I'm sort of homeless. Need money NOW.

Gothicfairy

Try calling Shelter as they have loads of ideas that might help.
Also get on the housing list for your council and housing association (might take a long time but you can't get one if you are no on the list)
Ask at collage / Uni etc for flat/ house shares
Put a notice on gumtree, your local paper's web site, pre loved, etc etc
Ask your collage / Uni's councillor for advice and maybe a chat
Speak to your Dr about not sleeping and see if they can suggest something to help

Most of all..try to relax and remember that there are people around who will listen and will try and help and that it might look grim right now but you have your whole life ahead of you and once over this little rough patch you can do what you like.
Trust me...........what you feel and see today is not what you will feel and see in a month, year, 10 years etc.

spandangled

I haven't posted for so long but felt I needed to on this.

Going home after university is incredibly hard. You go from being able to do what you please, to living under someone else's roof with someone else's rules. I remember that when I left home and went to uni, I suddenly started getting on really well with my mum. And when I went back after uni, we suddenly started arguing like cat and dog. And the main reason for that was that I felt that I was being controlled and it put me right back in the parent-child relationship, that I'd had three years away from.

But there is one really good thing about it I PROMISE you. It will make you leave. It will make you do ANYTHING you can, to get out. Do everything desert rose said, you might not like it, but it'll make life easier for you. It will be hard being pleasant when you feel under scrutiny, but it will make it much easier for you to get on with the things you need to do for the next few months in order to make your goals achievable. Those things are realistic, borrowing 2k without a stable income isn't.

It's also good character building, as much of a cop out as it sounds. But there may always be people who control you or criticise you particularly in the workplace but even at home. You may have housemates in the future who think you make too much mess or make too much noise late at night. You can either let them wind you up, wash over you, or make you more determined to succeed.

sock-knitter

as a parent i'd expect the washing up done the same day also
i would also not allow food in certain rooms, there is a table in our kitchen and all food is eaten there
leaving lioghts on was another bugbear of mine
my sons recently got a place of there own, and realise that leaving lights on cost money, and are much more careful nowadays
why cant you get a place of your own, social housing dosent require u to have a deposit, at least not in my area

antrobus

Vanille wrote: »

...No doubt the parents in here will read this and assume i'm just an immature problem child who can't respect his parents....

Speaking as a parent, I've come to the conclusion that you have immature problem parents who can't respect their child. But hey ho, that's just me.

Practically speaking, as you've been told, you won't get a loan. (Or at least you won't get a loan except from the kind of people that you don't want to borrow money from.) That's not going to give you an out. I think you know what you have to do. As you put it "Most people would just advise me to stay here, finish this last piece of work, then get a job and move out". Yes, that's about it. I know it "will take months" and that today that seems like forever, but those months will pass, and in time will become nothing at all.

eeyore87

Ever done bar work? Some pubs have live-in bar/manager jobs, would definitely be worth looking into, especially if you're not particularly tied down to that area. Check out Gumtree job listings for that kind of thing.

saterkey

Can i ask that you had a job in university for quite a lot of money but no savings? were there no plans put in place before the end of uni to where you were going to go and how you were going to afford it, im sure that you had an idea of how it would be. Hope you get sorted, but its a case of talk to them frankly, abide by their rules for a few months, go to the library to do your work, take your lunch with you. dont have garlic for the next few months etc. If you want a roof over your head you will have to put up with it until you can find an alternative. Maybe they will give you some money for rent a flat for a few months? good luck

DCFC79

Sorry OP but i honestly cant believe a parent who dislikes they're son/daughter so bad they want them out. What have you done for her to feel about you this way ?

Shiloe

By the sounds of things you shouldnt actually be entitled to JSA tbh ! You are still completing a module in a course which is 'full time' even if you work load has significantly reduced due to the fact youve got one module left its still one module IN a full time course

rising_from_the_ashes

Vanille wrote: »

I should make an effort to adhere to their rules whilst i'm under their roof, but there should be compromise and right now there's not.

Why should they compromise? It's their house!

Vanille wrote: »

I'm also not allowed to eat in certain rooms.

I think most people only want eating to happen in certain rooms - when I lived at home this was the kitchen or dining room, I certainly wasn't allowed to take food into the lounge or my bedroom and I honestly don't think this is unreasonable.

Vanille wrote: »

I'm not allowed to stay up as late as I want, despite sleeping problems, or the fact that I don't keep them awake. When the cat wakes me up scratching on the door every morning at 8am then I should just deal with it because it used to be her room???

How do they know when you go to bed?

If you're in your room then you shouldn't be disturbing anyone - if you're in another room then I can see their point if you wake/disturb others when eventually going to bed. 8am is a perfectly respectful time to get up....

Vanille wrote: »

I'm called disrespectful because I forget sometimes to turn off a light in a room for 20 minutes. I've got a lot better at this though. I'm disrespectful because I don't offer to run them errands, which I should do because I haven't got a job, despite the fact I'm actually busy most of the time.

Do you pay rent?
Do you pay the utility bills?

If not then why shouldn't you run errands or do chores for them? Leaving lights on costs money.....

Leaving unwashed dishes etc around will only make things worse - tidy up after yourself.

Vanille wrote: »

The thing is, it's their house so I should live by their rules.

Yup....

Vanille wrote: »

But there are too many of them and i'ts really restricting my life.

Have you even once thought about this from your parents point of view?

You've moved back into their house after they've probably got used to having it back to themselves and then want to do what you want, when you want with no consideration to how they feel.

You're not working so are presumably in the house a fair bit, using their gas/electric/internet etc.

They are providing a roof over your head ... live by their rules (we've all had to do it) until you finish your degree and can find a job and move out.

If you were earning so much while at Uni - what happened to all of that money?

DCFC79

Your under they're roof so abide by the rules that are set out. Getting up at 8 is fine, get into routine when you dotn have a job otherwiseyou might end up getting out of bed in the afternoon.