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VestanPance

deedee71 wrote: »

We've both removed our profiles. I do get what your saying, my first reaction was it's fine, he's being honest. But the reality is I'll have to play a waiting game and then be judged against someone else (if he doesn't cancel).

I'm not thick skinned enough!

If you think about it on a first date you are always being judged, as well as doing a bit yourself. That's just human nature.

I must admit I couldn't do the multi-dating thing. It's probably an age thing but it just seems disrespectful to me, but I think what you and I would term normal dating as in seeing one person and seeing if anything develops and if not then moving on is viewed as very old fashioned these days. You'd definitely be in a minority dating today holding that sort of view.

System

VestanPance wrote: »

If you think about it on a first date you are always being judged, as well as doing a bit yourself. That's just human nature.

I must admit I couldn't do the multi-dating thing. It's probably an age thing but it just seems disrespectful to me, but I think what you and I would term normal dating as in seeing one person and seeing if anything develops and if not then moving on is viewed as very old fashioned these days. You'd definitely be in a minority dating today holding that sort of view.

You're not alone with that view, when i was dating i would only see one person at a time, see how it went, if it didnt work then look at other people. I don't think its fair to date more than one person as how can you give someone 100% of your attention (and thus get to know them and vice versa) if you're only really giving them 50%? Plus, personally i was looking for a relationship, so don't feel i would want to be emotionally involved with more than one person at a time

But maybe it is an outdated view and i'm not with time times

deedee71

I've just noticed this in ali-t's sig - If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always got

I have been made a fool of before and feel I should be more pro-active in this situation. I've an email all prepared saying I'm just going to bow out as it's too messy.

Can't seem to send it though

Scotty1.7

Well had a shocking date tonight

1 She was over a hour and half late, ok not the end of world things come up.
2 She was more content on flirting with the waiter then talking with me
3 When not flirting with the waiter she talked, alot, about her ex - oh he did that and it upset me, and this upset me and I always felt this with him.

Then at the end had the nerve to just get up and leave, no thank you for or anything.

Does no one have any bloody manners any more?

deedee71

Wow, Scotty I haven't read the back story to this girl you're dating but she sounds like a waste of space. She obviously has no respect for you.

Funny how it's easy to see with other people isn't it. Still can't make up my mind what to do so am doing nothing. Not heard from him today and don't expect to as his hot date is tonight.

newcook

Well Scotty, Im impressed that you waited an hour and a half for her!! I would have been gone once I had finished my drink!!

moneypenny2k

newcook wrote: »

Well Scotty, Im impressed that you waited an hour and a half for her!! I would have been gone once I had finished my drink!!

Me too, half an hour max and then only if they've contacted me to say they are running late

chirpchirp

Hey, can I join?

I've had some luck with pof in the past but it really is like looking for a needle in a haystack on there. At least people actually seem to use it unlike okcupid and smooch.

What attracts you to someone on there? Do you prefer to contact people with pictures?

Frogletina

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

Well had a shocking date tonight

1 She was over a hour and half late, ok not the end of world things come up.

Was this the first time you met her?

Did she text or ring you to say she was going to be late? I waited half an hour for one date but because he had my mobile number, I figured that during that time he could have called me to say he was running late so I didn't wait any longer.

Didn't ever hear from him again to this day. And he was the one pushing to meet me, so don't know what that was all about.

deedee71

Hi chirpchirp. I was inundated with smutty messages on smooch. POF has it's fair share of players too though. Personally someone has to have a picture to contact me and I wouldn't contact someone without a picture.

My advice about POF is set your filters early on.