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If someone is ambivalent towards someone they just met or dated then I would expect a response to be delayed or perhaps unforthcoming but if they are highly magnetised by the other party, I suspect they will prioritise getting in touch with that person.

Yet as some romances burst into life, others smoulder as the attraction focusses more than skin deep. There is also nothing wrong in making the next move and it is far better to be a little pushy than too laid back, only to find later that they were waiting for you to call them !

sapphireeye

jellybabyjane wrote: »

Hello! I've been glued to this thread for days now and have finally got the nerve to join Match. Now I have a question for the more seasoned online daters! Why would someone wink rather than send a message? And how would you respond to a wink if you like the look of them?

thank you and well done everyone on being so brave!

I'm pretty sure you can wink at someone if you have a free account which is probably why you get loads of winks and no messages. I suppose if you wink back and they really like the look of you they might sign up for a paid account and message you But for the same reason don't feel too dejected if you send loads of messages and don't get responses because Match helpfully don't tell you who is a paid member and who isn't and free members can't read or reply to messages.

I have to say that I thought about joining Match but having been on there for a few days as a free member to see whether it was worth joining and having barely anyone try to contact me I decided to stick with the riff raff on the free dating sites. It worked anyway and 2.5 months later I'm still very happy with the 'fish' I caught on plenty of fish haha.

Also, just wanted to add, Lisa, good job on ditching that bloke, he sounds like he has all sorts of issues and you can do a lot better
MessedUp - Sorry to be harsh but if that man really liked you he would never be too busy to keep in contact. If someone hadn't contacted me that long after a date I would have written them off about a week ago and would tell him that he'd lost his chance! I know it's hard when you really want to meet someone but I've been in a relationship with a man who was always too busy to keep in touch or was always 'losing his phone' and it leaves you constantly waiting for them all the time and it messes with your head, you feel as high as a kite when they finally get in contact and like you're worthless the rest of the time and that's not what a relationship is about. I spent a lot of time trying to get my self esteem back after that relationship. If they're as into you as you are into them then they'll be keeping in touch and wanting to see you again and you will feel like a top priority, which you should be! You will find better if you stop waiting on this one

sunny_d_2

sapphireeye wrote: »

I decided to stick with the riff raff on the free dating sites.

:rotfl:

Has anyone been to one of these local meet up events with POF? A couple of people have asked me if I'm going....not sure

Can anyone tell me what to expect should I go? :cool:

springdreams

smudger1964 wrote: »

i got one sat night

Good luck with your date tonight. Let us know how it goes

jellybabyjane

sapphireeye wrote: »

I'm pretty sure you can wink at someone if you have a free account which is probably why you get loads of winks and no messages. I suppose if you wink back and they really like the look of you they might sign up for a paid account and message you But for the same reason don't feel too dejected if you send loads of messages and don't get responses because Match helpfully don't tell you who is a paid member and who isn't and free members can't read or reply to messages.

Thanks sapphireeye, that's really good to know! And will stop me getting too discouraged It's annoying that they don't show who's a paying member, isn't it...

I returned a wink yesterday and the guy sent me an email - he seems nice so I replied! This is my first 'adventure' with online dating this time round (for 8 years!) so it feels like a big step :rotfl:

findingmyway_2

Hi everyone,

I have been more of a lurker than a poster on this thread. I met a guy out in real life yesterday, and we were chatting. Later on in the evening he asked if I wanted to go back to his place. I kindly declined, he kept pushing the subject, and wouldn't drop it. I have been out of the dating game for a while, but I just feel a bit old fashioned for it all. I know some people are happy to go home with someone they have just met, I have no problem whatsoever with that, its just not for me. I will only go home/sleep with someone that I have been dating a for a while and that I feel like there is a future with. Its just who I am! After the experience last night, I'm beginning to wonder if I just put people off because I come off as a prude.

Online wise, this feeling has been amplified, I suppose because of the profile I have and the questions I have answered, it makes it pretty clear that I am quite conservative, and people in my age bracket (late twenties) probably aren't that interested in waiting. My profile has been very quiet, and in the last week or so, no one has even viewed it. Just feeling like it is all a bit hopeless based on my beliefs.

LisaB I have been reading your comments about the man you were seeing, I just want to say you are well shot of him. He sounds like he has been trying to manipulate and mess with your head from the start and in the long run, these types never get better, they get worse.

smudger1964 - I hope you date went well.

sunny_d_2

findingmyway wrote: »

Online wise, this feeling has been amplified, I suppose because of the profile I have and the questions I have answered, it makes it pretty clear that I am quite conservative, and people in my age bracket (late twenties) probably aren't that interested in waiting. My profile has been very quiet, and in the last week or so, no one has even viewed it. Just feeling like it is all a bit hopeless based on my beliefs.
smudger1964 - I hope you date went well.

Have you joined just one dating site? I have tried around 4. I am only registered with 2 now and I find I am getting more messages sent through POF than Smooch where my profile is hardly ever viewed. I have more or the less the same details and picture (yes I decided to bite the bullet and add one! lol)

You have to stick by your own beliefs, there must be someone else of the opposite sex that shares them. I have been told I don't give anyone a chance, but I know by instinct straight away when I'm chatting to someone if it feels right or not.

smudger1964 How did your date go?? Hurry up and tell, we're all waiting lol

girlybags

Hi everyone! I've just joined up with POF. I'm a single mum, been single for about 4 years now and am happy with my life so not actively looking for someone but wouldn't say no if someone nice and 'normal' came along I only signed up a few minutes ago and have already had 6 messages, one of which said 'I'm not sure how you'd feel about doing an Asian Man' :eek: I'm not sure I'm ready to be 'doing' anyone just yet :rotfl:

LisaB85

girlybags wrote: »

Hi everyone! I've just joined up with POF. I'm a single mum, been single for about 4 years now and am happy with my life so not actively looking for someone but wouldn't say no if someone nice and 'normal' came along I only signed up a few minutes ago and have already had 6 messages, one of which said 'I'm not sure how you'd feel about doing an Asian Man' :eek: I'm not sure I'm ready to be 'doing' anyone just yet :rotfl:

You will get plenty of messages like that lol I really to be nice but last night when a rough looking bloke mailed asking if I wanted to have sex I couldn't help but reply with 'I'm not desperate yet'

Well if he is going to send such messages he should expect that kind of response.

girlybags

LisaB85 wrote: »

You will get plenty of messages like that lol I really to be nice but last night when a rough looking bloke mailed asking if I wanted to have sex I couldn't help but reply with 'I'm not desperate yet'

Well if he is going to send such messages he should expect that kind of response.

Haha! It makes me wonder, do they really expect a positive response??? I've just been ignoring them but I don't know if it's proper etiquette to at least reply with a 'no'?