what are the best value dating sites?

System

waiax73 wrote: »

never understood that really. Why people just can't go out, smile, have fun and meet someone? It always works, you know..... And also the possibility of meeting someone (sorry for that) 'weird' seems a bit smaller that way......

It doesn't always work..i tried that for 8 months and bar a few..um fleeting encounters i had no luck (and met plenty of weirdoes). Turned to internet dating and now have a lovely bf who i've been with for 6 months

Roberta1

maintenanceman wrote: »

So ( seems like the trend' so' to start a comment these days) i have decided on my online profile, pending, as follows.
Jason Statham look alike, minus the chiseled look, ability to fight of numerous opponents, no six pack, no brooding skills and generally not as brave. Apart from those minor points i am exactly the the , but to be honest the only similarity is that we are bald.

This made me laugh. Brilliant profile! You sound like a top bloke.

maintenanceman

so err,, what the best way to chat?

JustKeepSwimming_2

maintenanceman wrote: »

so err,, what the best way to chat?

Wish I could tell you :rotfl:

I've tried the sending a personal message to a few men with interesting sounding profiles clearly showing them I've actually read their profile (I get quite a few messages from men saying they loved my profile &/or pictures & are keen to hear from me - only to find that they haven't looked at my profile at all . They don't get a reply).

I accidently tried the carpet bombing approach when I sent an email to gazillions of men thinking I'd put a geographical limit on my message when I hadn't :doh:- that got me a few replies but all from miles away.

I've also tried sending a personal message to men who have carpet bombed me if they have been near to me - either they don't reply (the majority) or they send back a polite "thanks but you aren't really what I'm looking for" message (fair enough) or they send back a vile "Why would I be interested in you, you minger" type message. Not really lost out there, have I :rotfl:

So there is a quick lesson in what I'm doing wrong - when you've cracked it & actually get chatting to someone then share your method......

Best of luck!

Februarycat

I have come to the conclusion dating sites are getting worse. When I first started on them about 3 years ago I chatted with some friendly men who could at least string a few sentences together and ask a few questions. Now all I get are per*vy messages off men, even ones I think sound ok on their profile they are all the same . I have sort of given up looking now.

juliebunny

waiax73 wrote: »

never understood that really. Why people just can't go out, smile, have fun and meet someone? It always works, you know..... And also the possibility of meeting someone (sorry for that) 'weird' seems a bit smaller that way......

OK who brought their gran into the thread?? Honestly, this is an attitude I would expect to have seen ten years ago but - really - these days?? I've found my relationships to be equally disasterous regardless of how we met....!

I'm newly (very) single and pondering my next move. Didn't meet very suitable blokes online last time (in fact, I think one is still stalking me.....) so I'm going to try the old fashioned approach....friends at the charity I help have one possible newly single man lined up for me (he doesn't know it yet poor thing) and I'm going to join - well, ok, I am thinking about - some sort of club....not got it all worked out yet but it's early days....I may go online to some chat rooms (never done that before), but I think I'm more keen to make new friends initially, as they seem to last longer and be more genuine than my bfs....I'm not ruling out online dating though. Never tried POF but one of my family met her now steady and really nice BF on there.

JustKeepSwimming_2

Februarycat wrote: »

I have come to the conclusion dating sites are getting worse. When I first started on them about 3 years ago I chatted with some friendly men who could at least string a few sentences together and ask a few questions. Now all I get are per*vy messages off men, even ones I think sound ok on their profile they are all the same . I have sort of given up looking now.

Even my pervy messages have now dried up :rotfl: Not that I'm complaining but I did learn a few new words, & education is never a waste....

juliebunny wrote: »

OK who brought their gran into the thread?? Honestly, this is an attitude I would expect to have seen ten years ago but - really - these days?? I've found my relationships to be equally disasterous regardless of how we met....!

I'm newly (very) single and pondering my next move. Didn't meet very suitable blokes online last time (in fact, I think one is still stalking me.....) so I'm going to try the old fashioned approach....friends at the charity I help have one possible newly single man lined up for me (he doesn't know it yet poor thing) and I'm going to join - well, ok, I am thinking about - some sort of club....not got it all worked out yet but it's early days....I may go online to some chat rooms (never done that before), but I think I'm more keen to make new friends initially, as they seem to last longer and be more genuine than my bfs....I'm not ruling out online dating though. Never tried POF but one of my family met her now steady and really nice BF on there.

I'm so fed up with those people who think we must be severly lacking in something & incapable of attracting anyone "normally". I've ranted about this for a while now, so feel free to put me on ignore :rotfl:

This is my first (& last) dip into online dating, having met previous partners the old fashioned way in real life - & none of those relationships worked out! I'm with you on the making friends bit though - have you tried meetup yet? It really does depend on where you are as to how much will be going on in your area. I was pleased to find a singles walking group locally, but dashed to learn they have an upper age limit of 40

Today I did hear from a lovely sounding man who says he is interested in me - only 642 miles away - someone remind me how long GB is just in case I could attract someone even further away :rotfl:. It appears my dating exclusion zone is increasing & soon I'll be undatable throughout the EU.

POF is known locally here as Plenty of F**ks which does put me off ever so slightly, although I do know people on here & in real life that it has worked for.

ali-t

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

This is my first (& last) dip into online dating,


POF is known locally here as Plenty of F**ks which does put me off ever so slightly, although I do know people on here & in real life that it has worked for.

Please don't give up, I thought my nagging would have had some impact

POF is known as that throughout the world I think but it is possible to control the meatmarket aspect of it and still find some nice ones.

Frogletina

Frogletina wrote: »

I'm really getting to know so much about the guy I have met through the messages that he sends. Yes, he does ask how my day has been but also about so much more. We never have 'conversations', no instant messages, msn chat or phonecalls which after so much time may seem unusual but it works.

He's the best friend that I've never had. I wake up to a message from him and before he goes to bed he sends me his final one of the day. He is caring, intelligent and humourous though rather self-deprecating.

I'm sure we will meet a third time, but for now it's baby steps. Because I know he's worth it, and I feel that I am too.

We met for a third time last night, I visited his home town, we went for a meal, then went to see a performance after which he walked me back to my hotel and he kissed me on the cheek as he said goodbye.

There are lovely guys on POF, unless I've met the only one!

jen007

I met my OH on POF, we're happy.(2 years together, 3 of knowing him) He's moving in, in March.