I'm sort of homeless. Need money NOW.

thegirlintheattic

Vanille wrote: »

Yes, but getting caught is very slim. How could they prove this? It certainly won't be from this thread. They can trace my IP address but there will be discrepancies, and they'll have to prove that I was using this address and not my neighbor. Also they'll have a good job as i'm on a proxy. It's hard for JSA to prove you're not looking for work when you give them an exhaustive list of places you've tried, with a description of what you've been doing.

For me there are three choices.

1. I stop university, a few weeks from the end and go into work.
2. I do my university work and get no money.
3. I do my university work and claim JSA, then go into work.

The choice is obvious.

I will NOT be on it for 5 months. Living on JSA isn't really living, it's just existing. I'll be working very soon, I'm very confident.

True, I shouldn't reply, but I feel I have something to prove, with all of these people coming in here saying I don't deserve to live etc.

...or you work and finish your degree. Many students juggle both, some working full time.

Slim chance of getting caught, but if you did get caught job centre would have no problems proving it. You are registered on a full-time course of study (presumably) no matter that you've only got a module to complete or only have a few hours contact time. Therefore not eligible for JSA.

Oldernotwiser

Vanille wrote: »

The fact is, the world is changing and companies are slowly changing to give people better 'benefits' to enhance productivity. Some companies encourage you to bring pets to work or to play games at work (Like Google) and soon smaller companies will follow suit.

If you think that companies become more employee friendly and flexible in the middle of a recession then you really haven't a clue.

meg72

CH27 wrote: »

You do not need to defend yourself. You need to switch the computer off & get some work done.

You could do that or you could switch it off and get some sleep,I get the impression you are quite exhausted by all of this.

Get some sleep love, goodnight,God Bless,tommorow is a another day.

dawyldthing

bobajob_1966 wrote: »

So you won't stop the fraud?

I really hope your parents throw you out, you desperately need a reality check.

this is horrible, i wouldn't wish anyone to be homeless!

an9i77

OP just wanted to say I know where you are coming from when it comes to living with parents again as an adult. I moved back with my parents a couple of years ago (and I am in my 30s!) after being made redundant and moving back to my home town. It was only ever a stop gap, and I get on ok with my folks most of the time but four months in and my dad and I were ready to kill each other! In the end we were barely speaking and he said I needed to move out to save the relationship. Luckily I was working by then so managed to do this and now we don't live together any more we get on fine!
It's incredibly difficult to go from being an independent adult to living with parents again, as the relationship dynamics will always be parent-child, never equal adults, and they often can't accept that you have your own views and ways of doing things. Do you think the relationship with your mum will improve if you aren't living at home?
I'm sorry you aren't getting on with your parents, unlike some of the other posters on here, I do believe that parents owe their children something (not everything, but something and definitely support in hard times) until the day they die, I am a parent myself now and I chose to bring my son into the world, whilst I would not want to mollycoddle him as an adult I would certainly not want to turn my back on him or ever make him feel unwanted either. I think your relationship with your mum, going back to when you were a child, has a lot to do with all of this. Perhaps you feel she never wanted you. For your own mental health, you need to get this resolved in your own head (she will probably not want to get involved) or you will continue to be unhappy as an adult. Please seek professional help as others have said. Check out cognitive analytical therapy too, it's kind of a combination of cbt and psychoanalysis, can be very good for dealing with some of the mental health issues you have raised.

geoffky

bobajob_1966 wrote: »

you made the original statement to pick on someone that you felt had posted something unproductive. How productive was your little dig at them?

snap......:T:T

an9i77

Ps Vanille don't come on here if you are feeling in any way fragile, it can be easy for things to get a little heated on forums such as these when people are completely anonymous and don't know the person they are replying to. I'm not saying that some of the comments were baseless as i think a lot of the other views have some sense in them, but it's easy to see how things can degenerate into slanging matches when everyone's hiding behind a computer screen. I have posted in different boards on here a few times and rarely start a post now if what i am saying is in any way controversial, because it can just attract a lot of wind-up merchants. So if you are ok with people having a little dig at you, post away but if it makes you feel uncomfortable or you are feeling emotionally fragile in any way, don't go there!

patman99

So vanille, you think that the majority of peeps on here got their jobs because friends/relatives worked there ?. Well, I'm 43 and have had quite a few jobs. All of which were gained by me without knowing anyone who worked at the firms.

I am hopping that come Christmas my current role goes from agency to permanent, then I can start an OU degree (as well as working). I hated school and left with just 5 CSE's (including 2 at grade '1').

As for committing benefit fraud, so long as you could show that you were looking for work and were prepared to drop your course to start a job, then they can't pin that on you.

paulwellerfan

OP you say that your going to be signing off soon and finishing your uni studies?
how long is that going to be exactly?
as a bit of motivation, shall we start a count down for you?
it will maybe give you the boost you need to do your uni work and stop being on here answering to every one.
Shall i start it, say 14 days and counting?
good luck.
god speed with the uni work.
and to a brighter future.

FunnySaving

OP - I think you have made a mistake in coming on here, not just because this thread has descended into a bit of a slanging match, but because you are procrastinating and distracting yourself from doing what needs to be done. Whether your parents are right or not, whether you can justify benefit fraud or not is just a smoke screen - you need to finish your module and get your degree, start applying for jobs and move out of your parents' house. There is no shame to leaving an online debate, even if you believe that the people on here will think you've 'given up' - having the last word with a bunch of strangers is not worth wasting more time when you could be studying and achieving the things that you want to. No amount of justifying yourself and defending your actions on this forum is going to get you a plane ticket to Australia, a mortgage on a house or even a good grade in your uni work, so if you are as committed as you say you are to making the most of your life, then just go and do it.