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Foggster

VestanPance wrote: »

Congratulations.

Although I have to admit it always freaks me out a bit to see people get married after knowing each other for such a short period of time.

:eek: I met my husband in July 2002 via a site, married in Feb 2003 and married for 8 years.....

VestanPance

Foggster wrote: »

:eek: I met my husband in July 2002 via a site, married in Feb 2003 and married for 8 years.....

Good on you.

Sorry I wasn't meaning it doesn't work out for some, but personally I can't fathom making that level of commitment after such a short period of time.

maintenanceman

34 pages of POF and not one attractive personality or appearance. I think my time is out.

ceecee1

maintenanceman wrote: »

34 pages of POF and not one attractive personality or appearance. I think my time is out.

And there was me- wondering why I never got any messages

I'm probably not in your age group or location...(hopefully !)

moneypenny2k

Is it me or is there a real difference.

I'm an *cough* older woman, I'll look at a man, perhaps wink at him and then leave it to him if he wants to contact me. If he doesn't then he just doesn't have the good taste to appreciate me...

Men though seem to contact me multiple times even if I've ignored their contact or even replied that I'm flattered by their interest but they're just not what I'm looking for.

Is it just a case, as my friend put it, "Men and women will never be equal until a woman can walk down the road with a beer belly and a comb over and still think they're hot" :rotfl:

deedee71

Looking for some advice from fellow single forumites please.

OK, met a guy on pof and just at the point of meeting up he gets seconded by work for 6 months to the other end of the country. First few weeks we exchanged one email a week, then things ramped up to several times a week to several times a day. This coincided with him mentioning he'd be coming home for a few days mid November. He's not due back permanently till Feb, but I feel he has the option not to come back at all if he wants.

All goes quiet after we chat on the phone on Monday, I call him on it and the upshot is he has been on a date with a local and is meeting her again this weekend. He still wants to meet me next weekend.

I've said I do want to meet - tried to be mature about it, but I can't help thinking this is too icky. However, he had no need to even tell me, it's not like I'd ever have found out.

So, by not meeting I'm punishing him for being honest or giving him carte blanche to do what he likes while he's away????

We're both early 40's and even though I've heard men (and some women) date more than one person till they choose, I've never done it, obviously.

I had said I hoped she knew he would be meeting me next week but he just said he would be "upfront" but I think that is only with me not her.

Help

Mrs_Huggett

Classic I reckon, I would tread carefully, just see what he hopes will transpire when you meet up, my friend is still looking or rather I am for her, and this is the sort of thing that has happened to her, and other women we know, it does seem that a lot of the men (maybe women too) have problems re work, sick hamsters, having to move in with sick elderly aunts twice removed, going to another town because the light is different there....so many stupid reason's why they can't phone, or you can't phone them, or they can't fix a day to meet up for several weeks, months , years....

VestanPance

You need to do what is comfortable for you.

The people that have a date with a different person every other night will think the one at a time people are mad. The one person at a time people often dislike the shopping cart approach to dating that multi-daters deploy.

These days multi-dating seems to be normal, particularly with a medium like online dating. My dating days where over 20 years ago now, but I didn't know a single person that multi-dated back then. It's certainly something that became common in our culture over the last couple of decades, as all the young ones in my work multi-date and think one at a time dating is a mythical thing from films in the 50's! :rotfl:

I think only you can really answer if you'd be happy with that sort of arrangement. Although if you are using online dating sites I'd prepare for the fact the majority of people will line up dates with more than one person if they are getting interest.

deedee71

Mrs Hugget I've already been down that road. Met a lovely guy who I really fell for but he has managed to put off meeting me again for literally years! Unfortunately his Facebook settings must have changed without him knowing and I saw pics of his wife (of 20 odd years) and kids.

That's why I asked this new guy straight out what was occurring. And he's been totally honest!

deedee71

VestanPance wrote: »

I think only you can really answer if you'd be happy with that sort of arrangement. Although if you are using online dating sites I'd prepare for the fact the majority of people will line up dates with more than one person if they are getting interest.

We've both removed our profiles. I do get what your saying, my first reaction was it's fine, he's being honest. But the reality is I'll have to play a waiting game and then be judged against someone else (if he doesn't cancel).

I'm not thick skinned enough!