I'm sort of homeless. Need money NOW.

poet123

Vanille wrote: »

GF's place is out of the question

Why is that?

skintandscared_2

bobajob_1966 wrote: »

It made sense to me - perhaps you should reread it?

nope, read it again and "although sometime tells he you will just spin them the same "I'm the victim story"" still makes no sense to me, sorry.

bobajob_1966

skintandscared wrote: »

nope, read it again and "although sometime tells he you will just spin them the same "I'm the victim story"" still makes no sense to me, sorry.

Back to school for you then methinks!

Vanille_2

bobajob_1966 wrote: »

It seems to me that your mum lives a perfectly functional life, so why would you want to label her with a mental disorder just to make yourself feel better?

That's not true, on a few levels.

First of all my mum does have some mental issues, I already said that she has been depressed for a few years; she's also been on mediation.

It's also not too much of a stretch to believe that if one person in a household has a mental issue, then others might too. Some things are even hereditary. Also my mum has done some things that are very unusual. I only said i'd look into it. I'm happy to take the blame or conclude that we have a personality clash. I'm fine with being the only one with a personality disorder, but why not look into the possibility that she does too?
You were too quick to assume that i'm trying to pass the blame.

Also, I said that sentence based on my knowledge of the situation and of her, so I think i'm in a better position to make that call than you.

poet123 wrote: »

You seem to see things others do as very black and white, but see those you do as having grey areas. The benefits issue for example, it is either right or wrong, yet you mitigate it to suit your own needs.

You may not like how people have responded (and some have been unecessarily blunt imo) but that is because we can see both sides of the coin, and we can see that from your posts you seem very intransigent, yet expect leeway from others. You want what you cannot give. Some of your posts appear to be attempting to see the other pov, but read deeper and that is not actually the case. I think you have really reached the end of the road living at home (actually, living with anybody really from how it comes across)but perhaps you could go to your girlfriends/her parents and stay there for a time. I think familiarity has bred contempt on both sides and living as a lodger in your girlfriends home would remove that from the equation. You would have to adhere to their rules though, and you may find those at home were not so bad after all!!!

I do see where you're coming from. I personally feel that I do see the other sign of the coin, but I dismiss it because it doesn't seem the correct option.
I feel kind of like i've seen something, then everybody has come in here telling me that it's not really there and that i'm mental, yet i've clearly seen something. Just like in those movies with ghosts in it etc. LOL. I'm not sure that just accepting "i'm mental" and putting an end to it is the way forward.

You're definitely right about the familiarity. It would be convenient for me to stay at my girlfriends, but I don't want to burden her mother, so I'd rather feel uncomfortable. She has cancer right now and things are difficult, the last thing I want is to disturb her world.

Scared45

If the OP does have a girlfriend, I pity her if she has to put up with his carp on a regular basis...

"Do you want a cup of tea?"

"No, and let me give you a worthless disquisition as to why not."

skintandscared_2

bobajob_1966 wrote: »

Back to school for you then methinks!

I understand the general point the poster is trying to make. But if you believe a valid sentence can logically contain the words "sometime tells he you will" in that order, and make sense, perhaps you could let me have an example?

bobajob_1966

Vanille wrote: »

That's not true, on a few levels.

First of all my mum does have some mental issues, I already said that she has been depressed for a few years; she's also been on mediation.

It's also not too much of a stretch to believe that if one person in a household has a mental issue, then others might too. Some things are even hereditary. Also my mum has done some things that are very unusual. I only said i'd look into it. I'm happy to take the blame or conclude that we have a personality clash. I'm fine with being the only one with a personality disorder, but why not look into the possibility that she does too?
You were too quick to assume that i'm trying to pass the blame.

Also, I said that sentence based on my knowledge of the situation and of her, so I think i'm in a better position to make that call than you.

You miss my point - it is none of your business! If you mum is content with her life, then you have no right to start labelling her just to try to make it 'fit' with how you feel. For goodness sake, leave her alone!

System

If you both have a "personality disorder" and depression ISN'T a personality disorder btw...then give both of you a break and move out! You know how...just do it!

Don't "burden" your girlfriend, her mother, your mother or anyone...just find a room to rent, approx £75 a week ( round here) or less...JSA, part time job and study...and make it happen!

bobajob_1966

skintandscared wrote: »

I understand the general point the poster is trying to make. But if you believe a valid sentence can logically contain the words "sometime tells he you will" in that order, and make sense, perhaps you could let me have an example?

You made the original statement to pick on someone that you felt had posted something unproductive. How productive was your little dig at them?

Emmzi

Vanille wrote: »

Yep, perhaps it is fraud, but it's for a few weeks. I'll be giving back to the country to more than make up for it. Maybe this makes me a horrible human being your eyes. It's funny how the country would condemn me for using the benefits for a few weeks, but then those in government using public money to pay for second homes are fully within the law.

If you don;t like the law, you campaign to get it hanged, you write to your MP, you stand as a councilor then an MP, etc etc.

Or you go an live in a country with laws that do suit you.

Perhaps your family at horrified at you fiddling benefits? Mine would be appalled. They hate it when I have had to legitimately sign on.