Abortion/termination advice *UPDATE - SENSITIVE*

flutterby_lil

Thanks for the update, sounds pretty traumatic to me. Mine was relatively simple, had the surgical method though.

Glad you feel "better" than anticipated.

God luck for the future.

Nic-noks

Glad to see you are ok. Thank you for the update x

Beetlemama

Perhaps it's easier for some of us to ask why because we're use to talking about womens issues and babies than others are? it was what I was waiting to read too, but I've spent years on different "Due in...." sites reading other peoples announcements and joys and sorrows, posting my own...I don't think she meant to intrude or be rude, it's just that it was such an open post describing the actual loss and all, I don't think they'd have thought that asking why it was needed was ott.

My best buddy has a son a week different in age to my own, they were both real clumsy kids, slow doing physical things, we always joked that our two would be the last whenever someone posted a new achievement their baby had performed, stood up, walked up a step, picked something up off the floor without tumbling down - we knew our boys wouldn't be celebrating that milestone for months! But at 2 years old, her little boy was found to have an incurable genetic wasting, life limiting disease, and while my boy was just clumsy but caught up with the rest of the group eventually, hers, at nearly nine is virtually in a wheelchair now.

When she and her husband decided to have a second child, they had the genetic testing done to see if the new baby was also affected, they would have aborted a baby with the same condition to save him the pain. Fortunately, he is a healthy baby.

Anyway, just saying, it looked like such an open post I expected since she had said there was a first thread, asking for advice, that was deleted, maybe she had given her reasons or would want people to know her reasons. I don't think the asker meant any harm.

Hope you're ok now anyway OP.


(btw, that took me a long time to write and re-write, a lot of new posts have been added since then...)

scottishchick27

balletshoes wrote: »

no, the OP didn't divulge her reasons, just that she was going to have to go through a medical termination, and had been googling it. The original thread was, I think, asking for people's experiences, so she had an idea of what to expect.

Thank you x

Ladyhawk

Guess Who? - how are you doing today?

System

Personally i just hope the OP is ok, i doubt it was an easy decision but she had her reasons and made the decision that was right for her.

scotgirl

I too am not sure about the circumstances but the fllowing organisation are great for impartial support and advice:

Antenatal Results and Choices
http://www.arc-uk.org/

I hope you recover well.

heretolearn_2

OP

Hope you are feeling a lot better today, and best wishes for you all,

marywooyeah

OP I'm glad the experience wasn't as "bad" as you were anticipating and that you are recovering well. I doubt it will last either - a shame as both threads could have helped others contemplating the same decision in the future.

scottishchick27

Guess_who? wrote: »

If you were in my situation would you really need someone picking over the minor points of it because they were 'curious' ??

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Point taken and no I wouldn't. I'm sorry. X