I'm sort of homeless. Need money NOW.

DCFC79

sukysue wrote: »

You must have a problem with your olfactory gland m'dear rofl.....

im afraid i dont but how would you know anyway,

sukysue

OP take some advice from a nice old girl ......me ......talk to your family ........resolve your differences amicably get some help and have a nice life.

poet123

DCFC79 wrote: »

other people eat it too and i dont smell it so there is no stench, id be able to know if the garlic on my breath was an issue for some people but it hasnt been an issue

I think the thing is that if you eat it you are desensitised to the smell, others who don't eat it are not.;)

sukysue

poet123 wrote: »

I think the thing is that if you eat it you are desensitised to the smell, others who don't eat it are not.;)

thank you for putting my thoughts into words Poet .....

merlin68

If he claimed DLA and ESA, the council would be more likely to rehouse him. He would also have money to pay his parent's some keep.
My friend's son gets middle and low rate and his at uni.

Vanille_2

DCFC79 wrote: »

is it not the sons responsibility to act like an adult when an dult and do various things when asked. I was doing all sorts of errands when i wasnt working, i was ding the usual dishwasher/washing but aso going to the shops for this or that, doing stuff like getting rid of the cardboard and plastic the council dont take. Put the bin and box each week, mow the lawn, i even walked to the shops to get the job paper and walk to the PO to post things.

Yes, I do agree with you. It should be my responsibility to help around the house, but it's hard for me to do that when I really hate the idea of helping one of my parents.

My dad just came into the room and had a nice chat about this, he hasn't seen this thread and I don't want him to, but I explained some of my outrage and feelings towards my mum. He actually sort of agrees with me. He's been nice to me and he just asked me to run an errand for him. I said yes and i'll do it before bed.

It's my mum that I can't do anything for. I really despise the idea of helping her unless she's in need of help. I see helping her as sort of bowing down to her, when I get no respect my way.

Butti wrote: »

This is a quote from Martin;

• Please be nice to all MoneySavers : There's no such thing as a stupid question and, even if you disagree, courtesy helps.
• Please be sensitive : This may be a web forum, but you’re still talking to other human beings. Repeatedly or harshly saying someone’s wrong, especially on boards like DebtFreeWannabe, Bankruptcy or Benefits, can lead to upset.
  
  We’re proud that many people whose financial problems exacerbate mental health issues seek help in the forum, but this means you may be berating someone who’s clinically depressed. Please think twice before posting judgmental comments.

Thanks for the help, but I don't mind the abuse. I'd rather hear what people have to, but what I have a problem with is people reading a part of the thread then assuming the rest. I feel i've put across some logical points; I don't mind if people disagree with me, but it's gone further than that. People have acted as though not only am I wrong, I'm actually a terrible person and I don't deserve my parents. Also the references to infantile personality traits don't help, but I suppose it's their opinion.
You may feel the way Vanille has posted his issue is an invite to give him a verbal kicking but you don't have to follow through. Suggestions, but gentle ones please.

sukysue

Vanille wrote: »

Yes, I do agree with you. It should be my responsibility to help around the house, but it's hard for me to do that when I really hate the idea of helping one of my parents.

My dad just came into the room and had a nice chat about this, he hasn't seen this thread and I don't want him to, but I explained some of my outrage and feelings towards my mum. He actually sort of agrees with me. He's been nice to me and he just asked me to run an errand for him. I said yes and i'll do it before bed.

It's my mum that I can't do anything for. I really despise the idea of helping her unless she's in need of help. I see helping her as sort of bowing down to her, when I get no respect my way.

Good for you OP, I'm glad your dad has been kind to you just now all the best m'dear.

Vanille_2

sukysue wrote: »

They don't provide his food , the op has to pay for his own , hence the garlic problem.

Yes, they don't pay for my food. If they did then this would be a different story. I'm in their house so i'm costing them money, but I don't feel like they're 'supporting' me. I feel more like they're offering me refuge. Perhaps some of you will see it as one and the same.

I am taking up some space in their house, so I should tidy that space and try not to impede their lives. I honestly feel i'm upholding these rules.

I'm paying for my general living, which is why I don't feel i'm sponging off them; it's not like I get pocket money. Also, as i've said several times now, I've bailed my parents out of financial trouble before, so surely I deserve a bit more respect than a 15 year old who's parents are paying for his meals?
I think this is the fundamental problem here. If I got respect, like as a normal person, then i'd offer to help a lot more. People have really lashed out at me though, saying that I'm such a spoiled brat. Seriously though, why do they have the right to tell me how to conduct my life when it's not affecting theirs?
I just don't see it as logically correct.

DCFC79

poet123 wrote: »

I think the thing is that if you eat it you are desensitised to the smell, others who don't eat it are not.;)

yes i understand that but like i said as of yet no 1 has commented about the smell and ive had garlic in food for years,

but this is taking the thread off topic

meg72

LL30 wrote: »

Vanille - can I just ask what sort of support you are getting for your mental health problems? Do you have on going input? I'm a mental health worker (or was until I got made redundant, grr!) and it would seem that you are at a crisis point. Airing your issues on here seems to be aggravating you, rather than helping you and I'd urge you to seek support. I take it that they've done a full assessment of you as you have a diagnosis, but what coping strategies have you learnt? Unfortunately, and I know this is hard, it's down to you to learn coping mechanisms to help you integrate with society as much as you wish to do so. You seem to present some very Asperger/ASD traits, I'm just wondering if there's a dual diagnosis? Either way, you need some support, ranting on here is not helpful and in some ways will only affirm your current beliefs.

For other posters - honestly, he really, really will not get any of your points (sorry Vanille)

Have to agree, I find it quite worrying that the op is being upset at some of the posts.

I dont feel we should offer any further advice other than as quoted, i.e. to seek help and support from people qualified to give this.