what are the best value dating sites?

LisaB85 · 2 March 2012 at 11:03AM

I have realised ending it with the man I was seeing was deffo the right thing to do.

4 weeks ago he tried to trick me to see if I would snoop into his internet history because I told him about my ex setting me up in the same way as part of his twisted games.

Then there was his erection problems, I tried to accept them but him continuously asking for sex telling me it 'worked' in the shower only for me to be prodded with a flacid thing then being blamed because I wasn't working.

Telling me he liked the look of a movie because there were hot women in it, not the sensible thing to say to a woman you can't stand to attention for.

Then I saw him Saturday I had to be up early on Sunday and to be honest I didn't fancy him pawing at me knowing nothing would happen so after a day out he dropped me home at 8pm and went out with his mate, I dropped a quick text to say I'd be off to bed and he ignored me until 1pm Sunday when he text to say he left his phone in the car.

Realising there was something amiss I knew I couldn't trust him be it he was doing something he shouldn't or was ignoring me to play games I ended it.

No reply back to me ending it until I text to say I could pay back the money I borrowed on Wednesday.

We had a chat in the car and he admitted he gets grumpy when he doesn't get his own way and ignores people, he said he was upset because on Saturday I didn't go back to his to try and have sex. So he ignored me and lost me all because I didn't go to his :mad: I explained why I didn't and he tried to convince me things were working again and he seemed upset it was over.

So yesterday I text to say no point in falling out and we can still chat if you like, ignored again because he is obviously in a grump.

You know what I wish I hadn't bothered contacting to arrange paying the money back and make that effort.

prudent_princess · 2 March 2012 at 11:28AM

LisaB85 wrote: »

I have realised ending it with the man I was seeing was deffo the right thing to do.

4 weeks ago he tried to trick me to see if I would snoop into his internet history because I told him about my ex setting me up in the same way as part of his twisted games.

Then there was his erection problems, I tried to accept them but him continuously asking for sex telling me it 'worked' in the shower only for me to be prodded with a flacid thing then being blamed because I wasn't working.

Telling me he liked the look of a movie because there were hot women in it, not the sensible thing to say to a woman you can't stand to attention for.

Then I saw him Saturday I had to be up early on Sunday and to be honest I didn't fancy him pawing at me knowing nothing would happen so after a day out he dropped me home at 8pm and went out with his mate, I dropped a quick text to say I'd be off to bed and he ignored me until 1pm Sunday when he text to say he left his phone in the car.

Realising there was something amiss I knew I couldn't trust him be it he was doing something he shouldn't or was ignoring me to play games I ended it.

No reply back to me ending it until I text to say I could pay back the money I borrowed on Wednesday.

We had a chat in the car and he admitted he gets grumpy when he doesn't get his own way and ignores people, he said he was upset because on Saturday I didn't go back to his to try and have sex. So he ignored me and lost me all because I didn't go to his :mad: I explained why I didn't and he tried to convince me things were working again and he seemed upset it was over.

So yesterday I text to say no point in falling out and we can still chat if you like, ignored again because he is obviously in a grump.

You know what I wish I hadn't bothered contacting to arrange paying the money back and make that effort.

I remember what you said about him before:
" 4 weeks ago he tried to trick me to see if I would snoop into his internet history because I told him about my ex setting me up in the same way as part of his twisted games"

Definitely better off without him!

You can and will find a better man than him.

jellybabyjane · 2 March 2012 at 3:07PM

Hello! I've been glued to this thread for days now and have finally got the nerve to join Match. Now I have a question for the more seasoned online daters! Why would someone wink rather than send a message? And how would you respond to a wink if you like the look of them?

thank you and well done everyone on being so brave!

jellybabyjane · 2 March 2012 at 3:09PM

Lisa - I agree with prudent_princess after reading your posts, he is not behaving suitably!!

dogstarheaven · 2 March 2012 at 3:41PM

hi all you singleteers!

tis my first post and am looking for some support/help here, if you can...

i've registered with match and match affinity (didn't realise the latter was a separate thing) but i haven't yet paid my sub yet, as i don't know which one to choose, and which sub to take out. there aren't many guys i found that i like the look of in my age group. all the ones that are, tend to be much younger (it works like that in real life with men liking me and me liking them).

without sounding too snobbish, i don't see myself finding anyone with my interests in my age group (early 40s). i did signup to an american based site with a UK subsidiary that was for creative types (film, indie, arts, liberal types) about 6yrs ago, and i can't find it anymore as i don't remember the name of the company. does anyone know?

i've just come out of a 5yr relat. and the guy i was with was a lot younger than myself, hence my decision to find someone of my own generation and with more in common. although, i ended the relat i'm still torn between wanting my to reclaim my life back but also being wanted too. i've started on reminiscing about the good times we've had, but then that's quelled by my memories of his downfalls! it's been a struggle recently, as i'm quite lonely at times (don't get me wrong as i love my space in the house, no mess, no noise!)

anyone else newly single, and feeling the same?

thanks for reading

jellybabyjane · 2 March 2012 at 4:57PM

dogstarheaven - I can't help with the site you mention but have you tried the Guardian site (Soulmates)? I thought it seemed quite promising although got irritated with them when they wouldn't accept my photo (they have a million rules about cropping, blah blah) so went for Match instead, but might be worth checking them out?

sunny_d_2 · 2 March 2012 at 7:26PM

jellybabyjane wrote: »

Hello! I've been glued to this thread for days now and have finally got the nerve to join Match. Now I have a question for the more seasoned online daters! Why would someone wink rather than send a message? And how would you respond to a wink if you like the look of them?

thank you and well done everyone on being so brave!

I wondered that as well, it wasn't on match though it was freedating where they have winks too. I found if I liked them I just winked back and waited to see what happened. Most of the time they then sent a message. I think the 'wink' is to let you know they've noticed you and see if you like them too?

Good luck

I have re-joined POF as I was fed up being messaged by really young guys aka trolls?! It got to the stage I didn't know who I was talking too, didn't feel comfortable.

smudger1964 · 2 March 2012 at 8:02PM

Some girls dont like the wink..but like sunny d just said its only a way of saying seen your profile like what i see.. if they wink back off you go ...