London Socialite Sees The Light

joeyjimbles

You poor love, and it is entirely understandable that you feel a bit wobbly if you have a cold. Especially given the underlying situation at work where you feel a bit vulnerable, though you shouldn't have to feel that way. You have behaved impeccably unlike others!

Make sure you are getting some extra vitamins and maybe consider some iron supplements and even probiotics to get your immune system built up. Lots of veggies and fresh fruit, water etc - all the usual suspects plus being kind to yourself. Do all the things that you would tell your best friend or your mum to do if they were in your position.

Your new company sound like a great operation - I'm really happy for you. Is there any movement on your replacement in your current job? Hopefully they will recruit soonest and you can put it all behind you. Hope the sun is shining where you are - it always helps. Take care.

LondonGirl252

joeyjimbles wrote: »

You poor love, and it is entirely understandable that you feel a bit wobbly if you have a cold. Especially given the underlying situation at work where you feel a bit vulnerable, though you shouldn't have to feel that way. You have behaved impeccably unlike others!

Make sure you are getting some extra vitamins and maybe consider some iron supplements and even probiotics to get your immune system built up. Lots of veggies and fresh fruit, water etc - all the usual suspects plus being kind to yourself. Do all the things that you would tell your best friend or your mum to do if they were in your position.

Your new company sound like a great operation - I'm really happy for you. Is there any movement on your replacement in your current job? Hopefully they will recruit soonest and you can put it all behind you. Hope the sun is shining where you are - it always helps. Take care.

Thanks JoeyJimbles! I will do, I had fruit for breakfast and had a jacket potato with vegetables for lunch just now. You're right it's so hard and I think everything combined is just too much. Thanks for the tip re the vitamins, I will do that. I need all the help I can get right now.

They had some interviews last week and I think they have a couple more this week, they're talking about getting a contractor in for a while which I have encouraged as it means they'd start sooner. It would be great if I could get out even slightly earlier and have some time to myself before I start the new one.

Thanks - it was shining but has clouded over a little now! Hope you're having a good day

LondonGirl252

Just decided to cheer myself up a bit by looking up my new train times....

Currently in the morning I get the 06:59 train
In the new job I can get the 07:43 or 08:13 .... MUCH better!

I'm not exactly sure yet what time we finish in the evening, it wasn't in my contract but I think its 5pm as opposed to 5:30 which I do now as the working hours in the week is a bit less. So then, assuming I don't stay late which I'm sure I will sometimes I will potentially be able to get the 17:12 which gets me into the stations at 17:39 instead of now I get the 18:05 which gets me into the station at 19:05.... even if I work a bit later some nights I'll still be home waaaay before I am now!

Will have to keep thinking about this when I'm feeling a bit low!

LG xx

mark55man

Are you really really sure you have to work 3 months. I understood you could only be held to 1 month, although I know its complicated.

You could say that you agreed 3 months on a good will basis and that seems to have gone. Or take a massive sickie claiming stress :-)

Although on the other hand, perhaps best not to assume that anyone cares any more, so be more guarded with them. Put on a little shell and grind it out for the next 2 months

Iona_Penny

So glad to see you back, but so sorry you have been feeling so low. When I am in the middle of something grim I tell myself 'I will look back on this' 'it WILL be in the past'. One year from now this will just be a bad memory. Think that you have done one third of your notice, when you have done the same again you will only have that much left! Focus on the overall picture and remember you are a strong woman... I know I have just read your diary remember.

LondonGirl252

Hey Mark - well it's in my contract that I agreed to 3 months and I really would be leaving them in a massive pile of poop if I tried to leave now so I will like you say, put a shell on and grind out the next couple of months and try and leave on good terms! Only 39 more commutes left, it will soon be over (although it may not feel like it now!)

Hey Iona - thank you, you are totally right re it being in the past soon, I need to focus on that and think how I will come out of it stronger, looking up my much nicer train times yesterday definitley helped!! Thank you for reminding me I can be strong

LondonGirl252

Morning gang,

Hope you all had a nice evening, still full of cold but feeling much better and more positive in myself today which is good!

Should be a quiet day at work today, I’m trying to finalise our year end accounts before I leave so the new “me” doesn’t have to worry about it. Tonight I am out with friends for a birthday meal, just to All Bar One so not too £££ and I will look at the menu before to pick something SW friendly.

Last night, M and I made some pork and apple burgers from the SW magazine, blooming delish! I love that we can still eat the things we love and just tweak them to make them healthier.

Tomorrow night I am supposed to be out with the Bessie and another friend of ours but the other friend has been unresponsive about it so I’m wondering (and kind of hoping) she might want to cancel. I could do with a night in and not spending money. I think the job move out of London will be such a good thing in terms of cutting my spending organically.

Can’t wait for the bank holiday weekend, M is at the rugby Saturday so I am going to go for a ride (alone again!) and in the afternoon I am supposed to be meeting up with two riding friends I haven’t seen in a while but again, one of them hasn’t responded when we asked about it so maybe that won’t happen either, not sure! If not, I will relax at home and surprise M with doing some housework! Haha Sunday, just supposed to be meeting some friends for lunch, one of them recently had a baby so will be nice to see them, Monday M is working a 24 hour shift through to Tuesday so I have the day and night to do as I please!

My laptop at work has been playing up and IT have taken it to rebuild which means I don’t have access to YNAB at the moment. Hoping I can get it back today and reconcile my accounts, I’ve over spent this month and as I spent all my savings on our holiday it’s harder to claw it back. I did pay in some birthday cheques yesterday though so I’m hoping that will help!!! I’m in danger of getting in the mind set that for the next 2 months until I leave work I’ll just get through it and do as I please money wise as I know I’ll be better off in a couple of months but I don’t want to start getting into my credit card despite knowing I can pay it off easily, it’s not how I roll these days! So, IT need to hurry up and let me do my YNAB so I can work out where I’m going to save money!

LG xx

joeyjimbles

Good for you. You sound more positive already.
I think you can allow yourself a little leeway if you can manage to do that without going off the rails. Perhaps better to think of something that would really help you feel treated rather than lots of coffees and impulse spends. In my head I suppose I'm thinking of a gorgeous bath product - lots to find in TKMaxx - or some really delicious fruit, something that you could look forward to at the end of the day but would be purse and diet friendly.

Brightspark87

Hi LG

Sorry I have missed so much! I know the current job must be getting tough - I had the same ' stop taking the !!!!!!' chat when I started working my contracted hours and not the additional 2 hours a day I had been working... I totally feel your pain. They are going to miss you and will get through it.

glad you had a lovely birthday - what an amazing gift!

Only 39 commutes left yay!! xx

Verbatim

Would it be worth having a heart to heart with your manager? Surely he too must have moved jobs at some point in his career?