his profile picture was of him (quite clearly) at a theme park with his little niece and nephew and I thought that they all looked really cute ;-) my bf's picture meant that I could talk about theme parks and families with him.
Generally I think that if you can have a photo with something a bit out of the ordinary to catch people's attention then that really makes a difference when you're scrolling through a sea of faces. I also made sure I chose a photo where I thought I looked pretty much like I normally do (ie. not overly dressed up because I don't look that good all the time) so I wasn't creating any false impressions!

When i'm looking at profile photos i don't want to see what a nice car or motorbike you've got; as nice as it is i'm not interested in seeing the mountains or sea when you were holiday with you in the distance, and i don't want just a single photo of you and your mates on a night out (which one are you?????).
I agree with Sapphire that you don't need to be dressed to the nines, casual/smart is better so long as it's a close up where we can see your face.
But Sapphire, please please please a definite No is kids. When you've been talking if you want to swop those pics off-line that's fine. But on a public forum, No Kids.

Li0nhead

Cannot believe this thread is still going.

SailorSam

Li0nhead wrote: »

Cannot believe this thread is still going.

Lionhead i can't believe all these Internet dating sites are still going.
We all come on here night after night complaining about the idiots we've written to or met and still we keep going back for more.

FattyBettyBoo

Sorry if this has been discussed (many times?) before, but is it dating site etiquette for women to message men first?

Just signed up to Match today and seen a couple of blokes who seem nice. What do most people do? Message them, wink or wait ....

Frogletina

Message them. The only men I have met on POF I messaged first, the ones who messaged me first who then wanted to meet me either cancelled or didn't turn up.

Good luck

SailorSam

Go for it BettyBoo, you're only having a chat.

FattyBettyBoo

Go for it BettyBoo, you're only having a chat.

That's what I was thinking. But if they wanted a date they'd have to ask first!

SailorSam

Once you've started talking it's easier, if you feel more comfortable just talk 2; 3; 4 more times if you want and each time flutter your eyelashes a little bit more. Even if he can't see them he'll know you're flirting. If he sounds like an idiot it's easier to get away. After a couple of chats suggest the phone or Msn/Skype again you can block him if it doesn't feel right

mel48rose

Hi, just wanted to say that my partner and I met via POF and have been together 2 years next week. I had only been on there for a week and he had for 2 wks!

JustKeepSwimming_2

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

Well had a shocking date tonight

1 She was over a hour and half late, ok not the end of world things come up.
2 She was more content on flirting with the waiter then talking with me
3 When not flirting with the waiter she talked, alot, about her ex - oh he did that and it upset me, and this upset me and I always felt this with him.

Then at the end had the nerve to just get up and leave, no thank you for or anything.

Does no one have any bloody manners any more?

Oh Scotty, that is rubbish. What a horrible way to treat anyone. I don't think shes a keeper

0^0 wrote: »

Scotty Scotty Scotty, listen...........take a tip from an old hand.

This is what I would have done if someone had kept me waiting one and a half hours. (not that I would have waited that long anyway, but never mind)

I would have let her flirt away with the waiter, that wouldnt have bothered me, but the thing that would have bothered me the most is that she kept me waiting.

Not sure if you took her out for a meal or what but I would have ordered the most expensive thing on the menu, then about halfway through I would have told her I was popping to the loo. I would then use that as an excuse to make a quick exit and leave her to pick up the bill.:)

Let me know if you need any more tips.;)

I hope you didn't end up being seriously out of pocket either. Listen to the Oracle , although I can't help thinking you'd be too much of a gentleman to pull this stunt, however much she deserved it.

FattyBettyBoo wrote: »

Sorry if this has been discussed (many times?) before, but is it dating site etiquette for women to message men first?

Just signed up to Match today and seen a couple of blokes who seem nice. What do most people do? Message them, wink or wait ....

I've messaged a few men who've caught my eye, & they haven't seem suprised to be messaged first so I'd agree with the others & go for it. Not that this approach has done me any good on the dating front :rotfl:

In fact I've cancelled my membership. Did anyone see the recent report on Channel 4 news about how a certain well known dating site provider had encouraged their employees to chat pretending to be looking for dates, & how they share all your personal details with certain "specialised" dating sites that you may not want anything to do with? Not really very suprising news to those of us who have been doing this for a while

So I posted a quick comment on my profile asking if "Anyone was watching C4 news now..." - & queue the emails from "support"defending their corner most vehemently. I did say that having joined a dating site aimed at single parents I was suprised to find myself on a rubber/fetish site :rotfl:

The final nail in the coffin was how the location feature had changed & my location was pinpointed to a tiny hamlet of about 8 roads :eek: without me receiving any email about the change (that came 3 days later & after I had put in a false postcode as I cannot delete my account myself). I'm not comfortable with such detail being shown on a public forum when previously I had come under the nearest city.

So that is me done for now, but I will pop in & see how you are all doing. Oh & I'll post next week about how I've stumbled upon the man of my dreams now that I've stopped looking :rotfl: