How much sex is ok for you?

candygirl

Dontknowanymore wrote: »

I must be weird because when I was with my ex, kids or not, pregnant or not we would have it almost every day!
I don't understand how looking after children would make you too tired for sex?

I've just started seeing somene and we only see eachother at weekends at the moment so have to have marathon sessions

you gooooo girlie!!No wonder you're losing so much weight:eek::eek::j:j:j:T:T:T

Dontknowanymore

candygirl wrote: »

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you gooooo girlie!!No wonder you're losing so much weight:eek::eek::j:j:j:T:T:T

Hahaha you know that! He's named it the I diet after him :j :rotfl:

euronorris

Dontknowanymore wrote: »

I don't understand how looking after children would make you too tired for sex?

Because they are exhausting!

I don't have any of my own yet, but plenty of neices and nephews, and after a day spent looking after them all I want to do is sleep! :rotfl:

Tropez

ColleenPamela wrote: »

I don't like my body- that's the only thing. But then, at the height of my body loathing I was having sex 3x a day or so.

Explain that one!

Subconcious desire to have the self-esteem boosted - the same reason that girls with low self-esteem, who believe that they are ugly, unpopular, unwanted, lesser beings etc. are more likely to be promiscuous and may also have sex at younger ages. Of course, unless you know why you're wanting to have sex, it doesn't serve its purpose and can in fact reinforce negative feelings and emotions once the act is over.

ColleenPamela wrote: »

And here's a question for the men on this thread- how do you feel when your advances are rejected? Just curious as last time mine were rejected I felt quite hurt, but then...I've probably rejected his more than he's rejected mine, so does he feel as hurt as me or is he just resigned to it?

Just curious, my best friend is male but I can't ask him because he's a sex fiend, I don't think he's ever rejected an advance in his life!

My partner makes all the advances which suits me fine. I can't really remember any advances being rejected with ex-gfs, but then perhaps I have blocked out negative experiences.

Dontknowanymore

euronorris wrote: »

Because they are exhausting!

I don't have any of my own yet, but plenty of neices and nephews, and after a day spent looking after them all I want to do is sleep! :rotfl:

I am a lone parent to 2 lively young boys. They are not that exhausting that I would turn down sex! :eek: BTW that is not because I am a lone parent and don't get :rotfl:

zoesmummy_2006

right now i think i'd like it once a day at least-but then im single, and its been almost a year since the last time!!!!!!!! I was seeing a younger bloke last year and it was a morning and night thing while we were together-only cos he had to go to work, otherwise there woulda been a noon in there too lol.

with my ex husband we were mostly a twice a week thing, though that was apparently never enough for him.

euronorris

Dontknowanymore wrote: »

I am a lone parent to 2 lively young boys. They are not that exhausting that I would turn down sex! :eek: BTW that is not because I am a lone parent and don't get :rotfl:

Then I think you either a) have more energy than me in general or b) prioritise sex over sleep. Or a combination of the two.

If I am tired, I will always choose sleep over sex. The other way round sees a poor effort from me that makes the whole thing highly unsatisfying, and probably a little damaging to OH's self esteem.

fannyanna

Gavin83 wrote: »

Never experienced this to be honest. If it's dipped theres always been a reason.

I'm honestly still not convinced it would just drop for no reason. I'm not even convinced a woman's hormones would vary that much to affect your sex life unless shes pregnant or menopausal. Unless shes going through some big change why would they?

I can appreciate how it is probably difficult for a man to understand how much impact hormones can have on women.

I must stress that not all women will have this problem but a lot of women are at the mercy of their hormones.

As someone else has already highlighted a lot of women will find their drive varies as the month goes by. Most women will find their drive is high in the middle of their cycle around the time they ovulate.

As you've said factors such as pregnancy or the menopause will have an impact but conditions such as polycystic ovary syndrome (which is very common and often undiagnosed) will have an impact as one of the kep problems is out of sync hormone levels.

Contraceptives can also impact on hormones.

As I said you really shouldn't underestimate the power of female hormones.

Dontknowanymore

euronorris wrote: »

Then I think you either a) have more energy than me in general or b) prioritise sex over sleep. Or a combination of the two.

If I am tired, I will always choose sleep over sex. The other way round sees a poor effort from me that makes the whole thing highly unsatisfying, and probably a little damaging to OH's self esteem.

Hmm I don't know about the energy thing, and yeah I suppose I would choose sex over sleep.....hands down!

MessyMare

Dontknowanymore wrote: »

Hmm I don't know about the energy thing, and yeah I suppose I would choose sex over sleep.....hands down!

Wish I could! Had an unfortunate incident once where I fell asleep during foreplay with an ex. Couldn't help it, it was too relaxing!