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geckofabulous wrote: »

I think it's just as hard for guys to use that site. I think the idiots and perverts ruin it for everybody

Yes it is. Went on a date last night and she said she gets at least 20 messages a day from weirdos. There's so much noise that you have to shout really loud to be seen if that makes sense. If you come across as normal then you'll do well.

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red_pad wrote: »

Yes it is. Went on a date last night and she said she gets at least 20 messages a day from weirdos. There's so much noise that you have to shout really loud to be seen if that makes sense. If you come across as normal then you'll do well.

Couldn't agree more.

All the sad little weirdos who think they can safely hide behind the anonymity of the internet are making women very jaded. It is so obvious reading some of their profiles.

I'm quite old fashioned and wouldn't dream of behaviour like that but people these days are happy to tar everyone with the same brush - something that drives me mad. :mad:

While I'm moaning (again) what's with the ladies who say must not do this or must do that and then promptly do/don't do what they do/don't want you to do?. Hello???

fiduni

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P.S. This will be my first foray into online dating.. Think I would rather go with a paid service than a free one maybe?!

Just going to try it out to have some fun dates, not expecting much really... What do you think of free vs. paid? Anyone tried both?

asparagus1968

tried free and paid,
if i was you try Plenty of Fish first.(free)
it'll give you an idea!

Chris_3003

I actually met someone in real life, ironically enough, the day after I posted a profile review on here (just over a month ago).

Unfortunately that's just come to an end, but it's opened my eyes. In the online dating world I had set in my head roughly the type of person I was looking for and set my search filters to such. Then out of blue I meet someone on a night out who I got on with really well and started seeing each other. Turns out she happened to be on another dating site, we had a giggle and looked at each others profiles. I can honestly say I would probably not given their profile a second look, on paper she wasn't what I was looking for, yet in real life we still clicked.

Even though I've never been in a relationship that's started from online dating, it's fairly inevitable I'l get back on the online dating scene in the near future, but this time I'l definitely be more open minded, and not disregard profiles quite so quickly.

There_Goes_Trouble

I've been away from this thread for a while. Still on the free sites but really not taking it seriously or doing anything with it.

Anyway. today I've had a message from someone who seems nice. He has clearly read my profile and has written a nice reply which he has obviously put a lot of thought into and he comes across really well.

The problem - and this is where I'm asking for advice even though I'm pretty sure I know what you'll say - is that from his photo's I don't find him at all attractive. Actually I don't even find him 'normal' looking, I'm almost finding him, well I don't want to call someone unattractive as that's not very nice and I'm no looker myself, but honestly I'm just not drawn to him visually at all, pretty much the opposite in fact.

So what do I do? I think you're all going to tell me that I shouldn't judge him by his photos, he might look different in real life, plenty of couples start out not finding each other attractive....etc, etc. I do know all that.

But, and I know this is shallow of me and probably a big reason why I'm still single at my age.... I just don't see the point of starting something online with someone that might be a lovely guy but who I find visually very unattractive (that's me being kind).

*sigh* I know, you're going to shout at me now for being so judgmental and shallow.

GemmaB78

Not shallow at all. I started dating someone I wasn't sure if I fancied or not because he was 'nice'. You can imagine how that panned out.....

So I find myself single again and wondering if I can really be bothered to use dating sites or not?!

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GemmaB78 wrote: »

Not shallow at all.

I disagree. At the risk of sounding like a broken record in this thread, whilst someone attractive is always a bonus, it shouldn't be the primary factor.

Surely personality, ability to communicate, humour, loyalty, mutual interests to name but a few should all be ahead of looks.

Of course, if all you are looking for is someone disposable, for the short term who looks good on your arm and will turn your friends green, good luck to you but that is shallow.

I've pulled this from the profile of an early 40's woman, if nothing else, it shows I'm not the only one.

""Looks aint important cos they never last, money is the same, so if you are looking for happiness look 4 a personality and a smile. One smile can light up the world. Find the right one to light up your heart!""

GemmaB78

But surely there's got to be a spark? A sense of phwoar?! You can be the nicest, funniest, most intelligent, etc. person in the world, but if I have to ask myself if I find you attractive or not, we're quickly going to fizzle out. Call me shallow if you like, but I have GOT to have butterflies in the pit of my stomach when I look at you... Whilst it isn't the primary factor, to me it is important.

GT60

Bunnie1982 wrote: »

I'm beginning to give up hope with POF - just seem to meet some odd people on there, I'm on my third profile now because I have deleted and reinstated - since last October I have had three dates and even people I have spoken to turned decidedly odd when swapped email/phone numbers

Date 1 - Nice looking lad, intelligent, had a lot in common. However not interested in a proper date and would rather just attempt to try and get me in the sack....errr no!

Date 2 - Again nice looking late, loads in common, few dates. Ended up having a massive breakdown and going back to his ex girlfriend

Date 3 - Absolutely lovely but no spark there

Back on the site reluctantly, I'm in love with one of my closest friends and things have happened between us but it's like we get close and then back off again (cos he has massive issues)...and I even went to a psychic who was scarily accurate about an awful lot of things and said we'd be together by June. Unfortunately, we have had a major fall out over something stupid and he is now not talking to me at all All my friends dislike him and think he has been leading me on and using me when he sees fit and the argument is just an excuse for him to try and play the hurt party and not have to speak to me.

Anyway, within a couple of hours of setting up a new profile I obtain mr stalker who wants to send me pictures of..."himself"...and keeps plaguing me everytime I go online asking why I am not speaking to him...one for the block list I guess.

I'm starting to give up with dating and just wondering whether I attract weirdos....are there any nice men left out there?

There is Me, i am nice