Help with Ear Stretchers please

newcook

gunsandbanjos wrote: »

Agree, they really freak me out!! I saw a guy with them the other day, holes had to be at least an inch:eek: I dont get it at all and its not like i'm ancient (29).

lol! nor me - Im 30!!

Sambucus_Nigra

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Lets be honest, the majority of blokes with stretched ears, we see pushing trollies down at the supermarket.

Not to mean that pushing trollies isn't a reasonable thing to be doing, as long as you are happy doing it and don't feel the need to do anything better.

It does sound like I'm dissing anyone who pushes trollies here, which I'm not doing.

This.

I've never known top or middle management in my field of work with stretched ears, but plenty of labourers.

Doesn't mean the top people were nice or the labourers weren't - but appearance is everything when trying to get up the ladder.

Having said that, I was a manager and had a pierced tongue - but being a girl that's a little different and we can get away with a little more sometimes. ;)

skypie123_2

Why why why would anyone want to do that to themselves?
It looks just awful.
OP at 14 he is way too young to be doing something to himself that he is going to regret badly in a couple of years, its like all those people who get their eyebrow pierced and then it scars when it grows out.
FWIW I had my nosed pierced when I was younger and still have the hole on my nose which I hate.
I wouldn't let my son or daughter carry on stretching their ears.

busiscoming2

skypie123 wrote: »

Why why why would anyone want to do that to themselves?
It looks just awful.
OP at 14 he is way too young to be doing something to himself that he is going to regret badly in a couple of years, its like all those people who get their eyebrow pierced and then it scars when it grows out.
FWIW I had my nosed pierced when I was younger and still have the hole on my nose which I hate.
I wouldn't let my son or daughter carry on stretching their ears.

No I don't want him to continue, I have no objection to the normal hole but never dreamt he'd want to do this to himself. I just don't know the best way to approach this. I wanted input from people who have experience of this and reducing hole size.

I want to try and make him see sense. I have told him when he is 18 he can do what he likes with his ears!

j.e.j.

Can you get him to a doctor? If he doesn't listen to you he might to them?

It is the sort of things teens do, but at 14 he's not old enough to have full responsibility for himself, so you are right to intervene.

Ravenlady_2

FWIW the over whelming majority of people with ear stretchers...if you cant see through it, its probably a fake plug.

I wouldn't judge a book by its cover and start the holier than thou approach on appearance.

Its not a mental illness wanting to start body modification and I doubt a doctor would appreciate his time being wasted on lecturing a 14 year old

Sambucus_Nigra

Ravenlady wrote: »

I wouldn't judge a book by its cover and start the holier than thou approach on appearance.

Everyone makes an initial judgement on appearance, it's part of the Fight/Flight response.

Lotus-eater

Ravenlady wrote: »

I wouldn't judge a book by its cover and start the holier than thou approach on appearance.

No.......... because employers don't do that at all, do they?

:rotfl:

j.e.j.

The thing is, it's not like having a normal piercing where you can just take it out, or a tattoo which you can just cover up with a t-shirt or something. It's something potentially disfiguring. What if he decides when he's older that he doesn't want long hair, for example. The holes will be very obvious and will do nothing for his confidence, imo. What seems like a cool thing to do now may not look so good in 10 years time.

So yes, once he's 18 it's up to him what he does, but I personally would not allow someone aged 14 to continue doing this.

tyllwyd

I'm completely not into body piercing, but I had a question and asked on this forum and got very helpful replies
http://www.bodyjewelleryshop.com/forum/forumdisplay.php/3-Body-Piercing-Forums
I'd ask on there - you will be talking to people who know a lot about body piercing, and hopefully people who will be keen that whatever he does do, your son does it properly. But I'm sure that a reputable body piercing salon wouldn't do ear stretching on a 14 year old, which would be my first objection.