9 yr about to be excluded again :(

plumduff-2

B... Nora link didnt work, i'll try again...

http://www.childrenslegalcentre.com/Shared_ASP_Files/UploadedFiles/D886A631-3B1E-4B0B-A785-DD3ECAFED98F_FACTSHEETPR.pdf

quietheart

I was also going to suggest www.ipsea.org, i found them so helpful when we had problems with statementing.
if i were you i would be pushing for the edpsych to be involved, even if it takes time they have a lot of influence in the long-term.
i don't know if anyone else has suggested it but you may be entitled to dla for the extra support and care your son needs. have a look and see what you think http://www.bhas.org.uk/dla/dla_child_ph_test.shtml.
It sounds like your son is struggling with anxiety, this can be treated really successfully. It won't always be this tough, hold on in there you are doing a great job, he'll be fine with a parent like you involved. As for his dad, just tolerate his existence if you have to, don't respond to him and don't get embroiled, just respond to the SENCo.
Best of luck

Carrera74

elisebutt65 wrote:

In which case he would have gone to court to gain PR - Did he do this??? Or did you sign any forms giving him PR??

If not, then he probably doesn't have it. My ex (unmarried) and I went to family court to give him PR so that he could take him to hospital and GP if necessary when he's staying with him.

He threatened me with court for shared custody but he always backed out after a few solicitors letters and never gone to court for anything else except the DV. I've never signed anything either.

Carrera74

plumduff-2 wrote:

B... Nora link didnt work, i'll try again...

http://www.childrenslegalcentre.com/Shared_ASP_Files/UploadedFiles/D886A631-3B1E-4B0B-A785-DD3ECAFED98F_FACTSHEETPR.pdf

Thanks for the link. It seems he does not have parental responsibility afterall.

mariejader

just another thought have you contacted your local council they have a dept called parent and partnership give them a ring and they will be able to offer advice and even attend meetings at school with you

Carrera74

The SENCO gave me the other number earlier. Going to ring them tomorrow and see what they can advise. Thanks

andyrules

Hi again C

ex oh will have PR if:
you were married either at the time or after son's birth
you have a joint agreement to share PR
the unmarried father applies to the court for PR or Residence Order

As has been said, this changes for births after 2003.

Are you sure he has PR?

I would be outraged if gf came, and would do everything to block it.

HTH

chin up
xx

andyrules

Have just found the last page with the other postings on! You don't need that last post.

Carrera74

Yes found the link - thanks anyway

I think school think as I'm bringing my OH then he should be allowed to bring his.

elisebutt65

Carrera74 wrote:

He threatened me with court for shared custody but he always backed out after a few solicitors letters and never gone to court for anything else except the DV. I've never signed anything either.

In that case he DOESN'T have PR and is NOT entitled to come to the school for meetings. In fact is there any proof at all that he is the childs father. AFAIK they don't provide Legal Aid for DNA testing so if child doesn't want father in his life I'd say stuff it to him!!

As for GF - He is not entitled to bring her - I know cos my other ex tried that and I put my foot down!!! It's not a case of tit for tat - you're the Parent with Care so you can bring your partner as he lives with you and the child.

Mind you - this is just from my experience which is a few years ago so my have changed.

Please don't let him bully you into letting him into this meeting - He wasn't even man enough to have his name put down on the birth certificate!!!!