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Bazey

Hi Folks,

Joined POF just over a week ago. Figured I had nothing to lose, so messaged a few girls I liked the look of.

Girl 1: Just keeps repeating the fact she likes coffee, get the impression she's not much of a talker. Not really going anywhere me thinks.

Girl 2: Really funny, not replied to my 2nd message.

Girl 3 - 9: No replies.

I keep tweaking my profile, and checking out who's viewed me.

I guess it takes time.

ali-t

Bazey wrote: »

Girl 1: Just keeps repeating the fact she likes coffee, get the impression she's not much of a talker. Not really going anywhere me thinks

I think she's probably dropping hints she wants to meet for a coffee rather than chatting online but maybe she thinks the man should make the first move so is paving the way for you to ask the question.

JustKeepSwimming_2

Barny1979 wrote: »

Had a second date arranged for Tuesday, they texted this morning to say they've met someone else Really losing faith with this.

Frogletina wrote: »

Sorry to hear that Barny. I've not had much success, but someone said to me recently that the reason the things haven't worked out is that there is someone there for me who I haven't met yet. I think 10 years is really taking the ****

Barny1979 wrote: »

It's amazing how these people who say that crap are all in happy relationships already

Isn't it just :rotfl: So sorry to hear that your date was cancelled Barny, but if it is any consolation (which it probably isn't) I've heard from 2 men I've been chatting with that they have both had second dates cancelled this week. Its all so hit & miss, isn't it, & does make you wonder how you are supposed to find "the one" that all the smug marrieds insist will fall at your feet when you stop looking.... I do understand the feeling of losing faith though & don't have any words of wisdom to share.

My "dating" is still going nowhere. Those 2 men I've mentioned aren't interested in dating me personally, but they do like to ask me (& maybe other women) what I think about certain dating related things like where would I like to go for a first date etc. Like I know anything about dating :rotfl:

I seem to spend my time analysing how dates have gone for men, & answering questions rather than chatting to any men with a view to even getting replies.....It is very interesting though, amusing in places & shocking in others.

I did get a message from a man nearby last night who is 13 years older than me, yet when I replied he decided I was too old for him . Men - are you all convined that when you're in your 50s then women in their 20s will be falling over themselves to date you?

ali-t wrote: »

I think she's probably dropping hints she wants to meet for a coffee rather than chatting online but maybe she thinks the man should make the first move so is paving the way for you to ask the question.

Bazey - I agree with Ali-t interpretation so why don't you try asking her if she fancies a coffee? Good luck!

mill1exx

Hello,

Spent the last hour or so having a good read through this.

I have been on and off POF for the last 3 years or so and still thinking where have all the good guys gone ?!?

But have had a chortle and a sigh at all your stories.

I am hoping that perhaps another year older may mean another year wiser and a bit more luckier )

moneypenny2k

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

I did get a message from a man nearby last night who is 13 years older than me, yet when I replied he decided I was too old for him . Men - are you all convined that when you're in your 50s then women in their 20s will be falling over themselves to date you?
!

You did make me laugh, I'm 53 and I'm on match where nearly all the men who 'wink' or contact me are in their late 20s or early 30s... The men in what I consider my age braket (40 - 65) want women in their 30s... c'est la vie.

I've had my fill of men who want your undivided attention immediately and want to know why you're not replying if you wait more than 1 minute before replying to an email and those who drop you emails every so often when (I think) the people who they are more interested in are not around... Mind you, I've been single for 14 years now and a died in the wool old maid. What on earth do I know

0^0

The general consensus I get is that some women would love to meet a rich good looking man who will drag them away from their life of benefits and drudgery, whilst some guys on the other hand just want a quick $hag.

When a woman turns up for a date she is sometimes a couple of stones heavier and a good few years older than what she has portrayed, so she doesnt get a second date.;)

And when a guy turns up dressed in scruffy jeans and trainers and counts his change out of an old battered leather purse to pay for their meal at a greasy joes cafe, the woman realises she is onto a loser and never gets back in touch.:rotfl:

LutonGirl

Hi JKS, like you I seemed to spend a lot of time on dating sites giving advice on profiles. Praps they saw me more as an Agony Aunt than Girlfriend material. But it is surprising how many guys I saw online that considered a photo of their car, motorbike, dog (or them with an "ex") as a suitable profile pic, and then moaned they didn't get anyone messaging them!

Barny1979 - I too had my fair share of last minute cancelled dates, it is demoralising but please do keep going. You build up your hopes and get excited only to be doused with a bucket of cold water by text message. Grrr. At least that person told you before the date, not after when you may have fallen for them - and paid for drinks.

I celebrated 2 years since first date with my lovely BF yesterday. I met him on the Planet Rock dating site, but not because I clicked on his profile. I read his "dating diary". Many sites now have a diary or blog section that you can scroll through and read comments without clicking through from a profile.

He wrote how he was fed up having dates cancelled etc after yet another one bottled out. I liked his comments, they made me smile so I looked at his profile, messaged him and suggested we meet up for a drink rather than just chat and message online. Two years later, we are still together - I'm so glad those other women bottled out!!

Keep going, keep us posted and keep the faith. x

maintenanceman

Spent a while looking at profiles on P.O.F and found some weird profiles. One girl. very attractive had a list of requirements an arm long. ( i didn't meet any of the requirements. Anyway one of the things that she required 'was a man to fix things' and she would " stroke him all over, :-)" what the hell is that all about. Also There were a couple who required a picture before replying, which is fair enough. So I took a picture of myself, which I don't do very often and decided not to reply because I realised that i look like a turtle.:rotfl:

Scotty1.7

Things are fine my end - loving my new job, though I'd really like someone in my life.

JustKeepSwimming_2

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

Things are fine my end - loving my new job, though I'd really like someone in my life.

That is great news Scotty :j

0^0 wrote: »

The general consensus I get is that some women would love to meet a rich good looking man who will drag them away from their life of benefits and drudgery, whilst some guys on the other hand just want a quick $hag.

When a woman turns up for a date she is sometimes a couple of stones heavier and a good few years older than what she has portrayed, so she doesnt get a second date.;)

And when a guy turns up dressed in scruffy jeans and trainers and counts his change out of an old battered leather purse to pay for their meal at a greasy joes cafe, the woman realises she is onto a loser and never gets back in touch.:rotfl:

You are even more cynical than me!

I don't need a man to drag me away from a life of work & drudgery - I'd just like someone to share the drudgery with.

When my DS dropped a glass bottle of pop 15 minutes before we were supposed to be on the school run, which spread everywhere including under the fridge, & sparayed pop up the kitchen cabinets & glass shards everywhere I would have loved for someone to have sympathised & helped me clean up so that I wouldn't have been so late for school & then work by doing it all myself. I wouldn't have expected to swan off to work & leave it all for someone else to clean up - as I'm not looking for a wife

moneypenny2k wrote: »

You did make me laugh, I'm 53 and I'm on match where nearly all the men who 'wink' or contact me are in their late 20s or early 30s... The men in what I consider my age braket (40 - 65) want women in their 30s... c'est la vie.

I've had my fill of men who want your undivided attention immediately and want to know why you're not replying if you wait more than 1 minute before replying to an email and those who drop you emails every so often when (I think) the people who they are more interested in are not around... Mind you, I've been single for 14 years now and a died in the wool old maid. What on earth do I know

You know an awful lot about dating emails from your incisive post - very true!

My membership is actually up on 23/12 so if I haven't managed to arrange a date by then I'm giving up even though I'm thinking of calling it a day now.