MSE Pregnancy Club 23

*Redhead*

Afternoon ladies.

The Scan the other day went reasonably well.

Except I asked the sonographer to check gender again, and he said he thought he saw girl bits :eek: instead of boy bits. Said the first time it could have been the cord that they'd seen.

But he said that the babies legs were closed tight shut, so he could be wrong and not to panic.

Got another scan start of December so he said we'll try to get a definite answer then.

Still, all the measurements are fine and fluid levels are good so that's the important thing.

Hope you're all feelin okay today x

4nnabella

See, this is why I decided to stay team yellow... The thought of being told one thing, planning and buying everything based on that and then ending up with the other is just far too complicated! Much easier to just stay ignorant and then you'll find out for definite when baby arrives!

Blue_Monkey

Lirin - I'm freaking out a bit too. Not so much about the labour/birth (thanks to hypnobirth stuff) but more that everything is going to change and I'm not ready. I started sobbing during dinner the other night because I'm sad that it won't be just me and OH anymore. I feel cross that the most of this pregnancy has been spent sorting out moving rather than just enjoying each others company. I want more time just me and him. It's making me cry again now.

I also feel unprepared in terms of equipment. I don't have a bag packed or really know what to put in it. We want a waterbirth at home and I don't know where to start in terms of hiring/buying a pool. I have 2 measly packets of nappies and want reusables but don't know where to start. I don't think we've got enough clothes for bubba, I haven't got a breast pump or a birthing ball, I haven't got any nice maternity clothes, or any nice non-maternity clothes. I haven't got a freezer - had wanted to batch cook but where would I put it all. Haven't got a car seat. Hell, even our fricking bed is in pieces where it wouldn't go up the stairs. Everything is chaos and madness and I'm not getting anywhere and soon a real live human child will be thrust upon me and I feel guilty that I'm not ready. I don't want to go overdue because that scuppers my home/waterbirth plans, but if the baby comes early, we are seriously screwed and I'm now worried about getting PND because there's so much left to do!

This pregnancy has gone by in a blur. It's been such a rollercoaster and I just want things to go back to normal now. I don't want all this change to happen, I'm not ready. I want to press pause and have some time to take it all in, appreciate it and enjoy it and feel like "right, now is the right time".

Sorry - not sure where all that came from. Now sat here in tears Best go sort myself out as handman coming to fix our leaky sink in a mo.

Aimless

Damn courier isn't coming! I'm glad I rang, if I sat till 9pm waiting I would've been even more fuming than I am already. Apparently he 'won't get round to me' because they're busy. :mad: And I'm going out tomorrow, so my whole day will be stress trying to get ready and watch for the courier, instead of nice and relaxed as I planned.

Blue Monkey, I have no respectable clothes either, I keep looking at nice stuff and then thinking what's the point in buying it for 7 weeks wear! Cos I'm saving anything vaguely good for going away tomorrow, I have on maternity jeans that slide down constantly, and a jumper that won't stay over my bump because it keeps going really low randomly! We've decided to hold off on the car seat for a little while longer, because once I buy it, I'll have to drag it across the country with me in case I pop early, or risk buying it twice. We'll get it once my last trip away is done.

Lucy1973

Earlier this year,we had planned on going to new York for thanksgiving week. Due to falling pregnant we decided to postpone it til LO is here. Hubby still thinks we should go but I'm not sure. What would you do?

jenjade

and breath blue monkey before you turn blue!

sounds like you need to prioritise- Baby needs a car seat and somewhere to sleep! The hospital wont let you leave without baby in a car seat so write a list of what needs getting and put that at the start. as for clothes i wouldnt worry to much as it is easy to get some and you may get given some.

I am also living in choas at the moment with the builder here but it is short term.

4nnabella

Bless you BM, sounds like everything is getting on top of you right now...

I have moments where I feel I'm not ready for this massive change, as much as I have wanted to be a mum for the past few years, now it's actually happening I'm quietly freaking out about all the stuff I haven't been able to do, and now won't be able to do for another 18 years... I worry that OH isn't ready for it either, what with him being four years younger than me (I'm 30, he's 26...) and he'll resent me/the baby for stealing his PS3 time or he won't be able to go out with his mates as much or we won't have any money...

In terms of being prepared equipment-wise... have you looked at the link on the post with the EDD list on, as it has a link to a list for the hospital bag...

There's more I want to put but am about to leave work and OH is on his way round to my desk to will finish this when I get home...

Just take deep breaths, everything will be fiiiiine!

Kira000

Lucy1973 wrote: »

Earlier this year,we had planned on going to new York for thanksgiving week. Due to falling pregnant we decided to postpone it til LO is here. Hubby still thinks we should go but I'm not sure. What would you do?

Have you been to NY before? If not, then bear in mind, It is a HUGE place, easy to underestimate how long it takes to get from place to place! The 3 times when i've been i've found it tiring enough even without being PG!

I think it really depends on what you wanted to do there, and how you want to get around, and how your energy levels are. If you are knackered being at home doing normal stuff, then NY might be a bit much to manage esp with the jet lag. If you are still full of beans, and managing fine at home, then you might be fine, esp if you pace yourselves and take taxis instead of walking..

Gillyx

Afternoon people. Went into town to pick up my snowsuit from Tesco, admitted defeat and got the bus there and back, yes waiting around for buses was tedious but boy do I feel so much better for the not walking. It's only a mile and a bit away too so I feel lazy, but I don't think I can do it any more

Blue Monkey I know the feeling, I have little moments where I'm near tears thinking about the responsibility and what that means for "us" as a couple. I'm 23 and I sometimes wonder if I'm doing the right thing?!?! (that makes me sound horrid ) but it is giving up so much for a tiny little person. Only consolation is as I joke to OH, when we get to 40-ish we're pretty much home free again well not financially but we can do things again... Hmm doesn't seem that close!!

Wonder_Womble

Hey Raven, hope you just have V&D. I felt yucky a few days ago, really queasy and was very loose (sorry TMI!) It seems to be going around. Hope you are ok?

jenjade wrote: »

hey all,

Builder is here today !!! I am off to work ;-) Just thought this time tomorrow i will be living in a 3 bed house ;-)

Right off to work. after today i will have 1 day left!

Ooooh, you jammy dodger I've got 5 working days left. It will be weird walking out of work and thinking I don't have to go back for a year - well apart from being interviewed for my job :eek:

*Ro* wrote: »

P.S

Depending on your mood read this if you are all hormonal and want to weep!!!

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2059502/A-rescue-forget-Baby-elephant-mother-pulled-mud-lagoon-conservation-workers.html

Aaaah, that made me all weepy

Blue_Monkey wrote: »

Lirin - I'm freaking out a bit too. Not so much about the labour/birth (thanks to hypnobirth stuff) but more that everything is going to change and I'm not ready. I started sobbing during dinner the other night because I'm sad that it won't be just me and OH anymore. I feel cross that the most of this pregnancy has been spent sorting out moving rather than just enjoying each others company. I want more time just me and him. It's making me cry again now.

I also feel unprepared in terms of equipment. I don't have a bag packed or really know what to put in it. We want a waterbirth at home and I don't know where to start in terms of hiring/buying a pool. I have 2 measly packets of nappies and want reusables but don't know where to start. I don't think we've got enough clothes for bubba, I haven't got a breast pump or a birthing ball, I haven't got any nice maternity clothes, or any nice non-maternity clothes. I haven't got a freezer - had wanted to batch cook but where would I put it all. Haven't got a car seat. Hell, even our fricking bed is in pieces where it wouldn't go up the stairs. Everything is chaos and madness and I'm not getting anywhere and soon a real live human child will be thrust upon me and I feel guilty that I'm not ready. I don't want to go overdue because that scuppers my home/waterbirth plans, but if the baby comes early, we are seriously screwed and I'm now worried about getting PND because there's so much left to do!

This pregnancy has gone by in a blur. It's been such a rollercoaster and I just want things to go back to normal now. I don't want all this change to happen, I'm not ready. I want to press pause and have some time to take it all in, appreciate it and enjoy it and feel like "right, now is the right time".

Sorry - not sure where all that came from. Now sat here in tears Best go sort myself out as handman coming to fix our leaky sink in a mo.

BM, take a deep breath and remember you just feel like this because you are currently hormonally challenged. Give yourself a break, you have gone through so much change in the past 8 months and anyone would struggle with that without all the hormones on top. All your baby needs is to be fed, be warm, and be loved and cuddled. As Jenjade said, your carseat is the priority, anything else can be bought as and when needed. Also you need to sort your birthing pool if you are planning a home birth. Get yourself another few packs of nappies to tide you over the first few weeks until you get sorted with reusables. I can send you my hospital bag list if you like, or as Jen says there is a link to a list on the very first post on this thread. You don't need a breast pump or birthing ball. No point buying maternity clothes, you are due in 4 weeks or so. Batch cooking isn't essential, so if you don't get it done then so be it, you will survive. It doesn't matter that your bed is in bits. You will be bought clothes for baby and probably vouchers so you can buy things you need with those. You will get sorted, but until you do, remember babies don't want much other than food, heat and cuddles.