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[Deleted User]

I was thinking that too. Ive also had personal family problems and im going through them atm so i do understand how guy one was feeling at the time. I just dont want to mess up as i wont be in the frame of mind to see guy two again until i see guy one and decide for myself how i feel. So at the moment after my coffee date today with guy two i declined to meet him again tonight but am going keep contact via txt. He may decide he doesnt want to see me anyway lol. I dont want to rush into things with either of them and i thought by accepting a date with the second guy tonight it would be too quick.

ali-t

There's no such thing as too quick. Dating is meant to be fun, uncomplicated and a massive ego boost. Get a provisional date 2 pencilled in with number 2 for mid week and if number 1 turns into a handsome prince who will make all your dreams come true, you can dump number 2 by Wednesday. Having more than one on the go at the dating stage is great for your ego and means you are less likely to be sitting waiting by the phone for someone who won't or may not even call.

Mrs_Huggett

Going to have another look for my friend tonight, there is just no new guys in her specified search though, and it is rather narrow so that makes it worse, but I do fully understand why she has chosen what she has, but it makes it very difficult when men who are obviously not what she likes keep on sending messages, we have made it very clear in her profile, but still they keep on coming!!

maintenanceman

ali-t wrote: »

All good here. Mr unreliable has gone, Mr reliable is suiting me fine just now. I have gone from dating 4 men to narrowing it down to just one. There are good men out there online, keep searching! I have tried lots of sites and keep going back to pof as there's loads of choice and if our willing to sort through the matters there are its of good people.

AliTi your posts are always an eye opener. its always interesting reading the other perspective. I t's interesting that you are looking for a partner as if you were getting estimates for an extension.

asparagus1968

asparagus1968 wrote: »

evening all,

warning-

i signed up to " be2 " dating sites £5 months trial.

cancelled within time limit, through their online cancellation form.
they are now claiming i didn't, and are sending my debt of =£149 to a collections agency.
I had to cancel by the 19th sept,and I've emails I have sent to them since 7th sept. they send out an email to confirm they have received a message,then deny I have cancelled.
Am worried sick.

anyone had any dealings with this bunch?
cheers

Mrs_Huggett

God!!Hope you sort that out asparagus!!!!
I had a search for my friend on the four sites she is on, and as usual this brought the lurkers out of the woodwork, and the most hilarious one of the month, a gentleman who is not only not of the race she has specified, but he is pictured next to yellow robin reliant, and yes emblazoned on the bonnet of said car is a picture of Del Boy and Rodney, with "only fools and horses" underneath...............!!!!!!!!!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: I give up, I really do!!!!!! I think I will have to start finding out about nunnery's for her!!!!!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

maintenanceman

with this bunch . it realy seemss that datinghas lost its romance and has becom just a neccisity . personally i a happy to be aloce wthout a relationship.

ali-t

maintenanceman wrote: »

AliTi your posts are always an eye opener. its always interesting reading the other perspective. I t's interesting that you are looking for a partner as if you were getting estimates for an extension.

That makes me sound really brutal but I'm really not.

I went through life until my late 20's meeting men in the usual places but nothing particularly successful and I remember when I was training as a life coach and getting a coaching session from someone about my dismal love life at the time and it was pointed out to me that I was successful in other areas of my life (career, home, lifestyle etc) because I had a plan, worked towards it and achieved my goals. Why was I expecting Mr right to just turn up, chap my door and we would skip off into the sunset. Like my SIG says, if you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always got.

I like to think I am maximising chances rather than being mercenary and internet dating means the beer goggles never play a role. Reading my posts back, I probably come across more flippant than I actually am but make no apologies. No one gets hurt or is deceived.

0^0

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

Going to have another look for my friend tonight, there is just no new guys in her specified search though, and it is rather narrow so that makes it worse, but I do fully understand why she has chosen what she has, but it makes it very difficult when men who are obviously not what she likes keep on sending messages, we have made it very clear in her profile, but still they keep on coming!!

Are you sure its your friend you are looking for and not yourself?;)

[Deleted User]

maintenanceman wrote: »

with this bunch . it realy seemss that datinghas lost its romance and has becom just a neccisity . personally i a happy to be aloce wthout a relationship.

I dont think dating has lost its romance at all. I do want to meet the right man, but for the right reasons. When i go on a coffee date i generally know within that hour or so whether the guy is the right one for me by listening to what he says. Personally for me, they have also got to be attractive too, as well as have the banter and chit chat. Ive been alone without relationships as well as being in relationships that i should have got out of way before i did. Meeting guys has made me realise that not all of them are liars and cheats which i know was wrong of me, but i was having trust issues and thats one reason why i stayed out of dating for a while. But meeting new guys whether there for me or not has made me reassess my thinking and to realise that just because ive met two bad apples in my life it doesnt mean that everyman is like that. Also guy number two yesterday asked me to be honest and say what i thought, so i said he wasnt for me and i didnt want to waste his time being a friend because thats not what he would want and thats all i would want from him. Whilst messaging him i got another message from another guy who lives locally and he asked to meet me so were meeting up for a coffee in our area tonight. So by letting guy two go ive got another coffee date