9 yr about to be excluded again :(

Carrera74

alba37 wrote: »

Oh Carrera, that's shocking, no wonder you are fuming. Can your sol not give you any advice on stopping this? I got a paper from court to say the Father had no parental responsibility. (although it took a while) I don't know if Scottish law (in my case) is any different? This could be detrimental to your son and needs to be stopped. Even if your son wants to see his dad, this is not the time or the place for it.

I'm sorry I can't offer any other help or advice, but my thoughts are with you and hope something can be done to stop this. There's not much time, can you phone your sol back?

A x

She said that it's hard to prove no parental responsibility as the court don't tend to issue papers to say that. My Sol did say that there are problems with parental responsibility and schools because of the fact that it's not the norm to have a paper to say the parent doesn't have rights.

Carrera74

Spoke to the Head. She is happy with what I told her the Sol said so no letter will be sent to his Dad inviting him to join us for the visit.

Wehey!

Psykicpup

Carrera74 wrote: »

Spoke to the Head. She is happy with what I told her the Sol said so no letter will be sent to his Dad inviting him to join us for the visit.

Wehey!

Excellent news:T
shamr it took the threat of Sols to get it tho

mariejader

just caught up on your topic, well done for sticking with it and it finally sounds like things are being put into place to help you both.

I also have to disagree about the eye contact, not all ASD will present this

Carrera74

He's lasted 3 weeks at school!! Only half days but he's not been excluded so all's good. He still has been struggling but he has been using his strategies so I'm happy and so are school.

We're meeting with the short stay school Head today to go and see the school and the pupils. Eek!

I'll update again later.

fairydust

I can really sympathise with you here... My daughter was excluded 4 times when she was aged 6 - one time (the last time) for 7 weeks. In the end I changed her school, along with other things (ed phy's, family councilling, behaviour therapists, special schools etc) and she is also statemented.

Make sure you keep on top of everything though - all these different agencies involved will make your head spin and its very easy to get lost in the system.

She's doing better now however I am still pushing for help and assistance as I am a single parent with no family or partner to help me. Things do (unless you're on top of it all) tend to go in circles - my issues at the moment is we get referred, assessed, referred, assessed, referred, assessed - you get the idea. We've done 4 full circles now and I'm no closer to getting help for me.

But its superb to read your son has lasted 3 weeks at school!! Keep loving him and doing what you're doing *hugs*

Carrera74

The school is lovely and my little boy seemed really impressed. The Head was so friendly and chirpy and the teachers are too. We had a look at all the classes and he saw the class he will be in. There are only 6 children in the class!! and one of them is a little boy who my son knows from primary school (he has adhd and left mainstream school last year). He will get a taxi to pick him up and drop him off (which he finds really cool )

The Short Stay Head said that the children are intensely assessed during the first 4 weeks and then we go back in for a meeting to discuss.

I feel so happy today - the sun is helping too! No doubt when it comes to 2 weeks on Monday I'll be feeling anxious again about how he'll get on but he's got a place and I'm so grateful that he's going to get assessed and fingers crossed they'll be able to put the nail on the head with whatever it is that is frustrating him.

Carrera74

She's doing better now however I am still pushing for help and assistance as I am a single parent with no family or partner to help me. Things do (unless you're on top of it all) tend to go in circles - my issues at the moment is we get referred, assessed, referred, assessed, referred, assessed - you get the idea. We've done 4 full circles now and I'm no closer to getting help for me.

I'm sorry to hear that you are going round in circles This is hard enough without feeling like you are not getting anywhere!!

Carrera74

My little munchkin started at the short stay school on Monday and he is loving it He's managed to earn a treat every day. My MIL was round on Wednesday evening and commented on how calm he is.

It's such a nice feeling not watching my mobile every minute of the school day!!!!

Seems silly but I am a little concerned at how well he is behaving - I don't want them to wonder what he's doing there but mainstream school couldn't cope with him and obviously having just 6 children in the class suits him a lot better.

I don't know if I'm not worrying about his bad behaviour I'm worrying that he's being too good, lol

Savvy_Sue

Carrera74 wrote: »

Seems silly but I am a little concerned at how well he is behaving - I don't want them to wonder what he's doing there but mainstream school couldn't cope with him and obviously having just 6 children in the class suits him a lot better.

That's great news. If you're worried, talk to them: presumably another advantage of just 6 children per class is that they can communicate better with you as well.

The thing is, IIRC, your little munchkin WANTED to be in school, and would sometimes be fine, but every now and again he went off on one, without really knowing why. Whatever it was that triggered his behaviour, he may be in a situation where it's not being triggered. But equally, it may be that they are well aware of his triggers but are in a better place to forestall or pre-empt the 'going off on on', IYSWIM. So they may be very well aware of why he's there, even without all the reports they'll have had from his mainstream school.